I want to make him feel like a man, but I act like a boy.

alluringjustice · 2020-01-13T03:23:10+00:00

This guy doesn’t go to school or work, meanwhile you’re in med school, working and keeping fit... and you still do his laundry, cook for him, take care of his house and act like his personal assistant? Sis you could grow a dick and this guy wouldn’t dump you, he’s got a personal bangmaid at hand. You’re so busy building your life and maintaining his that with his schedule that solely consists of bodybuilding he’ll have no problems fucking other women without you knowing. Although your standards for him are so low that even if you did find out you’d probably still keep him around. So just keep doing what your doing, he’d literally be a fool to leave you.

hells_carebear · 2020-01-12T22:15:01+00:00

You don't have to be a dainty delicate women who needs saving all the time. Just slowly open up to him. No matter how masculine you are you still should be allowed to speak of your feelings including that you feel smothered. Talking kindly and nicely goes for anyone not just red pill women. Red pill is just a tool box. Take whatever tools from it you want and apply it to your life. You do the duties of a woman already on top of going to school. You are not only getting an education but you also clean, cook, and are a helpful amazing person. People might tell you you need to be this all feminine beauty that needs to wear dresses. You don't have to if you're not comfortable. I LOVE wearing dresses and being all pretty and dolled up. That's my preference but it may not be yours or someone else's and that's okay. If you really want to try and be more feminine try doing some light makeup to enhance your natural beauty. Maybe wear a dress on a date. Doesn't have to be pink and cutesy.

GlitterThat · 2020-01-12T23:04:27+00:00

This was legitimately me in the beginning of my relationship. But he’s made me like him now and I’m so much happier now because of it! The way he acts with you is most likely his love language, so acting that way (in small ways, slowly) will make him happier and you too for fulfilling him. It’ll take a while but it’ll happen!

BePrivateGirl · 2020-01-13T01:28:10+00:00

There are two books that can help you.

The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle can help you surrender your masculine traits. If you surrendering creates a void, give him space and opportunity to fill it.

Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin can help you cultivate your femininity. u/JanuaryArya led a book club on this sub last year.

It has a lot of good advice.

Finally, I’ve only read three paragraphs about your relationship, so my advice might be harsh, or completely wrong, but men who smother me with affection TURN ME OFF! I recommend the first book for creating the void and allowing him to fulfill his masculine role. I recommend the second book for communicating to him in a respectful feminine way, that won’t damage his ego or harden his heart, that it bothers you.

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2020-01-13T03:30:29+00:00

Your feelings on emotions and vulnerability sounds like you're Dismissive Avoidant. I'd learn about attachment theory before you continue growing your relationship.

SteroidsFreak · 2020-01-13T06:33:43+00:00

I know exactly what you're talking about. My Girlfriend is exactly the same way as you. Now we've been together for 2 years and have found that nothing is wrong with either of us, it's just that were opposites and as the saying goes "opposites attract," if you want. The reason behind this is because you OP are what's known as a "Logical" person. You're more focused based, get shit done no matter what it takes nor the cost. "He" I'm assuming is more "Emotional" based. I don't know your boyfriend but I personally am more of known as the "entertainer," the fun guy, the loud guy, etc. Do I have emotions? You bet I do. Are you emotion based? I doubt it since you're self-driven. Based on my personal experience, I know I'm assertive when it comes down to it, but I also let me girlfriend make choices. Not because I'm beta/weak/etc. But because I like to hear what my partner has to say. I see my girlfriend on the same playing field as I am, were both on the same spectrum.

I do admit, she's a very confident women and she's the second women who I have met in my life who is very confident, self-driven, doesn't need validation nor does she need someone telling her what to do. Both of us do help each other out, support each other and are both self-driven and have goals, ambition. Your boyfriend needs to find a goal and stick to it, because the more he relies on you to make decisions, the more needy he will start getting. Basically he's getting too comfortable where he's at which is why he's sounding the way he is. If you have anymorr questions shoot me a DM

ZigZagProton · 2020-01-13T04:52:33+00:00

Weird situation. So you like to act like a man for some weird reason and he wants a gf that is more femine but simply won’t dump you. What a waste of time for both of you.

pearlsandstilettos · 2020-01-13T01:20:09+00:00

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Title	I want to make him feel like a man, but I act like a boy.
Author	hatso225
Upvotes	43
Comments	24
Date	January 12, 2020 9:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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