Need to vent

akihonj · 2020-01-08T22:28:29+00:00

Ok as a man here who has dealt with somebody with bipolar disorders I want you to listen very carefully.

Everything that you're going through is normal. Wanting to be free of the meds, to be yourself and to get rid of your depression is normal.

Don't stop taking the meds, seriously don't stop and when you do eventually get to the point with them where you feel normal you'll want to stop because you will think that it's all fixed but that's the meds actually working and you cannot stop taking them or you'll go right back to how it was before.

I understand that for you each day is just another day, you won't and don't see your behaviour and how it affects you and others around you. The meds will help you to understand but it's going to take time.

What works for one person might not work for you, each person has to find a routine that works, a set of meds and dosage amounts that work, it takes time to get the right combination and you have to try to be patient with it because no two people are the same so no one dosage will work for all.

Keep going with the therapy and the trials of the meds, dosage, times to take them and combinations of meds eventually they will be able to narrow down the right ones and how to take them but it's does take time.

You can lead a perfectly normal and happy life, it's just maybe in your case your brain is wired slightly differently to everyone else and the meds help with your brain chemistry. But you will only lead this normal life that you want if you keep going with the meds

You will have periods where you feel nothing at all, absolutely nothing totally emotionless, that's also normal but for you all you have is the raw emotion that your currently dealing with, those times when you don't feel anything will certainly make you feel as though there is nothing to live for nor to look forward to, don't worry and don't try to make yourself feel that's the meds starting to do their job and your emotions will level out and return in time but it takes time.

You will also still have periods where you feel low again this is actually normal but again you aren't used to it because you only feel low at the moment. Those times though will become more like those for us normals, they will pass far sooner than they do and they will be less deeper than they are now.

You have to keep going with your therapist and doctors and trust that they are looking out for you and trying to help, it does take time and I understand that you are wondering how much longer, that you can't see any point and you just want it all to go away but it won't go away it will get easier and manageable but it takes work.

hisdhakini · 2020-01-08T23:49:18+00:00

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0005000f · 2020-01-09T01:24:02+00:00

Hey girl... I went through a lot of depression during college and a few years after. For me things slowly got better as I learned to take better care of myself, which I believe is part of RP philosophy. On and off meds for years, sometimes feeling like I want to scream "I don't want to take these pills for the rest of my life!!!" and other times thinking I should really get back on them. The bad news is, you will probably have this battle for the rest of your life. The good news is 2-part! It IS manageable without medication. You have to learn how to take care of your own well being, and only you can do it. Maybe it involves exercising, maybe it doesn't. It definitely involves bubble baths, facials, reading, and leaving the house. And it WILL get better with time, especially once you're done with school.

2020-01-09T02:18:00+00:00

Work out, eat right, get sunshine, 5-htp

ikfl · 2020-01-09T09:03:31+00:00

There’s a lot of things you can do to help your depression, but you probably have a good handle on those things and know what needs to be done. Therapy, exercise, sunlight, keeping your environment and body tidy etc. I’m going to tell you something that’s not fun, but this is what I would want to tell myself at 20: you might be depressed and sick for a long time. Years and years to come. The more you try to repress that you are -actually- sick and pretend that you’re going to get out of this rut quickly, the harder it will be to actually do so.

I’m 27 now and have suffered with my mental health for over 10 years. It’s only now starting to get better, and it’s still very dark most days. The key, I’ve found, is to radically accept that this is a part of who I am. I will probably suffer from this for the rest of my life. This is okay, and normal for me. There’s no reason to put a stopper on my life and halt everything, I am still growing and am still a valuable person with a good head of my shoulders. This innate drive of mine to constantly improve and become better than I was is what will move me forward, NOT berating myself and wishing that I was a different person with a different life. I am who I am, and this is my life. I am where I am at right now and this cannot be changed. The future will only be changed if I do the hard work, struggle everyday until it doesn’t feel like such a struggle anymore and keep going even on the days I hate myself and wish I were different. This includes most days.

The progress is slow and I have a hard time accepting that my particular set of genetics is going to make me move forward at a slower pace than that of many people around me. However. This is my reality. Just as some people are born without legs I am born with being prone to melancholy, anxiety and long bouts of depression. It’s not an excuse to give up but you also have to accept that this is the boat you’re in. Deal with the cards as they have been dealt to you and slowly make your way forward. You will become a stronger person with a wider understanding of the world, even if you didn’t come by it the way you wanted to.

Maybe this doesn’t help you at all, but I hope some part of it will. You have to live in your body for the rest of your life, take care of it and be grateful that you are wise enough to understand that you need to step up and do something about it.

jonmarli · 2020-01-10T01:33:39+00:00

Depression and anxiety have been companions for me since puberty. I view managing them to be just like managing diabetes, a thyroid problem or whatever other shitty health conditions some people get stuck with. Once you've got the most serious symptoms under control, you still need to constantly maintain your health. Fortunately, some of the best things for depression and anxiety are also just great for you in general. Seek out exercise, plenty of sleep, good diet, supportive relationships, rewarding hobbies, time outdoors, and yes, therapy and medication when lifestyle changes aren't enough to keep your disorder under control.

Depression sucks. But it is also just another disease or disorder and you won't get any better just by being angry at it or hating yourself. In fact, use it as an extra reason to be proud of your achievements. You have an extra obstacle to success and that just makes your successes that much more badass.

Continue getting help, and use the best tools available to you to be healthy. There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and only your determination and strength to admire.

Pola_Lita · 2020-01-08T22:32:16+00:00

AFAIK, some depression is situational and a one time thing, while some isn't ever curable but more like diabetes in that it can be very amenable to coping strategies, allowing a person to live just like anyone else. Best to do some research on the matter and see if you can identify which type you suffer from.

This is just guessing, but I think once you get your depression really under control, your weight won't even be an issue. Good luck to you. :)

Title	Need to vent
Author	danyixa
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Date	January 8, 2020 10:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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