How to stop being the workplace bitch?

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January 14, 2020

I’m in the military and I got to my permanent work center 7-8 months ago.

We have multiple shifts that are split up among supervisors and workers. We have about 12 supervisors total and about 20 workers.

I fucked up by being too enthusiastic about learning about my job in the beginning. And now it’s coming to bite me in the ass. I have social proof with about 5 of the supervisors, and they try to split the work load up equally among the workers on that shift, or they give the brain dead jobs to the newer guys.

However the other 7 or so supervisors are repeatedly fucking me over and are playing favorites whenever I’m on their shift. They send me to one job, the rest of the workers are just chilling on their phones. I come back from the job, and instantly “hey SplotBoi, you need to go do blah blah blah”. And the 2 supervisors that do this the most are both female.

I’ve tried multiple approaches, saying no, pointing at the other workers not doing shit, just leaving. Nothing fucking works, at this point I’m just the workplace bitch. And I can’t be disrespectful to them since they are a higher rank and can easily make it worse for me.

If anyone has a similar situation, how did/do you deal with it?

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Title How to stop being the workplace bitch?
Author SplotBoi
Upvotes 87
Comments 78
Date 14 January 2020 10:55 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'd add to that, Never Split the Difference, by Chris Voss

People don't realize that negotiation happens all the time. Learning to play the games of power will definitely help anyones career.

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[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd recommend his book to anyone. Call it emotional intelligence, the 10000-hour rule, talent, etc. He came about his skillset through years of training and trial and error. It's actually encouraging because you'd think he's a natural, but in a lot of ways, he's just been grinding at it for years. Give you confidence that anyone can do it with practice. From my standpoint it's definitely helped my career.

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

good insight will look into this book

[–]purplestuff119 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

What this guy said. Every employer wants a yes man to dump all the extra work on. Don't act like one. I had my boss's boss tell me to hurry up cause we were busy the other day. Ignored him then worked a little faster once I was out of sight. The second it stopped being busy I went back to my calm pace of doing everything right and not rushing. Guess who wasn't asked to work a double. Really thought I'd be fired after so many years of this but people notice when you do good work reliably.

[–]Pockyaf177 points178 points  (10 children) | Copy

Coming from a prior active duty member.

You agreed to be uncle sam's subservient cuckboi when you decided to join the military.

[–]JRSBOOM1323 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

This unfortunately but everyone has a limit and fist fights still settle beefs. I sure hope our military still throws down when need be. You need to send a message and quick.

[–]Shadowstik8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nothing like a little chat by the paint locker

[–]JRSBOOM131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]SplotBoi[S] 29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hopefully i get med-boarded pretty soon

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

This speaks volumes about your situation.

[–]MakoShark936 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well...I get, tho. No college degree and struggle or no college degree and have free healthcare for you and your family and eventually free college if you stay in for just a short time.

[–]Pluglord1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ll pass

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This side steps the real issue because there are plenty of people in the military that are not the team bitch

[–]Original_Dankster0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bingo. This exactly. Enjoy the suck.

[–]Highly_Native38 points39 points  (11 children) | Copy

Marine here, just pt better than everyone else and lift weights. When you’re better than everyone else at that you’ll have the upper echelon as you can threaten them with 0530 PT ruck runs. Worked for me.

[–]SplotBoi[S] 19 points20 points  (10 children) | Copy

We don’t do that shit in the navy. PFT once a year and it doesn’t mean anything

[–]Highly_Native34 points35 points  (2 children) | Copy

That’s the point, tell them you want to run PT. If they say no, bring it to the next level in your COC and tell them your shop refuses to do PT. Like we always had respect for the strongest and most fittest dude in the shop.

[–]SplotBoi[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m definitely lifting and attempting to grain weight. But they’re not going to mandate pt for the entire squadron, they try it every year, only the people on FEP show up but that’s because they have to.

[–]Highly_Native13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not squadron PT, shop PT lol. Unless for some weird reason you don’t work in a shop.

[–]Gawernator13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

I was navy intel 6 years. Multiple units I was in did group PT. Why don’t you be the change you want to see, start up some PT. Show leadership

[–]Gandalf321 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was also Navy Intel, I know that grind.

[–]Gawernator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It is a good job. Could vary a lot depending on your sub specialty

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Better yet, let he others turn to flabby faggots, while you get buff?

[–]Gawernator-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s not good leadership. Showing that you increased the strength of your entire unit reflects MUCH better than watching everyone else fail.

[–]JRSBOOM134 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then lift weights.

[–]Theebenedetto2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Different commands but we PT’d 3 times a week when I was in the Navy just 8 years ago. Irrelevant to your OP though.

What’s your job?

[–]torchgrip21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy

Was in the same boat as you. I just put my head down and did my work when my NCO told me what to do. This will benefit you in the future. How? Your work ethic will be so accustomed to this that you’ll be a hard mf by the end. Hard work pays off man. My chain of command later realized how hard I was working and started slotting me for different schools while all the betas are back in the smoke pit not doing shit. What sounds better to you?

[–]SplotBoi[S] 13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

A guy in my shop was mapped to e5 for doing nothing. The military doesn’t pay off for having good work ethic, it pays off more to have connections and to befriend people who are involved with promotions

[–]4Sammich14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now you’re getting it.

If that job takes 1 hr, make it last 2. Stop being efficient and with purpose. That shit is for when people are shooting at you.

[–]poopdeck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's all jobs, my child

[–]covertpenguin33909 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a current commander, assuming you’re in the US, document everything for a month. Then have a third party look at it to make sure you’re not just losing your mind being a whiny bitch. Assuming someone half intelligent agrees with your complaint, open door your commander and say the next stop is an EO complaint. If i found out half my unit was jacking it on their cell phone while one joe did literally everything i would be livid if it wasn’t for just some new guy initial hazing. That’s a nuclear option and i only recommend it if the work they make you do is way more than one person should bare or if you are truly being singled out to an out of control degree. If you don’t feel this hill is worth dying on it, which only you know this, then just do the work and hope the good NCOs are on your shift more often. Hard to give you a solid answer because I’ve only heard your side of the story and there’s always another.

[–]Duzand9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

I got the fuck out as soon as I could. Honestly, I felt like I had two options if I wanted to stay in: 1) Keeping playing the role of golden boy willing to sacrifice himself just so a higher-up can take credit and avoid work, or 2) Become a dirtbag and hide behind a plethora of red-tape that protects shitty soldiers.

[–]SplotBoi[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I realize that now, and my fuck up was being too enthusiastic at first. Should’ve been a shitbag the entire time and this wouldn’t have happened. Crazy how everyone has the same experience.

[–]Highly_Native2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I feel like you’re taking that a little too deep. Being a shitbag means no one will rely on you because they know you suck and they’ll just fuck with you from then on. You have to find the in between of being motivated and being a shitbag. Or you can just be a PT stud and not be messed with.

[–]Ditario0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I realize that now, and my fuck up was being too enthusiastic at first.

See my other comment, this is a good thing and helps you out. Being enthusiastic about the job does not mean sucking your WCS/LPO/Chief's cock.

[–]IXseed8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Prior military here

You're fucked my guy. Rank means all in the service. Even if you came off as this "Alpha" type they just take one look at your sleeve and laugh in your face

Also the guys I know that pulled that shit didn't make it past their first enlistment.

Shut up and color, and try to PCS

[–]drypumpkin2013 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Junior enlisted complaining about being mistreated.

Water is also wet.

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

you have 7 supervisors... Find a job where you have 1 ffs

[–]SplotBoi[S] 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

That’s the military for you

[–]Mr-Ed2094 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the Gervais Principle for all there ever needs to be known about workplace dynamics.

In short, just fucking chill out. If you're being asked to do stuff, get it done but just take some time. You don't need to become all dominant and alpha; just stretch things out so you're not working into smoke breaks/lunches etc. Your bosses have no real idea of how busy or how idle you are, they simply see the end result for a lot of things. The reason this likely happed is you were probably finishing work ahead of schedule and they gave you extra tasks to fill your time and also so you were out of the way. Your bosses don't really care, they're in it for a pay check just like you and they will do whatever makes their work day as easy as possible.

[–]aLL1HU2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Read or listen to the book Power by Jeffrey Pfeffer, it's much less theoretical than Robert Greene's book which is excellent but needs interpretation.

In the book, it outlines what you need to do to get noticed by the right people and pave a path for yourself.

It works.

If you're just looking to get out of work, because you see other losers doing that, then this isn't for you. But if you're looking to get the credit you deserve for doing good work, then you need to have a plan.

Just like we have to develop a MAP in MRP, run the levels of dread, and learn game, we need to have a 1 year, 5 year, and 10 year plan for our careers.

Your network is your net worth, so if you're one of those guys that believes you should be treated fairly or that your work should speak for itself, then you will face the anger phase like we do in trp when realizing the truth.

Learn the game of power, then make a plan, then execute that plan. In the meantime, do not expose yourself by complaining or making a big deal at work.

So find out what you want out of your career, make a plan for it, find out who the people are that can get you there, and build relationships with them. It can be as simple as reaching out and asking a superior for mentorship.

Before long, you'll find that you will be in a position to prove your worth and be recognized for it.

[–]MakoShark932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is it as simple as just asking, "Can you mentor me?"

[–]schielegirl5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Get swoll. No one fux with swoll guys. They just dont

[–]MakoShark934 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Skinny bois gonna try tho.

[–]Ditario2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey I read a few of your comments and stopped.

In the Navy it's the easiest to not be the fucking dumbass that works harder. Half the people do not work out so lifting is the easiest to stand out.

2ndly when it comes to standing out, you grab one of the new guys and bring them with you. Make them write down the steps you took and then you make them do it. The next time you are tasked, you go take them.

The Navy is literally the easiest place for TRP and 48 Laws of Power to excel.

1 EP for days, then go Commission with it and make easy money with one of the last jobs that has a pension.

PM me if you want some specific guidance.

Shit is the easiest gig if played right.

[–]ErectileDistention2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you're in a deadbeat shop with deadbeat people. If you try to go all captain America on them with no authority it won't be pretty. So chill and try to move somewhere people give a fuck.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

Put your head down and do your job.

What the other employees are doing, your perceived inequality, your tantrums? Guess what they're doing?...getting you more inequality because you're acting like a little bitch.

It's not your job to monitor supervisor decisions or workflow inequality.

STFU, do the work.

It's work. Do your job. Yeah, it sucks.

You will always find something to complain about if you go looking for it.

Ever think maybe they're always sending you away because you're miserable to be around?

[–]SplotBoi[S] 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Like I said, I have majority of the workers as my friends and half of the supervisors as good friends too. This is a problem with mainly 2 supervisors.

If I was getting paid for the amount of work I’m doing, I wouldn’t be complaining. All the workers get paid the same, except I’m the one carrying majority of the work load for that shift. That’s the part that’s pissing me off the most.

And it is my job to monitor supervisor decisions, because everyone in the shop signed the same contract, and nepotism is definitely not part of it.

[–]Foolishoe4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

"And it is my job to monitor supervisor decisions, because everyone in the shop signed the same contract, and nepotism is definitely not part of it. "

I think you are mistaken about how hierarchy works. You can believe all the rules stated are all the rules there are, but there are unspoken rules that you are pretending don't exist here. You need to recognize you are missing something, life is unfair, and the one thing you have recognized is you are currently getting fucked.

It wont last forever, keep adapting and trying solutions. Certainly continue improving yourself, and like others have stated, ask people in equal or higher positions in the military about your issue and the best solutions.

[–]PrayShes181 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

However the other 7 or so supervisors are repeatedly fucking me over and are playing favorites whenever I’m on their shift. They send me to one job, the rest of the workers are just chilling on their phones. I come back from the job, and instantly “hey SplotBoi, you need to go do blah blah blah”.

I see zero issues with this. Does your branch have enlisted personnel go up for quarterly awards and decorations? If so, get your name out there as you're being the main individual on tasks. Use your time in the mil to get more and more experience so you can have something to translate in the civilian sector once you get out. The more shit you do, the more tasks under your resume you'll have.

[–]SplotBoi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My shop promoted one of those “on the phone” guys this past map cycle

[–]svenfromaccounting1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get posted out, get promoted, take the shit and head down while you're in that current post.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorFieldLine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m in the military

Looks like you are SOL, mein freund.

[–]AceMav213 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Show your female supervisors how alpha you are so you can fuck them.

[–]Psilotheos2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Only thing might be to do is suck it up, the workplace takes advantage of the best of us. Every job I’ve had they’ve made me the bitch also. Remember: having haters is a good thing, even if it can be the most dreadful thing.

[–]frappuccinoCoin5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is bad advice all-around.

[–]blaseee2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree, suck it up? Fuck no, What do we learn on TRP?

[–]WiterS20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m in the military [...]

I’ve tried multiple approaches, saying no

"We are being bombarded, Grab that shit, and put it there!"

"No! I'm asserting my independence"

[–]Fiendorfoes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah bro I understand they ur boss n shit, but your a man and they are women, you need to pick and choose your fights carefully, I.e don’t just blow the fuck up cuz u got a worse job than someone else, but also don’t be taken advantage of. If it means u get the shit end of the stick for a couple days cuz you “lost your shit on a superior officer” so be it. They can’t kick you out unless u kill someone or similar offense. So just blow the fuck up and get it off ur chest and walk out. Then come back next day and take ur punishment if any with no comment or words. If no punishment then you’ve made your point. If nothing changes do it again

[–]Talky510 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pick a special forces course and grow some nuts.

[–]soggynugget690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is perhaps... the curse of competence

[–]OfficerWade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"B e all that you can, in the army"

oh , please

Its just a ploy to get vulnerable men with no direction.

[–]goldenpoopstain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep taking it up you chain. I'm talking e7, or hod if you need to

[–]JRSBOOM13-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my world I’d fuck someone up for talking to me like that. You are unfortunately in a bad spot. You need to think of some way to fuck them over. You have no choice but to get nasty somehow. Set someone up, I’d even trip someone on purpose just to try and get them to react. You gotta get a little crazy.

[–]genital-love-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

go off on somebody, get fired

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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