Over 20+ years of dating, I have experienced a half-dozen or more women, and observed many more, who will begin at some point in the relationship, to commonly talk and act in a very childlike/childish way in certain circumstances. This includes employing a very high pitched, childlike voice, simpler word and sentence structure, using kid words "potty, din-din, etc" more emotionalized pronunciation of words, shrieking, laughing differently (a little-kid giggle), etc.
At some point, most women will have moments of this child-talk, but in emotionally healthy women, it's usually not a sustained, common feature. A prevalence of baby-talk may be a red flag. Even if it isn't a red flag, frequent baby-talk can be severely annoying as well as anti-sexual, anti-passion. A few things to consider about baby talk:
Circumstances where it appears:
Baby talk shows up often when a woman is either happy & contented, and will coo as if a young child, or when coyly pouting in an attempt to get her way. There may be other circumstances when women will baby-talk.
Reasons why women might baby talk:
In the context dating & relationships, I believe baby-talk appears for three reasons.
1: Obvious Freudian overtones: women with mild daddy issues will often revert to baby-talk when faced with a situation that reminds her of psychological wounds that she associates with her father. For example, women who have abandonment issues will baby-talk when fearing abandonment from the man she's dating. This represents an issue of comfort and security in the relationship. (A plate may be a relationship. As psychology defines it, any human interaction is a form of relationship.)
In this scenario, the male in the relationship is typically quite masculine and, relative to the woman, holding higher SMV. Baby-talk will be heightened when she's insecure about the relationship. In this scenario, baby-talk will almost often disappear when becoming sexual, and/or when more comfort is established.
Baby talk is a yellow flag here, perhaps indicating she needs a bit more comfort and feelings of security. However if you're attempting to run Dread game, it's a sign you're succeeding.
2: Women may baby-talk because her partner isn't masculine enough. In this scenario, babytalk may be a subconscious attempt to draw out a more paternal, masculine presence from the man in her life. This may be identified by an extreme childlike affect from the woman, possibly when acting out or shit-testing, which disappears when her partner's more masculine, paternal persona emerges. I use the word partner here because this seems to happen more in monogamous LTRs as opposed to with plates or booty calls. In this scenario, when that masculine energy arrives and intimacy begins, the baby talk will cease in favor of a more adult female sexual presence.
This is a sign the relationship needs more sexual polarity, she needs to be dominated more, and/or led more to submission.
3: Baby talk that intensifies when becoming sexual may be a sign of a history of more significant or early sexual abuse, and may signify that those sexual issues haven't been adequately adressed. These are a big red flag for LTR. In theory, a history of sexual abuse may not be a total LTR no-fly zone, if a woman has addressed it and grown past the hurt and shame. I have met women like this, however, in practice, this display of emotional intelligence and resilience is uncommon at best.
What do do about baby talk:
If you're a guy who enjoys the daddy-play, who likes that sort of innocence or (more properly) pseudo-innocence in women, have at it, make her call you daddy, etc.
Personally I don't enjoy baby-talk, especially in an LTR. Though I'm as attracted to the 22-year old fresh-faced hotties as any man, I respond most strongly to the signs of sexual maturity--pubic hair, mature voice and mannerisms, etc. My experience has been that women who baby-talk act immature and stupid in other ways. I dislike immature and stupid women, even if very attractive physically.
My solution then is to call her out for her babytalk. I'll ask her straight away--do you notice you're babytalking right now? Why are you doing that?
Often, she may not realize she's doing it, but once you make her aware of it, a self-aware woman will often be able to notice the underlying motivations behind that kind of behavior. Women who can both hear this criticism without defensiveness and self-correct are better suited for LTRs.
The type-3, unresolved sexual trauma girls may actually take the call-out as a come-on, and turn up the sexual heat. If that's your bag, then give her what she wants, but just be very careful about LTRing chicks like this. They are often especially volatile & may have other related psychological issues (borderline personality, for example), and may do ridiculously stupid things in order to rationalize some sort of hamster-ized congruence. These may include: false rape allegations, divorce rape, familial alienation, etc.
From personal experience, the women worth keeping around will take to heart the admonishment not to baby-talk, and will admire your forthright nature and masculine leadership. The ones who get butthurt, or who respond in some other negative fashion are probably best filtered through the lens of "NEXT!", for your own sanity.
edited for clarity.
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