The Girlfriend Tax. A term I have never been exposed to but a concept I knew all to well.

I was first introduced to this term about 4 months ago by non-other than my fiancée. She made it an admit adamant point to put in her share of effort even if I was one left footing the bill. While she would cook, clean, perform some other service, or just repay me in cash so she always makes an effort to be an equal participant in what ever shenanigans we get into. This got me thinking about my past relationships.

There is a huge and obvious difference between her and every other woman I've been involved with; she is NOT from the U.S. I have a feeling she is a sum of her life experiences and not a product of society. I don't know if her citizenship to another country is relevant, but this post isn't about her.

What I want to discuss, and share with others, is our time and money with women. My most recent EX-gf (the one before my current SO) had a disillusioned view of "shared effort" where if I took her out to dinner, I would pay and she would happily smile at me and grin and hold my hand as we talked. However if she took me somewhere, she would not hesitate to ask "let's split this." Not once, not a single time did she offer to split a tab in our year long relationship when I initiated the date.

What is The Girlfriend Tax? Looking at urban dictionary, there are two half-assed explanations to the issue. It is not talked about, because it does not have a voice. The Red Pill can give it a voice; we can educate young men that taxation without reprisentation is as relevant now as it was 200+ years ago. Something to remember, there are always going to be taxes to pay, try to minimize yours.

TRP preaches this from the roof tops: "you are not a walking ATM!"

Dating is basic economics. Person A wants service X from person B, person B uses resource Y and person A uses resouce Z to make a prearranged exchange for service X.

On dates 1 and 2 (and sometimes 3) the guy (A) wants a date (X) from a woman (B), and she uses time (Y) while he uses money (Z) make the date happen(X). He is paying his money for her time.

She has what he wants. Now, as long as both sides of the equation roughly balance out, you have a stable goods/services trade off and the relationship will can remain in equilibrium. This is what happens when you see women picking up the second date tab, or her cleaning his kitchen or apartment or w/e. Same goes the other way, she provides a service (cooking dinner) and he is more apt to clean the dishes or do those 3 loads of laundry. The balance is maintained.

After a certain point, one of the two parties shifts economic want or need. This is where the economic disparity of the Girlfriend Tax comes into play.

(We all know this scenario, I've personally experienced it) Following the formula, she is use to the gender rolls of the guy plans and pays for the date, but she asks you out on a date and you, and as the guy, you come up with the date plan as well as foot the bill, but she is requesting your time and you are spending your money, the equation is imbalanced and that imbalance is the tax.

Let's look at another scenario (I've personally been in, an maybe some of you) - she sets up a date; she suggests dinner at your place. You pickup food and cook it (money+time), she comes over for the date. The goods and services was not balanced, she suggested the date but played no part in its realization, she spent minimal resources (gas and time) then left you to manage the domestic duties alone. Girlfriend taxed.

Last example (I'll keep it short, again I've experienced), she stays at your home/apartment for the weekend. Clothes, hair, dirty dishes, and whatever else mess she contributes to your home then tells you that you should maintain you living space. She contributed to the mess but the service is not balanced since you gain nothing while you spend your time and energy cleaning up after her. Girlfriend Taxed.(This relationship lasted only 3 months before I ended it. There were other contributing factors, but this was one of the easy red flags)

I want to note that while sex is a service, it is not to be traded because once you treat sex as a commidity, you lose control of your own self worth. Besides, both parties benefit from sex, not just one person. Sex is not currency, it is not a weapon, it is not a tool. I've been on the receiving end of "services rendered" sex and it is boring and pitiful because I knew she didn't want to be there and it showed in her starfish attitude, but she felt obligated to "reward" me for how things played out that day.

The Girlfriend Tax, putting a name to the issue helps to watch for it. Maintaining a watchful eye for the subtle ways you get taxed help to cut the women who are not worth your time. The women who are high maintainence, needy, jealous, controlling, and vindictive display signs of taxation and the worse they are the higher the tax will be.

It comes down to how much tax are you willing to pay, and you are your own representative. Ask yourself if you can, or even want to, afford her tax, and let your voice be heard. Don't let yourself be taken advantage of, you are responsible for your happiness, success, and ultimately your life.

Edit: words and grammar

edit 2: If it wasn't clear that this is a Hard Mode RP idea, it is, as evidence to my admittance to a fiancee. I've done my time on the easy road and its behind me.