Why does nexting/ignoring girls work?

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March 3, 2020

So i had alot of times where i fucked a girl or didn’t, went to dates with etc.

That starts flaking and not rescheduling etc etc. So i next them or ignore them and focus on other girls.

But after 1 - 3 weeks or even 6 months later they start texting or calling me back.

Whats the reason if they are low interest that they reiniate contact? I never validate them when texting so i dont think thats the reason.

What do you guys think?

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Title Why does nexting/ignoring girls work?
Author Sergelano
Upvotes 139
Comments 55
Date 03 March 2020 02:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/352114
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/fcv9py/why_does_nextingignoring_girls_work/
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[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (1 child) | Copy

Women HATE rejection. They can't deal with it in most cases so they lose. their. minds. Coming back to dump you is a very common MO to take the power back in their mind, even if they don't think of it in such logical terms.

Also, dread. Fear. Lots of negative emotions. Remember also that triggering emotions, good or bad to be honest, makes them massively attracted. Just ask guys who are going through a divorce or breakup, even ones the wives/gf initiated the split, how their soon to be ex's commonly get extra attentive and sexually available all the sudden. If they'd been behaving that wall all along odds are the damn breakup wouldn't be happening in the first place.

Now this isn't the case in every occurrence, but it happens often enough to be noteworthy. In cases where they already have another guy lined up then you may not get the sudden sexual access the relationshpi may have been missing, but there are other things that can occur. One thing I saw first hand is being taken care of by having stuff bought for me (think house supplies) like she wanted to make sure I'd be okay once she left me. Ooookay. Makes no sense, but it is something they often do.

[–]FinancialThanks1252 points253 points  (12 children) | Copy

You don’t next to get them to call back, you next because you have options and don’t need to deal with uncooperative girls.

Girls call you back because they realise this is the behaviour of someone that values his time and attention, a high value man

[–]Sergelano[S] 33 points34 points  (11 children) | Copy

Makes sense, thanks man!

[–]wanker717188 points89 points  (10 children) | Copy

Important note because every comment here is missing the mark by a bit. You next her because you value your time, you are not doing it hoping to get a reaction from her. In other words, you’re doing it for you and not as some weird tactic

[–]imahoaxandacoach46 points47 points  (8 children) | Copy

This guy hit the nail in the head. That's why Models and No More Mr. Nice Guy are the first books to read. If she isnt a FUCK YES about me, she is a no. And I dont have time or interest in lukewarm interactions.

[–]i-am-the-prize26 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy

If she isnt a FUCK YES about me, she is a no

this. there are so many options out there. it's not about every one liking you, it's about polarizing and filtering out the time wasters.

also this is why when in an LTR, the more she knows you're willing to 'walk' the more likely she is to stay interested in you. Black Philip show had a bit on this...

[–]Itsgeneticsbruh9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everyone that follows or is beginning to follow TRP needs to listen to the Black Phillip show. At least one whole episode.

[–]OfficerWade1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Hey, I’ve read those books and I don’t get it. Without saying things like “FUCK YES” how else can I read a girls interest?

When I’m testing for interest. I’m looking for her to be receptive and follow my lead. If I get a girl to at least acknowledge me and open herself up to me is that a fuck yes?

[–]i-am-the-prize7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women don’t say fuck yes. (Well they do when your fucking their brains out) their Version of “fuck yes” is

1- puts you first, even in the most basic ways such as scheduling and priority of attention. 2- she makes sure to stay attractive and be attractive to you 3- laughs at your stupid jokes although that may wear off after the honeymoon 4- sex sex and more sex 5- makes an effort in her feminine ways to please you - such as through cooking or other talents 6- not only doesn’t disrespect you are neg you - but you will find shit-tests giving way to comfort tests (since you’ve already proven to be the real deal at this point she starts worrying about losing you)

[–]Distractingyou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]imahoaxandacoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read about IOIs

[–]VigilantSmartbomb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]iamgroot3330 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yeah but the problem is most guys aren't in the right head space to implement this.

[–]omega_dawg9347 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy

women like dick but they don't value dick.

women can get dick wholesale... cheap & easy. what they truly VALUE is a man's time & attention, esp. after they've given up vagina to him.

so the orbiter who runs after her, supplicates, and is "always there for her" while he gets no sex is laughed at.

don't be an orbiter. never. you're a clown to girls bc they'll waste your time attention and resources (TAR) until you're spent.

the guy who has other shit to do and does not worry with all her bs & drama is worth fighting for in her eyes. women love a challenge and if she can get a man to choose her over other women and get his TAR, he's a man of value.

iow, chase your purpose and goals. the women will follow.

for those who like to read, i offer another take...

girls are born with the idea that they are the center of the universe... it's all about them. the word to describe their outlook is, "solipsism." they FULLY understand that all of their energy should always be focused on what's good for them FIRST and then they might have time/energy for other people. might.

so here we are as men... blue-pill conditioned to go out and find a woman to make her our focus, put her on a pedestal, compliment her daily and shower her with TAR.

Hollywood, tv, parents etc all tell us that's the way to get the girl. EVEN THE GIRL TELLS YOU THAT'S WHAT YOU NEED TO DO! but as i stated, don't listen to girls!

don't listen to females; instead watch their actions. girls don't understand orbiters that make her their "mental point of origin" even AFTER they say that's what you need to do!!! lol. they are punking you out for your TAR WITHOUT giving up their pussy. men fool girls to get pussy... women fool men to get TAR. men try to get as much pussy as possible without giving up too much TAR. women try to get as much TAR as possible while giving up no pussy to the orbiter... chad fucks when he leaves.

don't ever listen to women and their ideas on love, romance, relationships etc. their feelings change like the weather... they don't know wtf they want.

remember, it's in their firmware to make themselves #1. so when a guy makes her his #1, she is confused: 1. he doesn't value himself, and 2. she's capable of taking care of herself; her world already revolves around her.

and here you've arrived... red-pilled and on your purpose. focus and goal-driven and your own mental point of origin.

women FULLY understand that and they're attracted to it. they migrate to men like that bc they do not... NOT want to be your #1 focus. that puts too much pressure on her bc she knows she's an emotional, indecisive, flaky, fickle being and if she's falling apart, how can you help her if you're falling apart too?

her bad day is your bad day. and that turns her off... you're an emotional tampon. STOP DAT SHIT!

you need to be her rock as fleeting thoughts run thru her head all day every day. she WANTS to be a cheerleader not the starting qb.

set your boundaries and tell her what behavior is unacceptable. and then lay out the consequences if she gets out of pocket.

[–]yzeetrA2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

whoa , great read, thanks .

[–]iamgroot3331 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

don't be a time ho

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Wtf is tar

[–]omega_dawg935 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy




[–]sncvc70 points71 points  (7 children) | Copy

I forgot the link for this, but generally ghosting deprives women of emotions. Women run on emotions. It's like cutting off their air supply.

I would read into Coach Corey Wayne's interest scale for women. She was never below 50% interest for you; she simply had better options and backburner'd you. Now she's back after Chad got tired of her. I would next her whore ass.

If she was truly below 50% you would literally never hear from her again.

[–]watchguy456 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

He does a good job with tactics but doesn’t focus on nexting that much.

If she disrespects , ghost

[–]EdvardMunch4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

I think this is incorrect. Its about validation which drives some emotions. They want you to bring affirmation to insecurities. It works better if youre not much of a catch. If youre a hot dude it matches with expectation you wont text back. Thats the whole catty game of value projecting among women. Ever notice how women dont seem to pine over super hot guys? Its almost always 7-8s.

[–]sncvc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

These are great points

[–]mickey__0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

They want you to bring affirmation to insecurities. It works better if youre not much of a catch. If youre a hot dude it matches with expectation you wont text back. Thats the whole catty game of value projecting among women. Ever notice how women dont seem to pine over super hot guys? Its almost always 7-8s.


[–]EdvardMunch1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

If a man is very attractive a woman can brush off his disinterest far easier than a guy below her level.

So for instance in her head a dude who clearly should be all over here isn't, it drives her nuts. Pickup is a game for nerds and slightly less attractive dudes.

Hot dudes don't neg girls for this reason. Make sense? Negging worked/works because it strikes at validation and creates intrigue.

Girls can get emotional support all fucking day, what they cant get is why Chris, the guy who isnt a knockout, doesnt even care.

And ill argue the reason why super soft guys are getting with hotter women is because those girls are insecure. One of the most frightening things about having something great is the thought of losing it. That fear drives the economy largely.

[–]mickey__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]trpthrowaway95_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

find it, lol

[–]Mobile_Pepper32 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

Theyre programmed to go apeshit over a guy who does. Usually they assume they’re going to have to ignore or tell a guy to leave them alone. Suddenly it becomes “wait, wtf, he must have options and other important shit going on, why am I not one of them??”

[–]Greek-God-Brody8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Theyre programmed to go apeshit over a guy who does.

Only if she's super attracted / interested in that guy. Else they care little

[–]Mobile_Pepper3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

your attitude sucks dude. You should view it as, “any girl is a girl who wants to get drilled.”

[–]thrwy754799 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

In some cases, you might have great chemistry, and hit it off.

Generally though, at the beginning, both sides are exploring their options more than they're exploring each other.

There's not enough investment that anyone's nexting.

[–]wawakaka27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Chad dumped them so now they looking for you

If Chad gave them a kid the first thing they'll ask you is how much money you making

Just saw a video from better bachelor where a woman got 10 thousand tinder matches in like a month

So if she goes cold then she's busy somewhere else

[–]Distractingyou7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look guys even if emotional independence is hard and you feel like i just want to keep talking to her you will feel proud that you let her go and that you are progressing more than 90% of man

[–]muricanwerewolf114 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Often the reason or reasons a woman is low interest are not apparent, don’t make any sense, and can even have nothing to do with you. So understanding that why do they come back? Because you exhibited high value behavior/ don’t exhibit low value behavior. Women also appreciate a guy who fucks off when she’s obviously got other priorities. So she feels safe reaching out that you won’t be a spaz, but intrigued that you seemed to not give a shit when she flaked.

Also, reading the comments, some of the fellas here need to let go of that red pill rage and get with it. All women are like this, and they don’t owe you shit after a first date, even if you did fuck. This is the game, learn to play it.

[–]mraees934 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same as we love some action or sex they love attention. We hungry when we don't get action or sex, they're hungry when they don't get attention.

[–]Domebeers4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

lots of reasons, can boil it down to women like to be treated 'badly'. Shows you aren't going to want to marry them after one date.

[–]cglehosit5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Oh wow the guys who pander to me are super lame, and this guy was too busy for me?? Huh I wonder why, he’s kinda interesting to me now! Maybe I’ll try him again.”

[–]mrmaskfawkes3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ego, it's no different than a guy getting hung up on some girl that outright rejects them. Most women are use to men being interested in them over and over, but when someone doesn't think thier worth the time of day that a blow so as a result they might feel like chasing after a guy.

[–]2319Skew18 points19 points  (5 children) | Copy

What's the side bar say?

[–]empatheticapathetic24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

He’s just starting a discussion. Always new insight to be gained.

[–]madfrombrad12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

The side bar comments are getting old. Why even have this sub at all if every comment is “sidebar?”

That’s like someone who’s religious not going to church because “bible”

[–]Speedracer11118 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

What does it say?

Even knowing the answer, it took me abit to find it and it doesn't specifically answer this guy's question.

Closest thing I saw while perusing, is quite abit down the list. Under #11 in FAQ, your time is valuable. But it explains what happens if you give her too much time. Yes, you can derive the answer, but kids these days want it spelt out for them. (Using google vs using your brain.)

[–]mega_kook1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love this response. Passive-aggressive, funny, but still helpful. We need more answers like this. The sidebar is key.

[–]volvostupidshit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sidebar: Bitch, do you even read me?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is a DHV, so it increases your SMV. Yet if she isn’t attracted to you, it doesn’t work. I would not say it works per se, that thought appears quite stupid to me. It just raises your value and creates the possibility for a girl to push herself over the hump. It is no ace in the hole, that you can pull, if you’ve screwed it with her.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Speaking from experience, my ex started fucking another guy and then he dumped her for his ex-wife. Then she came crawling back to me. Ghosted her on the spot.

[–]thechaosz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. The least I care the more they do. I haven't given a shit about a woman in years. I'm incapable of it I think now. I love sexy time but that's it.

The second I nut the first thing that pops in my head is "gtfo".

[–]zilliondollarthrill6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bitches loves assholes....fuck women, make money and you can buy one every week....this sub beats around the bush too much. Just say what’s on your mind, also fat bois hit the gym ain’t no girl want that beer belly slappin up on her twat, nasty ass.... change your life get your wife but trust me you’ll be swimming in it n will reconsider ever wanting to get married again...

[–]_-resonance-_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

When she realizes her other dudes are either unattainable or weak.

[–]sarinaannc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tbh I read a lot of replies and I think it’s actually way simpler than what most people think. Females don’t want to up their body count. So they cycle through their list.

[–]chatbung1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They are just bored. Don't mind that

[–]spedoid-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women are fucked in the head and mentally on the level of children. This is the first and most important fact to consider when dealing with them.

Why does stupid shit and dumb tactics work on them? Because they're girls. They don't have logic or pragmatism the way a man does.

[–]Heybuddyyyyyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol sidebar son

[–]0_0Sup0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

After re-evaluating her own and your SMV, you're back on the list. Monkey branchers need branches after all.

[–]learning0007-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar, ask sorts of great explanations

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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