How to fix a “me” problem?

Blackhawk2479 · 2020-03-19T22:08:45+00:00

...two months.

Wait, what? The way you were talking up until that point I thought you’d been together for years.

He’s not right for you, and marriage and kids should be far, far from your mind after only two months.

You don’t even know him properly yet and you’re already frustrated and losing respect.

Time to find someone that you’re not even frustrated with after years together, not mere months.

hatso225 · 2020-03-20T00:01:36+00:00

in my experience, when I would feel this way toward the guy I'm with, it was because he was showing too many "feminine" traits. When he was exhibiting too many feminine behaviours, i would get frustrated and annoyed with him. I felt horrible because he was so good to me all the time, and sometimes i would get snippy because the frustration would build up. I started to wonder why I felt this way because his fundamental character traits was everything I desired in a man. I started to ask myself "if he is fundamentally everything I want and need, why do I get so frustrated? Why am I not more grateful to him?".

I realized that it was his behaviour because he would get into these moods when he simply just would act much more masculine, more "alpha male" I guess you could say, toward me. And when he did, whatever frustration I felt would instantly dissolve and i felt as a woman should in a relationship.

However, if you are finding that more often than not, that you are frustrated by him, it is best to leave. If it isn't a behaviour thing and you are just flat out feeling like this constantly, it is again best to leave. As time goes on, you will start to build a deep seated resentment towards him without noticing. And that resentment WILL bubble up eventually whether its in weeks, months, or years. That will blow everything up in both of your faces.

Alternatively, if you are not willing to leave, you will have to communicate this to him. You will need to dig deep into yourself to understand why you have these feelings, and figure out how to talk to him about it. Pick your words wisely when you do so your feelings are properly conveyed and not misinterpreted or hurtful. And just hope for the best i guess

homestead_house_wife · 2020-03-20T05:18:00+00:00

Move on, find someone who you don't have to struggle to respect. Neither of you have put that much time into this relationship; leave now before you both become resentful. He clearly isn't the one for you, let him go to find the woman that can love him for who he is and find yourself someone you are actually attracted to. You still have time to find that someone to start a family with.

Resentment is a heavy strain on the family unit, if you stay with him just to fulfill your goals of settling down you just may find yourself unsettled for the rest of your life. My parents resented each other and themselves and I (at 26) am still dealing with the repercussions of their choice to just settle.

Maybe it's a "we" problem not a "me". If you truly want to give him the respect he deserves let him go for all involved including your future children!

reallyhatesyou · 2020-03-20T03:15:15+00:00

I agree that usually if a guy is too feminine, I find myself feeling the same way. You sort of have to provoke his masculine from him, put him in a place to make decision. A guy who does WHATEVER I say is actually a turn off for me. Look into John wineland / David deida about this stuff.

whatdidshewrite · 2020-03-19T22:07:16+00:00

Are you on birth control? Birth control does this to some people.

36trombones · 2020-03-20T15:06:56+00:00

Are you leaving something out here? I don't understand what you actually like about this man. In what sense does he treat you well? I am not doubting that he does treat you well, but I'm curious as to what that actually means

teaandtalk · 2020-03-20T21:20:09+00:00

Yeah no. At two months, if you have to force attraction/respect, you're not cut out for each other.

iquanyin · 2020-03-20T06:18:42+00:00

you’re just not that into him. it will only get worse. no one is at fault it’s simply not meant to be. please do both of you the favor of realizing this and stopping now so you can both go on the meet compatible people.

Title	How to fix a “me” problem?
Author	rosesonthefloor
Upvotes	5
Comments	23
Date	March 19, 2020 9:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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