Can someone listen to me vent?

DiggerClam · 2017-07-27T06:11:37+00:00

She's going to hang out with her ex's cock.

You did good man; hurts but being a cuck hurts more.

Cry all you want; get pizza and play video games with the bros this weekend. Next week, take on the world.

GayLubeOil · 2017-07-27T09:01:59+00:00

All girls that age are clones of each other. Their just walking vaginas that repeat everything they hear and finger fuck their I Phones. When you replace her the biggest difference you will notice is her brand of perfume.

Docbear64 · 2017-07-27T06:11:15+00:00

I don't know if I'm going to find a girl ever again

I was a loser for a long time and thought like this too .... then I met a new girl ... then another one after that one ... and another after that one . You have to give yourself more credit than you are , yeah it sucks that she is choosing to go back to her ex but you attracted her in the first place. There were qualities about you she valued and valued enough to fuck you .

I get how this being your first relationship you can feel a lot of despair over it but You'll meet a new chick and believe it or not she may be cuter and better behaved than the one you just broke up with but you increase your chances of that happening by becoming a better man .

I know it hurts, I've been in the same shoes that's when you work out , start working on a hobby , and doing things in your free time . Time will heal those wounds dude but fixating on her and the relationship won't do anything to help you .

Mudpielol · 2017-07-27T07:55:17+00:00

The possibility of cheating always exists. Think about it, it happens to famous high SMV males as well. You can't control other people, only thing you can control is yourself, so only thing you can do is be the best version of yourself.

You are suffering because you were convinced that is not true. Learn to accept it. Move on. You've learned a lesson, use it well. There's plenty of women around.

Unerted · 2017-07-27T13:18:04+00:00

I was on the same situation two months ago. GF of 1.5 years, my unicorn, reached out againt with her ex. They were "best friends" before me but I keep frame before entering the ltr about me nexting her if she kept contact (even tho i met her thanks to that dude). Same group of friends, a past together, and she had cheated on previous bf with him: no shit to have around. Long story short, i break up with her because of it plus we werent having as much sex as we used to, next thing i know, she's back with him. It hurts dude, it surely does. For myself it was my first time actually loving and commiting to someone, because i used to get bored with people really fast. The first month was hell, i feeled like a fucking purposeless bitch because i made her my purpose. Big mistake. Time heals everything, it sounds cliche but it is sooo true. Pick up a new hobby, lift harder than ever (i got my clavicle broken at the same time so only legs on the gim for me, but it works either way), and spend all the free time you have with friends. Period. We feel ya brother, learn to see it as a chance to learn, an experience, not as if you had lost something. (my english sucks i know, hope it help)

shredzro · 2017-07-27T06:20:34+00:00

First I want to say to every commenter so far: I appreciate your support to this guy.

Trp community is usually very negative but for now it isn't on this post.

You did good man. End it. Only thing I can say is don't text her. You probably will but I promise it isn't going to end well. Never does. Texting will only justify her actions in her head.

But I do want to say man, you did good. Don't take everything TRP says and only take what's necessary.

Seriously though you did good and keep it up.

Self-Making-V2 · 2017-07-27T06:02:32+00:00

Dude, you did the right thing. Suffer the pain, learn from it and move on. If the situation ever arises again with another woman, simply flip the script to prove your point. Reverse the roles. Most sane, half intelligent women would see your point

OfficerWade · 2017-07-27T09:12:23+00:00

"Let it burn" - Usher

TRP_MushaShugyo · 2017-07-27T14:43:11+00:00

You have to get RUINED by a girl for the inner Alpha to come out. But it is the worst pain you've ever felt in your life, I know. It will pass and you will emerge a righteous Man, trust me, it took me a long time but I'm finally feeling really strong and powerful.

Man cannot change himself without pain for he is both the marble and the sculptor.

julius42 · 2017-07-27T19:07:44+00:00

That's a great question.

Wedontbelieveyourlie, when I was your age, I got sad. A lot.

I didn't come from such a great home, but one day, I started running, and that seemed to make sense, so then I just kept running. Friend, when you get sad, you run. Straight ahead. And you keep running forward, no matter what.

There are people in your life who are gonna try to hold you back, slow you down, but you don't let them.

Don't you stop running and don't you ever look behind you.

There's nothing for you behind you.

All that exists is what's ahead.

Evrathiel · 2017-07-27T23:47:33+00:00

Nah, you're not a loser you took it like a champ and broke up with her right away. Most can't hold the frame you did on their first relationship and hamster away the fact that she's smashing with her ex/friend. Just don't cave in, as many experienced men have said here. DON'T. It'll never do any good to you and she'll most possibly think you're an insecure clingy bitch, will badmouth you to her ex, and somehow justify her actions in her head. Also I %100 agree with GayLubeOil's comment.

Daboyry · 2017-07-27T16:48:18+00:00

"Breakups build bodybuilders." Don't squander away the pain that you feel, use it! The world is your oyster, go out and claim your pearl

m0neyg00d · 2017-07-27T13:51:44+00:00

How old are you, 17? No worries bro. You haven't even finished puberty. You will only develop a higher SMV.

Want revenge? Do great in life. Get into the career you want by forming good habits. I always found it easiest to change habits after big changes such as breakups. And these habits you can form for life. Gym now can pay dividends life wise, not only muscle wise.

empatheticapathetic · 2017-07-27T13:54:44+00:00

It'll take time, just go through the shit and read the sidebar, it'll hurt but it won't happen again if you really manage to take it in during this vulnerable time.

TRP_Lee_zard · 2017-07-27T14:27:13+00:00

Its not a coincidence you said its your first relationship - hard as it might be to believe this, more will come and in bigger numbers. Relationship is a side quest, dont mistake it as main!

GreenPiller · 2017-07-27T15:06:22+00:00

Glad you didn't fall for her bullshit

dontbedenied · 2017-07-27T15:11:15+00:00

Just wanted to chime in and say you absolutely made the right call. Do NOT take her back if/when she comes crawling back. I took my Ex back after dumping her and it was a horrible mistake. Improve on how to identify a girl for an LTR, if that's what you want. Look back on beta behavior and try to improve on that. Again, congrats on leaving that girl. It's not easy.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-07-27T15:25:57+00:00

Welcome to the red pill.

Helpcalculus · 2017-07-27T15:51:46+00:00

As soon as you start flirting with other girls and she sees your SMV go up, she will come crawling back to you saying she made a huge mistake. Don't take her back.

RedditinToronto · 2017-07-27T16:20:07+00:00

This is the mistake all guys (I've made it too) make at some point. They think they. Ant find a girl 'as good' and this prevents them from making very logical decisions. Kudos to you for being man enough to let her go. If you got her, trust me you can only do better! Let's assume for arguments sake that you can't do better and she was an 8. You can atleast get a 7 who doesn't want to jump on her ex's cock. Who wants that kind of stress?!! Go lift. Get that dream job. Buy clothes that make you look good. Women will be throwing themselves at you. This may take a year or two or three but trust me you will look back at this chick and thank your lucky stars you dumped her. Don't ever answer her calls. Make sure she's off all your social media. Don't even look her up no matter what the temptation. You're moving up and only up brah! I get so much vag these days it's crazy and thinking back to when an ex left me and I thought she was super hot and I wouldn't be able to do better, I just smile and have this shit eating grin!

Carbone · 2017-07-27T17:14:23+00:00

What was she giving you more than any other girl could give you ?

SlyAM · 2017-07-28T04:50:45+00:00

I've been through it. She didn't cheat on me, but she became distant and couldn't even tell me she loved me by the end (she might of been cheating but idk for sure). I was a needy bitch and was always apologizing for shit that I shouldn't of been. It hurt so much at first, had to leave school because I just kept breaking down in class and balling. It hurt for months, but now I'm over it. Yes some days I still miss the fuck out of her, but I remind myself she was a bad girlfriend most of the time (used me for drugs). "Love" makes you forget all the bad moments and only remember the good ones.

What you need to do now is go out and be with some bros. That was the number one thing that helped me through the break up. One of my buddy's even stopped me from calling her when I was very high and messed up. He told me to just let her go, it's done. Never confined in a women, because that is what bros are for.

Remember no contact, no matter how hard it hurts you. Take it out in the gym, pick up a new hobby or focus on a current hobby. Focus on yourself for now, and when you are ready go out and meet other women. You're going to be fine brother, I'm glad you didn't stay with her. If you didn't have the red pill you would've, and it would of been a sad situation for you when found out.

Kyoushin698 · 2017-07-27T14:10:32+00:00

Heres what you need to keep in mind you would of gone about your day trying to get shit done and she would be fucking her ex. You would have to lie to yourself but deep down it would of eaten you up. Effectively making you a cuck by omission. You didnt pussy out you are a fucking champion dude. You won here big time.

Heres what you need to do to find the next chick. Stop looking. Thats right stop looking and go focus on yourself. Wanna take up a hobby? do it wanna get buff? do it. Get your head straight and raise your standards for your next girl. When you spot the girl you want thats when you engage red pill tactics.

If you ever need someone to talk to send me a message. I got your back bro i have been in your situation.

Colt42O · 2017-07-27T14:29:16+00:00

You did the right thing. Never talk to this girl again, she will try to get in your head and manipulate you if remain in contact. Go through the pain you are feeling and move forward in life without her.

FlyingSexistPig · 2017-07-27T14:49:44+00:00

You get one victim puke. Everyone gets one. It hurts, and you use that hurt to go to the gym and start lifting.

All of the things you've been told about how women think and what they value are a lie. Women act ~~and think~~ in the moment.

SirAttackHelicopter · 2017-07-27T16:29:24+00:00

IT takes a great deal of personal integrity to do this. Self worth is more valuable to everyone than arm candy. You will find another girl who will treat you better.

eccentricrealist · 2017-07-27T16:33:37+00:00

Sometimes the path to righteousness is riddled with pain. You took the right choice. Chin up.

WhaleMilker · 2017-07-27T16:55:49+00:00

Let it all out, buddy. But don't ever go back to her, no matter how much th urge to do so is.

Also, regarding the ''won't be able to get another girl ever again" thing: yo got a girl once already which means you can do it again. Trust me, life is more than some bitch who doesn't give a fuck about you. The chances of us being born alone are fucking incredible and yet here we are. Who gives a shit if one girl broke up with you. Life has so many other things to offer.

ECoast_Man · 2017-07-27T17:12:34+00:00

Many great men have fallen because the sense of, "but I'll never be able to do better than her" has caused uberpussification and betafication of them. I've done it myself in the past, and many bros have mine have done the same. The "she's the best I'll ever do" is a real weakness for many men.

Good for you on avoiding it. Time heals all wounds, but other pussy will heal it faster.

wheresMYsteakAt · 2017-07-27T18:22:00+00:00

and I'm quite the loser tbh

If you really said goodbye and ghosted you aren't a loser, you are doing better then 80% of the guys out there. Stop being a fag, I know it hurts but of coarse you'll find a better one - are you kidding me?

ratthing · 2017-07-27T20:53:54+00:00

You did good. Don't EVER go back and forget about her as best as you can. Take care of yourself, lift, and adopt a mindset of abundance.

This is something I wish I would have known when I was your age.

Thizzlebot · 2017-07-27T23:45:04+00:00

Good news for you, you can move on and still fuck her later because she apparently loves getting dick from her exes lol

asktrpanon · 2017-07-28T01:51:39+00:00

Ditto to what other comments said. And hell, think about the ex she's hanging with. She just rode someone else's dick (yours) for however long and now he's still seeing her. Be glad you aren't him, keep moving forward.

Iguessthisismynameno · 2017-07-28T05:24:55+00:00

Welcome aboard. If your experience is anything like mine it will be incredibly painful and amazingly rewarding. You'll lose plenty of the dreams you once held dear but you'll gain the ability to operate within the real world.

Ninokun · 2017-07-27T16:10:35+00:00

first u said u broke up, then u said she broke up, get ahold of urself

Title	Can someone listen to me vent?
Author	Wedontbelieveyourlie
Upvotes	68
Comments	73
Date	July 27, 2017 5:58 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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