Intro: This is a long intro So for the last 2 years I’ve known about redpill, since I graduated high school and didn’t know what I was doing with my life and fat and just disappointing with women that I had opportunities with. I stumbled upon this because my brother mentioned it in a convo (he believes in most of RedPill and at the same time doesn’t). I read EVERYTHING from the sidebar, to books, to posts people would put up. I always planned on opening my own gym so I already knew about being fit I just wasn’t atm because highschool got me so used to eating out with friends and drinking all the time. I lost 50+ pounds in a year, lost my virginity at 19 fucked about 3 more girls and then here I am fresh out of a break up from an LTR I had red flags about in the beginning. I THOUGHT I was ready for an LTR but I was clearly wrong. So if you’re around my age area 20. Don’t do it you’re not ready, work, have fun, enjoy you’re single life.

Body: I’ll call my ex L just for privacy purposes. L was a cute HB7 who was thick, quiet and I worked with her (dont shit where you eat). I had no interest because we worked together, till I saw the IOI’s and I went for it. First red flag was that when I got her number she texted me “what are your intentions”. Well I was gonna say no fuck off and then I said whatever and just said “just seeing how things go”. I had 2 other plates at the time but I dropped them. We finally kiss and wow I really felt he BB in me cause that kiss was great. We start texting all the time, calling, hanging out more. Getting WAYYY too attached. I hadn’t taken a girl seriously in over a year so something had to be good right? So it took me about 3 weeks to fuck her brains out since she had a ton of trust issues and what not and we could honestly barely see each other besides work. (Now that I look back I could’ve fucked the first night). We get into a relationship way too fast. What I never took as a red flag was that L had a shit ton of friends and a lot of guy friends. I let things go whenever she would be on the phone texting people and talking to her best friend who was a guy on the phone. I pretty much dropped a lot of shit just to spend as much time as I could for this girl, I’d see her at her lunch, walk her to work whenever she wanted me to. I’d see her like once a week when neither of us were busy. Now around October she gets a ride from a friend a guy, who she fails to mention is her ex. (RED FUCKING FLAG) I was gonna drop her but she apologized and said she wouldn’t do it again. couple weeks later she stays at my house for the weekend cause she had a problem with her parents and it was crazy (another red flag).

A week after that whole situation she gets a ride from him AGAIN and then we have a whole trust argument and RIGHT AFTER the trust argument she asked him for ANOTHER ride in my face. I walked away and we broke up. Then my BB self came back apologizing and then we end up just accumulating up to more arguments. We went on a break etc. You see where this is going. So for the next couple of months we just hang out, fuck and argue all the time. Everything was going good but something about me even though I had atm girlfriend always felt like expressing my masculinity in a stupid manner. TBH I said something out of line and we broke up but to ME it wasn’t that big of a deal. Her best friend that was a dude btw is now who she’s seeing (SHOCKER...) She went on vacation took a couple weeks to think about everything and now I’m here single.

I gave up my power for a female that at the end of the day was WAY too sensitive. (oh trust me I know women have emotions but this one would get upset about ANYTHING) I dropped my shit for her and after reading EVERYTHING on this subreddit I immediately became BB in a short span of time again. What upsets me more is that I should’ve listened to myself when I felt the first red flag hit me. I just felt I had to post this cause honestly I’m hurting cause what I said wasn’t break up worthy but whatever that’s her problem. Since the break up I’ve been working out, eating more, reading, trying to find a better job and writing music even more. I’m only on here because I want to let the young guys like myself out there to BE SELFISH. Don’t get into an LTR, work on yourself, school, work, exercise, read etc. But whatever you do don’t put all of your focus on a female. Spin those plates or just 1 plate if you want.

I thought I was ready for one because I’ve never had an LTR, I was always fat in highschool, i had plenty opportunities but was oblivious to the way women work. Now I’m just trying to self improve and trying to get rid of my oneitis.

Summary:

  1. Listen to red flags
  2. Don’t s