Sup gents. I've received this text or had this conversation many times, as have a few of my friends, as I'm sure many of you have. It often comes out of the blue during a period of silence, whether you're laying in bed post-coitus or you slept with her a few days ago and haven't texted her.
"Do you hate me?" "Why do you hate me?" "Are you mad at me?"
I always thought this was some thinly veiled attempt at receiving some validation, or at the very least starting a conversation. But I received this text in the middle of the night last night, and read it this morning. It came from a fwb, last time we hung out, she told me a few days later she was still sore from our little tryst, but we hadn't spoken since (it's been about two weeks). "Are you mad at me?" Why in the fuck would I be mad at you? What possible reason could you actually conceive of that would make you think I was angry at you?
What I actually said was "lol, why would I be mad at you." "Idk, I haven't heard from you in a while and I hoped you weren't angry with me. I'm sorry." I thought it was pretty stupid, honestly. What kind of mental faculties is she working with here, I wondered. But I realized something as I stewed over it in the shower.
She wants me to be angry with her. Because if I'm angry with her, it means I'm thinking about her, and I'm not indifferent about her.
RP 101 here: Women and their solipsistic natures don't allow them to think about a situation from someone else's point of view. Women think more emotionally than rationally. You would rather get an angry or sad response from a woman, than an indifferent or non-response, and give her the emotional rollercoaster. And she thinks that you think the same way.
The point here, is that even women are aware of the dangers of indifference. Indifference can be a powerful tool for you, but indifference isn't something that is easily faked. Feigned indifference is translucent, and women will be angry at you for using "tricks" on her. Your feigned indifference doesn't make you appear congruent. Your true indifference will drive her wild, but it also may drive her away. YMMV.
One last point to illustrate how important this is. Women generally lack self-awareness, in fact there's an entire sub dedicated to women talking shit about us over here and how this "doesn't work." Walk up to any woman and ask her "how would you feel if I walked up to you and insulted you? Would you go home with me afterwards?" They would all say no, but I've done it, I witnessed a friend of mine do it, I've seen RSD videos where Julien calls her a dog and she loves it, eats it up. But even women understand the effects of feelings of indifference they have towards men, which is why she wants you to feel*** somethin**g* about her**.
When approaching, if you don't get an emotional response, whether good or bad, you will fail. The girl wants to feel something. In fact, I would rather she hate my fucking guts than not care about me at all. That happened to me in a club once. I approached many many girls that night, at the end I went back to one I'd talked with earlier, and with whom I had an ok interaction, but she still wasn't quite on my side. Her friend, who I'd also approached, separately, hated me. Idk why, I think I'm pretty loveable. But I digress. She voiced this opinion to her friend. "This guy is such an asshole, I hate this fucking guy." It was like a goddamn light switch, and suddenly the OG girl and I are making out, dancing, and I went home with her like 20 minutes later. She said to me verbatim: "no one hates a nobody." I'd rather she hate my fucking guts than not care about me at all.
Btw, that's how I feel about my h8rs too :*
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