I was talking to this girl a week ago at the gym, and she seemed pretty cool. I saw her again today, and thought I'd go talk to her. We start talking about lifting, and I tease her about not squatting. We talk about school, and stuff, blah blah blah. She asks me if I always go to the gym around this time, and I tell her I do. I ask her the same question and she tells me she is here at the same time as well. I tell her we should lift some time, and get her number. She was very receptive and looked me in the eyes the whole time, smiled, and stood close to me.

I text her later today and she calls me right away. It's her boyfriend yelling at me, threatening me, telling me to never talk to her again. I'm just laughing the whole time.

The thing that confused me was, why would she not just tell me she isn't interested. Even just mention she has a boyfriend would be a sign of disinterest. I find it kinda strange that she would give me her boyfriends number, then tell him that she gave his number to a guy at the gym. Girls are strange.

Whatever. I already have a little bit of approach anxiety, and this stuff would have been a nightmare years ago if I wasn't as confident as I was now.

Lessons Learned:

  • Approaching at the gym probably isn't as beneficial as approaching somewhere where you can take them on an instant mini date/escalate more

  • Girl is most likely using me to induce some sort of rage/jealousy from her bf in hopes of either increasing his sexual dominance, or drama for her entertainment.

  • /u/Zamarski gave us some more insight on how her manipulation of 2 guys is good for a mating strategy - Let's you and him fight