"If she says you're not having sex tonight, you're having sex tonight." Why?

roe_ · 2013-08-02T19:09:27+00:00

Testing for congruency. A man who's desperately anticipating sex will be clearly let down/butt-hurt by such rejection.

A man with abundance mentality will take the "bad news" in stride with an alpha smirk.

puaSenator · 2013-08-02T23:40:26+00:00

They like to tell themselves this so they don't feel like a slut if they do. It starts the push and pull game. It's so she can rationalize, "I didn't want to have sex, but you just sweeped me off my feet!"

Also remember, it's a push and pull thing. So as it heats up, you have to pull back a little, and say, you shouldn't be having sex. Then you pull off, then go back in, and escalate. Keep doing this until it's show time.

vacuu · 2013-08-02T18:55:05+00:00

It's a shit test. If she wins, you both lose. She has challenged you to overcome the test.

Poopmaster3 · 2013-08-02T19:23:26+00:00

I asked one of my sluttiest female friends about this, she gave me a straight answer.

It's two things, firstly a hamsterization. She's acknowledging that she's thought about it and it seems like a likely situation. And then combined with that she's trying to show that she isn't slutty. Those were here word.

[deleted] · 2013-08-03T22:46:29+00:00

This happens all the time, and it's in my book.

"If we go back to your apartment, I'm not having sex with you."

"Ok"

When this happens, I go with them to my place and I put on music and just have a nice chat. During this time, I do NOT put any moves on them or show them really any affection. This pisses them off to no end and they eventually, 99% of the time, put the first move on me. Once they put the moves on, I know that the entire time sex was on their minds.

I believe it is validation to them, that if they goto your apartment and YOU put the moves on them, they feel a sense of power that they warned you that you're not getting sex, but you tried anyways. They will use this then to deny you sex just to feel that incredible sense of being wanted.

However,

If you do not put the moves on them, they get hurt and begin to feel unattractive. This causes them to put the moves on YOU to get sex as a way of knowing she's worth something and "hot," which is why you're more likely to get sex if you don't show her any attention.

ChaoticParadox · 2013-08-02T19:51:06+00:00

She says it because she has the fantasy of you getting your way despite her protest. It keeps the image of looking innocent, while creating the possibility of her fantasy coming true. She knows you want sex. She wants sex, too, but what she really wants is to be taken. It makes her wet when you show her she's definitely not completely in charge of the sex in your relationship.

kingoftheheap · 2013-08-03T02:23:21+00:00

I completely agree with this.

Be me at 16, just left a teen club for ages 16-21. two friends and I walking home with 5 chicks. Three of which are fat 1's. The other 2 are 8s. I let be known as we're walking home that i'm "gay for the night" the fat friends take that as there chance to not talk to me. my two friends still coupled up with the 8s. I say a joke about the whole situation to my friend in my accent. 8 number one asked where i'm from. Jamaica. BAM, she's on me at this point deciding to talk to me the entire time. My friend who was originally with her couples up with one of the fat joints. Fast Forward to the crib. We laying down in the basement talking about sex. She says she's not like that, so i let her know its cool we can lay up til morning. Not even 3 mins later she's blowing me on the little mattress we laid out. Sex ensues thereafter.

That night was amazing it was the first time i ever took a girl home with me from the club, and my first time going raw. Literally felt like something out of a movie.

idlepete · 2013-08-02T20:02:04+00:00

Sometimes it's hamstering. She's trying to pass responsibility for her actions on to you.

"We're NOT having sex tonight."

Four hours later: "FUCK ME! FUCK ME! FUCK ME!"

Next day: "I TOLD you we weren't going to have sex! So WHY did you have sex with me? You took advantage of me!"

It was at this point I was glad I could point to all the "fuck mes." How much more enthusiastic does consent have to be? Yeah she was a feminist, and yeah that's where I ended it.

t21spectre · 2013-08-02T23:41:56+00:00

"If she says you're not having sex tonight, you're having sex tonight.

Simplest of shit-tests, she is challenging you, go for it and you will have sex. It's the age old hamster of " I want to fuck but not seem like a whore" game. Keep pressing and it will happen.

Necromaze · 2013-08-03T18:29:00+00:00

Shes trying to make is like shes in control of the "sex" which she is not and without going "too far" If your doing it right... your getting laid.

[deleted] · 2013-08-03T02:37:36+00:00

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[deleted] · 2013-08-03T04:57:53+00:00

Oh, one other thing: at least two different times I can remember, I said "I never have sex on the first date" to whoever I was bringing home. Of course we did, and the next morning she felt special for conquering me. I stopped doing that because I don't like to lie, but feel free to try it out.

makeme2sandwiches · 2013-08-04T20:43:28+00:00

Best response to that is "Then blow job it is"

Theophagist · 2013-08-02T20:27:07+00:00

10 or so years ago I was planning for my 2nd wedding. I took one of my fiancee's friends from work out to help me shop for shit. When she got in the car one of the first things she did was assure me that her and I would not be getting freaky. Later that night I boned her on her couch while her boyfriend was out buying crack. Fun fact - it turns out that she already had sex with my fiancee.

No the marriage didn't last long but I got out mostly unscathed. Anyhow the moral of the story is no does mean yes. Also don't hang out with crack head strippers no matter how hot.

notnotnotfred · 2013-08-03T02:04:51+00:00

"You're only my first date tonight."

kingoftheheap · 2013-08-03T04:40:28+00:00

Lol famous last words before she Narfles the Garthok

Moxiecontin · 2013-08-02T21:23:11+00:00

Maybe she just doesn't feel very good.

risqys · 2013-08-02T23:09:02+00:00

Sex should be something she wants/needs from you. It should be something she cant get enough of.

Something is definitely not right if she even thinks she can make such a statement!

Markymark36 · 2013-08-03T06:16:08+00:00

If she says no she really means yes.(oh wait. that's rape)

Title	"If she says you're not having sex tonight, you're having sex tonight." Why?
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Date	August 2, 2013 6:43 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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