TLDR: Woman tells me a friend stayed over at her place, but they only cuddled for 'comfort'. I find out later that is not the case, but that she literally has convinced herself that it is.

A plate that I have been seeing for a long time (and was strongly considering LTR-ing) decides to tell me that a guy stayed over at her place about a month ago, but that they just cuddled. I tell her in no uncertain terms that I don't believe her. She insists not only did no sex occur, but no oral, no HJ or finger blasting: just spooning. After a while, I tell her I believe her...I want to believe her, but in my gut...just no way. Now I really like, and genuinely respect this girl; but the story didn't make any goddamn sense. Who travels (and it was a significant distance, by the way) to see a girl, just to spoon? She belabors the point over and over, throughout the next couple weeks, using all of the tactics (ie "I just needed the companionship that I don't get from you!" and "maybe you don't appreciate the fact that some guys would just be happy to lay with a beautiful girl like me!"). Recently, I saw a text convo between her and a friend (judge me all you want, but if you make an emotional LTR investment in a girl without having seen what's on her phone, you're a fool, in my book). The day after it happened, when her friend asks if she fucked him, her response was "kind of...". And when asked whether or not she received oral, her response was "yeah, but it was awful". And apparently, she blew him, but he was "really drunk". So either he couldn't cum or couldn't get fully aroused. Maybe they even fucked, because the 'kind of' response was left vague. But at this point it's semantics.

Now the interesting part is that in a later conversation with the same friend, she references this event and how she told me about it. She says I got upset and didn't believe her "...But nothing even happened! We were just there for each others comfort!" This chick actually successfully convinced herself that his dick was never in her mouth, and her pussy was never in his. And she was telling this to someone who she ALREADY told the truth to, right after it happened. So because it wasn't satisfying....it simply never happened. Un freakin real.

It kills me to know that she'd lie right to my face like that. I don't think that people believe that men can be hurt in this way. But yeah, it fucking hurts. But in a way...I don't even really blame her. She actually believes it. Be very careful out there, gentlemen. Shit is crazy. As for her....back into the plate pile until I get tired of her.

Lesson: The hamster is a force to be reckoned with. Do your due diligence before large emotional or financial investments. And trust your gut.

Update: ...Seems to be a lot more cowboys on here than I expected. Anything short of hate-fucking women with a broom handle, face fucking her, and throwing her out the third story window is being a "cucked beta" with no "frame", nor "abundance mentality". To all of the non-insane responses: thanks. This was my first entry and appreciate the honest/brutal feedback. There were 1 or 2 responses that legitimately made me realize some new shit.