don't understand hookup culture

villa_gotaha · 2016-10-23T06:51:57+00:00

still live at home

Your biggest problem

My advice is that you should move out and get roommates (with some of your interesting friends, if possible) if you have the finances. Your friends are not special. I promise you that they appear that way because they go out more and have a place to seal the deal.

Girls are much more average than you think. Once you get used to them, women are really easy to talk to and flirt with.

JJMcgray · 2016-10-23T12:54:59+00:00

First off. The guys saying you living at home being the issue may not be correct. People here like to point out Chad and his situation. From what I hear, Chad is usually a broke as fuck dude who may live with parents (or with the girl he is banging) and basically provides nothing but an A type personality and a swinging cock.

I don't know you so I can't really diagnose your issue. Shit, no one can unless you get into some real detail.

What I will do is tell you what works for me. Take what you can use, ignore what you can't.

Be confident. Easy to say, I know. When I say it I mean be confident in yourself. Be proud of who you are and your interests. Pursue them and live your life.
Stop being thirsty. You wanna get laid. I get it. But that shit turns chicks off. They want what they can't have so if they know you are thirsty as fuck, it's a turn off. Stop prioritizing pussy for a while and focus on something else.
Talk to women. Meaning, just talk. Not every interaction should be all about trying to get laid. Just chill and bullshit. In fact, start by talking to chicks you don't want to bang. I would explain the logic in this, but you don't really need to know right now. Just do it.
Get the fuck off the internet dating sites. I can't emphasize that enough. Even if you were a 10/10 wealthy and famous model I would still recommend you don't. That shit is skewed in women's favor and for men it's a numbers game. Unless you want to send out 100+ swipes per girl you actually may meet, don't waste your time.

Basically, get a life. I mean that in the realest way. If your life revolves around women (like getting laid) you never will. or if you do it will be with someone you'll feel ashamed for sleeping with. The thing women want most is experiences. That experience may be to get banged out by some dude she has the hots for, but it's still the same idea. If her only experience with you is sex with your penis, you're gonna have a bad time since she can get that from any guy.

From what I read, you have little confidence, you are fixated on sex, and you have nothing to offer. So why would any girl desire you? Why would her panties get wet when she thinks of you?

Change all that and then watch how women suddenly make themselves open to you. Then apply the shit people talk about here and experiment with game.

TheLaughingRhino · 2016-10-23T12:20:19+00:00

The better you learn how to deal with other people, the less conflict ( I hope) the rest of your life will be.

If you can, get a job in sales or telemarketing, or at your age, door to door. Learn how to take a No, learn how to talk to people by doing it , learn how to read people and get them to see things your way by the way you communicate. See it was a learning experience, trial and error, and worry not so much about girls at this point.

I suspect your problem is not solely how to talk to girls/understand them, but how to talk to and understand people in general, i.e. basic socialization. Some younger people have the good fortune of having parents that communicate with them and getting to travel and seeing new things and getting life experience, this all adds up to your basic ability to socialize in general. Some people are not more advanced than you rather they might have more life experience ( in a relative sense, you are only 20)

Another thing I recommend is travel. If you can. See other cultures, see how non Americans work and operate and communicate. It's a big wide world out there, and seeing the differences in people will help mature you and expand your view of what you want, and what you don't want.

This is not the time in your life to have all the answers, it's the time in your life to make your mistakes, learn from them, and garner some valuable life experience.

Good luck.

MOCKxTHExCROSS · Sun Oct 23 16:44:59 2016 UTC

Right now as a young man in your position, you are nothing to society and women. You need to keep your head down and focus on self improvement.

Community college is great for saving money and getting your first two years of college done on the cheap. However, the teachers are frequently poor, and for most students, it is high school 2.0. You need to have a spotless, squeaky-clean, 2 years with perfect grades to be considered for a good college. Your focus should be on knocking out as many pre-requisites as possible, not taking easy fun classes like photography and shop.

The biggest downside to community college is the other students. Many of them are perpetual failures with no ambition. Others are there as part of a parole plan. Some of them get the whole thing for free as long as they show up every once in a while. It's kind of like jail. You need to keep to yourself and focus on getting out, not making friends.

I disagree with people saying move out. You're getting rent for free. Your focus right now should be acing your studies, not scoring bottom of the barrel community college hood rat pussy.

Karasho · 2016-10-23T16:09:33+00:00

Can just agree with what people are saying here.

Start lift (remember cardio once a week for better stamina also) and move from home. Shower every day and get a haircut every 3 weeks.

When you get the first compliments for your new physique you will get the confidence to talk to women normally. If you have acne start getting cream for it.

2dogsandpizza · 2016-10-23T07:07:05+00:00

What have you been doing to improve yourself? Sounds like you are trying to use trp as a quick fix and bitches can spot that shit a mile off. If you're going to do trp you need to do it properly. A few months is nothing. Lurk more.

ECoast_Man · 2016-10-23T14:43:52+00:00

You need to lift and move out.

Depending in your life situation, I'll assume the worst - you're broke and can't move out yet. Take sometime seriously lifting while you can. Not only does it have the attraction raising effect, but it will greatly affect your brain in positive ways. You'll start being more confident and creative, and your work ethic will go up. Once that happens, you'll be looking for ways to make money naturally because you're up early, energetic, looking for shit to do.

saltpillar · 2016-10-23T15:39:59+00:00

Just realised you can always lie. This way you can test the water. My parents are reasonably religious (or might as well be). They gravitate towards truth and indeed there whole lives are about exposing truth. It leads to problems for children I think.

Generally girls realise from a young age that lying is fine - <u>and they can tell if a guy is still trying to pickup honesty from them.</u> If you expose yourself to being lied to or lie yourself - to see how easy it is then there is a chance that they will realise that you are seeking something more than words.

The people picking up girls are generally people that have been hurt before I would guess.

Basically you can go 2 ways - either be completely honest and try to find a way to harness this and make money or try and free yourself from your parents.

Sometimes lying might not even be an option (maybe you are just less free than you might believe).

Thebilboestbaggins · 2016-10-23T21:44:48+00:00

Move out. If you know you have some bitching pad to bring a bitch back to, you will be a lot more confident.

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2016-10-24T07:42:53+00:00

The fact that your parents are religious may explain why you "don't understand hookup culture". I was raised religious (Mormon) and hookup culture still feels weird despite understanding it conceptually now.

But yeah, follow the other comments for a pragmatic guide to success in hooking up. Living w mom and dad is a pussy dryer.

PthirusPubis · 2016-10-25T13:57:16+00:00

Listen kid. Don't listen to most men here. They mostly older and not up to date. You got future and a chance not to get completely cucked or crushed or whatever the hell happened to male species. So, If a man doesn't have it, charm, a good game and respect for women, It is very unlikely that he will aquire the alfa male skills or whatever ya all trying to have. It is a character thing. You can't fake to be charming. Please stop doing it to yourself and women. It is obvious and a big turn off. Keep it real! Be yourself whoever you are! It's ok to take that risk if you want the best outcome. Also be ready to lose and own it! It's like going to casino. You have to be ready to lose all that money you hope to gamble and win with. If a girl is not for u let her go. Also I'm so tired of wanna be alfas. It's easier to impress girls via text. If you play good game via sms. Remember don't fake too Big! Cause if u end up on a date with a real fuckimg woman who provides for herself and knows what kind of man she wants and u just waisted her time, she will crush u and then you will end up whining here.

tetsuya80 · 2016-10-23T16:56:31+00:00

If you're not white most white girls are not interested in you unless you are tall, muscular, and rich.

Maybe you still need to work out more and build muscles

don't understand hookup culture

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