TLDR; Social Proof goes a long way in interacting with women. If you are part of the “in” crowd your SMV goes up regardless of looks. With that said, looks are needed to seal the deal. You can be an ugly mofo and get hit on all day if you are the prime in your social circle, but you won’t score because she is just using you to get what she wants.

This is a mix of theory with a field report thrown in as an example.

Pick a hobby. Any hobby. Preferable one which attracts hot women, bonus points for it being athletic. Some examples are: dancing, rock climbing, acro-yoga, billiards, dirt biking, theater, martial arts. Some things I would shy away from but you are welcome to: Chess, debate club, cosplay, cross fit, stamp collecting. You know, the traditional beta hobbies where fatties reside.

Got your hobby? Great. Now get really good at it. Like, top 20% good. Dedicate time to become that guy who walks in to whatever place hosts such hobby and people recommend you for helping the new guys. You want to walk in and have immediate social proof. With social proof come SMV. Women are groupies. Nascar has hot women vying for a chance for a photo with the winning driver. All he did was drive in a circle but he was the best at it so he gets the pussy. He may be chubby but he has the social proof. Said driver goes to a weight lifting tournament, and he won’t get looked at twice because he has no social proof in that environment.

You are going to suck when you start out. Man up and live with it. This is like lifting, it takes time, effort, and dedication.

It should go without saying but pick a hobby you enjoy! You will be spending a lot of time mastering it. Don’t believe the 40 hours to proficiency bullshit. Try 400 hours. Bonus points for it being athletic as you can substitute some gym time for your hobby to maintain those gains. As a dancer, I don’t do any cardio in the gym because I get it elsewhere. My hobby is equivalent to running 10 miles a week. As a rock climber, I can’t skip back day, but I can take it easier because I get back 3 times a week. Since I do acro-yoga I don’t have to spend as much time stretching before or after a workout because I already am flexible. Personally, I spend maybe 3 hours a week actually lifting weights.

I’m a short guy, around 5’6” with broad shoulders, abs and an okay face. I’m barely top 20%. The tight stomach and shoulders make up for a lot of things I can’t change. I know I’m not supposed to say age/name/location on the internet, but I’ll offer one tidbit of information about me. I live in south, USA. Down here, almost every girl 2 steps (8 of 10). Almost half the men 2 step – very poorly. You walk into a bar and every girl there will be there to dance. She wants to be swept off her feet and made to feel pretty. Every guy there is with the girlfriend and only present because she wants to go dancing and he is a good little boy who does as he’s told. Any other boy there is trying to get laid with his drunken fumbling hoping she won’t notice how chubby he is through those cheap well drinks. What this results in is all the girls (single or otherwise) can dance well enough to hold their own while the men stumble around doing basics. They spin rough, step on toes, dip poorly etc. Of perhaps 50 leads (men) in a bar, maybe 5 know what they are actually doing. I personally guarantee they also dance exclusively with their GF.

What does this give you? Lots of women dance with women because the quality of men is so poor. They don’t give a shit about societal norms. They want to dance dammit. Let that sink in for a minute; every man there can’t dance while almost every girl in tight cut off shorts can. All you have to do is display some form of competency and you are a leg up on all other men in the bar.

Remember, I’m a short mofo. I can’t change that. I have no social proof I could ask a girl for her number and she would probably say no. She may be interested, but height is a bitch and it’s hard to overcome. So while she may not give me her number, I’m also not greasy haired, patchy beard or otherwise creepy. I dress nice and I’m polite so she will accept a dance. By the end of the dance she is so confused and turned around from all that wonderful spinning she’s giggling like a little school girl. She demands I dance with all her friends. I do – even the fat one. I now have social proof. Every girl there sees that I know my shit and is just waiting for me to ask her. If I have a girl I’m interested in, I ask her to dance every few songs to keep things hot and steamy. It is very easy to know when you hit this threshold. I simply make eye contact, extend my hand and she walks onto the floor. No words necessary.

At this point my height is null and void. All the women see now is a sexy stud in a tight shirt who knows his way around a woman’s body on a dance floor. I dip low. I spin fast. I flirt on the floor simply by dancing.

I have 4 women I have friend zoned. Two of them are engaged. Every time I go out with them people assume we are a couple. I dance very close and sexy. I don’t hold back on the floor I am essentially flirting with every girl there. The physical act of touching a girl on the hips is sexual in nature, as a lead, I get a free pass when dancing. I can pre select any woman I want and can get physically flirtatious whether she knows it or not on a conscious level.

I went to a new bar where I’m not well known with a friend. I was having a bad night so we went out. I could feel the eyes on me and I scuffed around the floor in loafers. I wasn’t dressed a country hick in boots, hat and pressed plaid shirt. But rather sloppy jeans and a T shirt with some old loafers that do not compliment my height. I was out of place. By the third song people were applauding and we got ourselves in a promotional video. I could pull any girl I wanted after that. I had one man ask me to dance with his girlfriend because he wasn’t up to the task.

This isn’t a post telling you to dance. I do it but you don’t have to. Just pick some activity that makes you marketable and presents you above the crowd. You get bonus points with women for knowing shit they are interested in. She is into motocross? Be the best damn mechanic and rider out there. Maybe she will invite you to her garage to help her with her bike. You are a world class chef and she’s a foodie? Perfect excuse for a date at your place. She loves debate club? Run like hell because you just found a woman who likes to argue.