Having problems with my wife and thought about posting in r/relationships or something similar, but I just read some posts there and I decided there was zero point. Literally any behaviour by a female is justified in some way and it’s the guy’s fault - every time. It could be the wife being abusive and comments are like “she is probably feeling vulnerable and not sure how to communicate properly, maybe you should be more understanding and change how you speak to her”. If the genders were reversed in these scenarios the advice would be instant divorce/move on/ police. What a joke.