Have any of you experienced or suspected Mirroring?

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April 21, 2020

My ex dumped me a little while ago. I started the relationship pretty red pilled but over time I reverted back to blue. Good reminder to keep refreshing yourself with the RP mindset.

Made so many classic mistakes its actually laughable.

The only good thing is I am in therapy now and have really discovered a lot about myself and why I do certain things. I feel more in control and deliberate now.

Anyways super painful was monkey branched yadda yadda same story every fucking guy has expect my girl was different (lol kidding).

Anyways, I noted some typical red flags but just ignored them (No father, fucked her first date, many ex bfs). One of which was mirroring. We had such similar senses of humor and "goofyness". At one point I even asked her and made a subtle suggestion she was mirroring.

Thats one thing that made the breakup hard. All the times we spend laughing in bed being ridiculous. I think this is the type of thing that really feels special to guys and stings the most (at least it was true for me).

There is no way im going to find a girl with such similarities.

And then I realized there is damn good chance she was just mirroring me. She's likely just an empty person who fills herself up with whoever shes with at any given time.

If I was a fly on the wall now in her new relationship she would be unrecognizable to me for that very reason.

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Title Have any of you experienced or suspected Mirroring?
Author mindbreeder
Upvotes 61
Comments 42
Date 21 April 2020 04:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/655709
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/g5iyg0/have_any_of_you_experienced_or_suspected_mirroring/
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[–]iwviw57 points58 points  (4 children) | Copy

Mirroring happens all of the time. Subconsciously. That’s why If you’re scared or insecure that will “rub off” on the chick and she will be held back. But if you act open confident and secure the chick will too like by osmosis

[–]circlingdispair10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Speaking form experience this can happen the other way around as well if your frame isn't strong enough. Insecure bitches will leach your confidence from you like a tick and then dump you thinking they are better than you. Painful lesson to learn but at least I know now.

[–]iwviw6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know what you mean, they gain confidence by feeling like they have power over you

[–]circlingdispair3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup, my ex had a plethora of issues that I was too dumb and not aware enough at the time to recognize. Primarily when it came to intimacy and physical contact. I wasn't smart enough at the time to just cut my losses and run. The more time that went on and the more I was denied physically the more my confidence took a hit. It took me along time to recover and yet to a place where I was just ok and I've get to get that irrational confidence level back. Lesson learned, confident, low self esteem bitches are for pump and dumps only.

[–]StrongWamyn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Mirroring happens all of the time

I believe I read it's actually higher in people with more empathy

[–]NAFI_S22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

I started the relationship pretty red pilled

Anyways, I noted some typical red flags but just ignored them (No father, fucked her first date, many ex bfs).

See the contradiction.

[–]cactushatter3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bro sounds so similar to my last relationship. We fucked the first date, bad relationship with parents, emotionally all over the place.

But damn the highs were just as extreme as the lows, and there were a great deal more lows than highs.

[–]Noodlesoupe25 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

That’s called BPD my man

[–]cactushatter1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep she had BPD. Found out a few months before we broke up. But my brain is still slightly attached to her and it's been over a year.

[–]Noodlesoupe21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

BPD is honestly just another female mating strategy arisen out of trauma and fear of abandonment. It wouldn’t exist if it didn’t work at snaring in men. Thats why almost every guy has experience with one despite being 1% of the population. It’s like they’re using a very manipulative form of “girl game” designed to make men fall for them. Almost like a female Redpill of sorts except unconscious

[–]Noodlesoupe27 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

If it seemed too good to be true, it probably was. Damaged girls tend to mold themselves your exact personality in order to make you think she’s a unicorn so you won’t leave her.

[–]JaydXThomas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Really never saw it this way. This makes a ton of sense.

[–]throwawaycunt19972 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t LTR a girl who didn’t mirror me. That’s a good indicator of empathy, intelligence, and can be spectacularly entertaining if she mimics my wit and humor. Besides, people only mirror those that they admire. And I get more done if I actually want to have a conductive relationship; it’s the perfect side kick to my crimes. (If you’re a good manipulator/actor, you can also train her to act or embody a certain archetype if you notice she mirrors, and mold her into this imaginary personality) But that’s also my preference. My last LTR was a lazy slob and made no attempt to be a better person. No mirroring, no sign of awareness or life, just a wannabe leech I ended up abusing until I got bored with her. Nah. Keep your lifeless simp bitches; I’ll take the wannabe unicorns.

[–]Domebeers22 points23 points  (9 children) | Copy

" There is no way im going to find a girl with such similarities. "

Holy cuck, bluepillman.

Women don't have personalities of their own my man. When you start getting experience with women you will recognize that. Their personalities are just an amalgamation of what they see the celebs do, what their old boyfriends were like, etc.

So yes, you will find another hole with the personality you like, because some hole will adopt that personality if she is in to you. This is basic.

Example: Do you think girls are into sports because they are into sports, or because a boyfriend they had once was into sports?

[–]AstroBolt57 points58 points  (7 children) | Copy

You are so out of touch my dude. Men and women are different, yes. But women aren’t a complete different species where each woman doesn’t have their own personalities lmao. It’s comments like this that make me not want to come to RP. Have you ever talked to a woman?

[–]rpthrowaway110426 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy

trp has been cringe-pilled for like 2 years now m8

[–]CrazyNicholad17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with this. I see a solid half of comments as RP one-upmanship/bullying/cringe humblebrags. Like "Look how Alpha I am, you cuck". No positive, constructive direction for the young bucks that are just opening their eyes. For most dudes, it's a process and sometimes they falter. I know I have and I still do sometimes. To all the born Alpha's out there - Yes, you are the shit. Stop calling other men cuck's and simp's every time the opportunity presents itself and help the apprentices on their journey.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank god this has upvotes. The comment you responded to was delusional

Oh women care about what celebrities do? Kind of like how men care about what athletes do?

Low and medium valued people don’t have much in terms of hobbies but high valued people in both genders have legitimate unique interests

[–]failed_singingcareer1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I disagree with you. My man here has a point. Yes, women will have their own personalities and interests, they'r not automatons, but the majority of their moulding will come from external sources (popular media, peers, parents, surrounding culture, exs) and they don't have convictions or beliefs like men will, which would be irregardless of mainstream BS. Along with that women that are attracted to you will start mirroring you like crazy. They just don't have that strong of a personality to stick to, it's always shifting/changing based on what's coolest around them.

[–]AstroBolt25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

Humans. Humans do that. To anyone reading this, watch out while in TRP subs for criticisms of women that really apply to everyone. I know it’s easy to get a quick dopamine hit thinking you’re better than all women, but take a second to realize how naive that is. Both women and men have a lot of flaws but this sub likes to only point them out in women and it’s funny, but this way of thinking deludes new TRPers.

[–]CasaDeFranco3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd say you're right, but women generally tend to follow more than lead. That said, 90% of men are similar in this regard.

[–]RepresentativeMood2-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You clearly dont talk to alot of women if you dont notice how women mold themselves into what you want them to be and what they think will make you like em more. Get out of your feelings

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol sounds like you’re around low value women then.

Have been with plenty of women who have their own interests or hobbies.

Laughable if you think guys are any different

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

People often fall in line of the behavior of the more dominant person in the room/relationship

[–]TheProfitMotive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"There is no way I am going to find a girl with _______"


[–]when_its_too_late-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yep. All women mirror. Especially the dumb and shallow ones. The laughs are fake, the emotion is fake, and if it's not a blatant mirror it's a fake of some other kind.

I'm appalled by how well women can not only mimick emotions, but trick themselves into actually feeling them!

[–]Yur475 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You sound dumb my g, women actually have emotions smdh

[–]when_its_too_late-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

ROFL. Don't fool yourself. Those emotions are chemically triggered and preprogrammed to work towards their advantage.

[–]NAFI_S0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

There is no way im going to find a girl with such similarities.

why anyone would be interested in someone similar to them, never makes any sense to me, sounds boring to me.

[–]betatest20200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Abundance man.

[–]The1ndex-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You say she mirrored you.

Then you say you’ll never find someone like her again.

You’re making no sense.

All women do this.

And yes, her with next guy will be I recognizable.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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