So I’m 27 and my fiancé is 31. We are in the middle of getting a mortgage. Tbh, I’ve felt like I don’t deserve him because of some self esteem issues I’ve had. Being in quarantine with my family made me realise how important my parents are especially with this virus taking so many loved ones. My family are very old school and traditional and to be honest so am I. I was a virgin till 24 ( not saying it’s an achievement. Until my first time which was in awful circumstance with an ex) and was originally waiting on marriage. I believe in very traditional roles and am very red pilled.

In order to keep my current fiancé happy I agreed that we could cohabitate till November and then get married. Tonight I messaged him and said that I have two new rules 1 that I’m no longer having sex till marriage as it’s a sin and don’t wish to do it again ( I’ve become on the religious / spiritual side of life) and that 2 I no longer wish to cohabitate and that I will pay my side of the mortgage but will move in in November once we’re married. I said that I don’t wish for my father to think of his daughter as cohabitating nor do I want to disrespect him. I also said that no man is worth upsetting my father for

Am I being harsh?