Is casual sex/fwb even possible for not so hot men?

Inareskai · 2020-05-29T09:41:35+00:00

I'm confident if you literally only wanted sex and had no feelings about the body you had sex with, you would probably be able to find it.

I've known lots of men I wouldn't have touched with a barge pole who apparently had people they regularly slept with.

The sexual freedom you see women having is actually 'there are loads of creepy men out there who will fuck me' - it's like if you have a large group of people you don't actually like, but all of them will be interested in your body. That's not a fun way for anyone of any gender to live - no one wants to be valued just for being a body that is fuckable. On the other hand, I know plenty of women who do like just hooking up without any pressure of a relationship.

But also, maybe chill out a bit on how important you think sex is? Like if that's literally all you care about, think on that. Why? Sex is great fun, but it's definitely more fun with someone you also like the company of. It's also fun but just because something is fun doesn't mean it's healthy to want it so desperately?

Tl:dr - yes of course it is possible, especially if you're not picky. But maybe you should take sex of this pedistal.

WeWereOkay · 2020-05-29T13:29:43+00:00

Absolutely. But not if you’re trying to fool or manipulate someone into, e.g., by pretending you want a relationship — humans are generally pretty good at sniffing out BS. If you are genuine, respectful, and actually interested in mutual pleasure (as opposed to just using someone’s body), women will screw you NSA.

As for women’s sexual freedom, you are absolutely, completely wrong. The fact that lots of people want to screw us is useless for our sexual freedom because all those people just want to use our bodies to jerk off with. All it means is that I have the freedom to be used, with no pleasure for myself. That’s useless.

2020-05-31T06:51:46+00:00

I think that is technically true. For me as a woman, it's not that hard to find somebody who would want to have sex with me, doesn't matter if I'm attractive or not. But that's not what I want, and generally I really would despise a guy who lied to me about wanting a relationship, then would just leave. I would make that mistake one time, and then learn from it and never let myself be fooled again.

I guess it technically works, especially with inexperienced and maybe more vulnerable women, but it's really a low way of getting what you want, don't you agree? I think people who believe it's ok to just lie to people to be able to use them for your own sexual enjoyment, have some serious moral issues. It would obviously be very selfish and speaks of unhealthy preoccupation with sex.

And you better make sure you move around a lot because this might work one time with a woman, but as soon as the rumour spreads among women in the area, nobody will want to have anything to do with you anymore, as you will be known as the guy with a low moral standard.

SaperER · 2020-05-31T22:33:39+00:00

If I remember correctly from EvPsy, for short term mating, men lower their standards and women increase theirs. On average, that is. So your observation is likely true - I think people have even calculated gini coefficients for the mating market for women and men and found the same results.

NickNeverBrokeAgain · 2020-05-29T04:54:01+00:00

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JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2020-05-30T07:56:15+00:00

Possible, for guys on that level, but difficult. If a woman is going to have casual sex, or fwb situation, she's going to have plenty of offers and options to choose from, even if she's on the average to below level. Naturally she's going to choose the best looking men available. For guys on the average to below level, it's highly unlikely and really would be a case of "getting lucky".

oree94 · 2020-05-29T08:08:22+00:00

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Title	Is casual sex/fwb even possible for not so hot men?
Author	NickNeverBrokeAgain
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Date	May 29, 2020 4:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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