I'm the queen of denial when it comes to toxic relationships and I'm working on moving away from my old pickmeisha ways. This morning I came to a realization: I fucking miss feeling desired.

Porn culture teaches men that the way to express your desire (lust, rather) is to degrade women. That if you talk about their body parts in a "kinky" way, if you tell them that they're only good for one thing, or only made for one thing -- if you touch them only in a degrading way, that this will somehow turn women on.

Well I'm fucking sick of it. I'm tired of being degraded instead of desired. I miss tender, loving touching. I miss sweet words and foreplay.

We deserve better, ladies. I'm glad I found this sub. I've found the confidence to demand a lot of things, like basic respect, that I've let slip away over time. Thank you, and remember to seek a partner who desires you and never degrades you!