Worried about timeline

leilavanora · 2019-01-03T06:17:58+00:00

I can’t tell from your post if you have a husband or not? If you’re married by then you’ll most likely have good health insurance and if not then I think you should probably focus on finding a suitable partner first.

I had a really strict timeline when I was younger that I always told everyone about. I wanted to be married with kids and a career by 25. I didn’t even finish my masters until I was 27! Freezing your eggs at 25 is pretty extreme in my opinion but I’m not sure if it is medically. You still have plenty of years to have children.

Zegiknie · 2019-01-03T11:49:24+00:00

Freezing eggs isn't easy or straightforward. The harvesting process alone is extremely taxing, and it's not garantueed to work. I wouldn't go there, in your situation.

If you have already spent money on this degree, it's probably best to finish it. If you plan on being a working mom, keep in mind your education is possibly easier to combine with kids than a job is (usually more flexible).

If you have no husband yet, keep in mind it is possible you may never actually find one. If that should happen, you'll be extra happy to have the degree.

What your family thinks shouldn't be a consideration for the big decisions in life unless they pay for it. It's your life. They will be dead and buried some day while you still live the consequences of your choices.

Is it possible to set some money aside and pay for the medical costs of kids out of hand instead? (I'm not American, your system is weird to me)

You could get pregnant while finishing up your education, and your husband (do you have one??) cover the cost, then you'll be 26 when you have your first. If you breed quick, you could have 4 kids before 35 that way (I personally prefer spacing them more, but it's doable).

You may not even be able have kids at all. Or your husband might be the infertile one. Would you adopt, then? Make sure to vet for a man who wants a family (if you're single now) and don't get too attached to one who doesn't.

I suggest you just take the best possible care of your (reproductive) health and finances that you can, socialise to meet a man if you haven't yet, learn skills you may need as a mother and accept that life doesn't always care about your plans.

thatbadlarry · 2019-01-03T16:31:51+00:00

Your fertility is not declining at 24. You need to chill about that. It is MUCH better to have a child when you are ready to raise them, not necessarily when your eggs are at their freshest. I’m not saying wait till you’re 39 to start but at 24 you have time and your first priority should be finishing your degree and becoming more financially stable. You will be in a much better position to raise a child then.

AgathaMysterie · 2019-01-03T07:00:31+00:00

Hmm! I had my first at 29, second at 30, third at 32, and I’m planning on having a fourth at 34. My fertility is bomb! I don’t think you need to worry very much, unless your OB has given you reason to believe that your fertility has an early exp. date.

drunk_fish1 · 2019-01-03T09:48:00+00:00

If you're single, I'd imagine college is a great place to meet a guy as you know he has ambition and is working toward them so being at college is a good start! x

DaMaenad · 2019-01-03T08:20:35+00:00

Hi :) I’m 24 too and I’m feeling the same amount of anxiety you are. I just keep telling myself I have at least a 11 more years and that it will be okay. I’m right there with you sister ♥️

UmbrellalikeWetness · 2019-01-03T15:56:29+00:00

Honestly, it appears you're putting your time and energy and money into something that's not helping you get what you say you want.

Title	Worried about timeline
Author	kitschisland
Upvotes	2
Comments	17
Date	January 3, 2019 5:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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