Interview With a Sociopath

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-02-22T02:37:36+00:00

That thing he said about not saying too much about himself at the beginning but listening and learning about the other person, so that he can tweak his persona to get what he wants...in hindsight I have had this technique used on me. My guard was down too much because he was so charming, so I quickly revealed too much about myself, which he then used to control me. This whole tactic is a giant Red flag.🚨🚨🚨

butterflymeadowzz · 2020-02-21T23:53:14+00:00

I saw this on YT a couple weeks ago...was very interesting. He really gets a rise out of himself.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-22T00:21:42+00:00

This was fascinating. Thank you for posting.

huevos_and_whiskey · 2020-02-22T03:12:23+00:00

Lots of eyebrow work (which is notoriously hard to fake without a lot of practice), some smirking, a couple likely instances of duping delight. Shakes his head often, even when he’s agreeing with something. Towards the beginning he seems to be attempting to mask his excitement to be in the video. Visibly flushed (sides of the face but not the apples of the cheeks - anger?) the entire time. Very proud of his ability to “outsmart” people. Makes eyes at the camera a number of times, perhaps flirtatiously or at least trying to look innocent. There is likely someone he’s hoping will see this video. He’s making a show of how recovered/reformed he is. Dodges some questions by going off topic, and the interviewer offers/tries to reconnect the answer to the original question for him.

I almost never watch people as closely as I watched this guy. If were to meet him or someone like him randomly, I wouldn’t even think to look for these things. What I probably would see, is that some of his expressions or micro-expressions made me think of people I’ve known in the past. Just for a second, without even really knowing why, hey he reminds me of [so and so]. I could count on one hand the people I’ve known personally who rated high in these traits, afaik, so if someone reminds me of one of them it’s worth noticing. Learned that one the hard way.

If you have ever known someone who had these tendencies, or even just someone who left a wake of destruction and drama in their path, and you meet someone new who reminds you of them, trust your gut. Your intuition is often just your brain processing massive amounts of minute information just below the surface of consciousness/awareness, which in its own way is pretty wonderful and magical, but it is not unscientific, it’s not irrational, and you shouldn’t discount it.

Davina33 · 2020-02-21T23:28:30+00:00

Thank you for posting this video.

I have to be completely honest, I was once on that side of life as my mother is a cluster B & personality disordered. And I was too. I'm not saying I don't still have the traits of it but it's a lot less severe than it used to be. I've been the manipulator, I've been the self serving predator looking for selfless prey. I've been the triangulator trying to split two people up. What did I learn? I was hurting all the good people in my life by benefitting off of them in cruel ways. I was extremely selfish. Just like the guy in the video. You THINK you're playing people when truth really is, you're playing yourself. The way the guy in the video says he picks up on a weakness (which I never did, at least not like him) a weakness could be....low self esteem or it could be considered a person with high empathy & a good heart (yes, they view this as a weakness to exploit) and how he suits his mask to fit his potential prey is how they operate. That is why we don't trust charm, weasling their way into our lives and we should strive for high self esteem and firm boundaries. To prevent these people from exploiting us.

But trust me, it takes a lot of insight and self improvement for anyone that has a personality disorder. It's not easy to have and it's not easy to deal with from another person. I worked with people who had personality disorders, it wears you down. I've encounter love interests with cluster b disorders, they can be extremely cruel. Some have traits and some have the full blown illness. There is a remarkable lack of empathy especially in the men's cases.

2020-02-22T12:27:42+00:00

There is no reflection in his answers -- he has carefully rehearsed his replies and only once or twice did I see any genuine honesty pop through.

Parking-Act · 2020-02-22T14:27:42+00:00

The whole time he is deflecting and not holding himself accountable for any of his actions. He feels deserving of other people when he is a piece of shit. He goes on about how his relationship with his "friends" was pre-existing and boasts about the length of time he has known them. He is tooting his own horn the entire time and is trying to convince us that pathological people are normal but just different. No, you are not normal. I see right through his demonic ways. He was being manipulative the whole time and trying his BEST to come off as intelligent and worthy. But in reality he is a soulless demon loser who is empty inside and just preys on others to survive.

Title	Interview With a Sociopath
Author	faircreditscore
Upvotes	49
Comments	13
Date	February 21, 2020 11:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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