Can we talk about STDs for a second?

szsunshine · 2020-01-24T17:10:23+00:00

You really don’t know who passed on the STD. Anyone who is not a virgin can give you an STD (and some are passed through non-intercourse: I know someone who got Herpes via oral sex with her now-H. They were both virgins and each other’s “only.”) Don’t assume it was the woman.

Don’t feel dirty. The stigma is what prevents people from testing and reporting to their former partners. Hopefully this will give you a heads up to protect yourself in the future.

stillcantsee · 2020-01-24T17:27:45+00:00

On the flip side I’ve had sex with [x] and I’ve never once had an STD. It’s about safety practices and nothing else. I can’t tell you how many girls with 2-3 partners STILL catch shit because their boyfriends are nasty cheaters. The only 100% way to prevent STDs is no sexual contact. Eliminate the stigma and get your meds. You’ll be ok. Regular testing no matter what or how long you and your partner have been together.

maserlaser · 2020-01-24T16:55:27+00:00

First of all, I am very sorry you are going through this. But try not to freak out and wait to see the results. I hope it will end up being ok and easily treatable if anything came up.

On to the main question, I have only had sex in the context of committed exclusive relationships. To me it's not just about the health angle, but I also need to feel a real emotional connection in order to enjoy the experience. It's for this reason that I came to realize that FWBs and similar arrangements are absolutely not for me.

Even in the latter case though, it's important to make sure that both you and your partner still get an STD screening, at least at the beginning of the relationship. I know it can be awkward to bring the subject up, but ultimately it's a matter of your health and you can't compromise there. Likewise, it's important to continue getting tested regularly together with your regular health checkup.

Parking-Act · 2020-01-24T17:12:49+00:00

I am so sorry you're experiencing this!! I had a scare with my lvm ex who pretty much made a joke of the possibility and I stayed with him another year and some change afterwards!

We as women make huge mistakes trusting men sexually and even in your case some women who dont have the proper mindset will have unhealthy influence on you as well.

Its important to use condoms and get tested with sexual partners. I will only be intimate with an exclusive partner, there are many guidelines in the sidebar. You can equip yourself with the tools now going forward.

I know you are nervous. Again, really sorry.

MonsterMeggu · 2020-01-24T17:23:34+00:00

In my experience the clinic always asks you to come in, even if it is to tell you negative results.

Title	Can we talk about STDs for a second?
Author	throwaway6378v
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	January 24, 2020 4:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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