My (f24, caucasian) boyfriend (m28, asian) is saving pictures of only asian girls

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Throwaway because he knows my username, TL;DR at the bottom.

We have been dating for nearly 6 years and moved together a few months ago. So far I thought he was the most decent guy I‘ve ever met. Doesn‘t follow any Instagram models, doesn‘t like pictures of other girls, doesn‘t watch porn. He always told me he isn’t really interested in those things. I though wow, guys like this really exist?

We have a relaxed relationship, there isn‘t much jealousy or any suspicion. We don’t hide our phones from each other and know our passcodes. We never actually check each others phone even though we could any time.

Today my phone died. I asked if I could use his phone for a bit, I actually only wanted to see if the winners of a raffle on Instagram got announced. We still had a long car drive so I swiped through his feed. He pretty much uses IG only for memes, he sends me some every day. Found nothing interesting, so I opened his saves.

I was honestly expecting some high quality memes, but found instead dozens of pictures of korean girls and k-pop stars, some half naked. All asian with a beautiful face, flawless skin and hair, super skinny or tiny, big chest and flat ass. Then there is me, white, a little chubby, flat chest, bad skin, hair loss, braces, saving up for surgery while trying to loose weight. He knows I dislike a lot of things about myself, but he always told me I look fine, I’m still cute, I shouldn‘t worry etc.

It kind of felt like my heart broke into two pieces when I saw those pictures today. I‘ve had such a different image of him in my head and only found out today that he is just like any other guy. What else is he hiding?

I feel so disappointed, uncomfortable and insecure now. It’s like I‘m not his type at all. Why would he date me if he clearly prefers asian girls? I‘m also his first caucasian girlfriend, all his exes were asian.

I need advice, am I overreacting or imagining things here? What should I say to him? He‘s the type to talk himself out of any situation instead of just admitting and apologizing.

TL;DR Thought my asian boyfriend is a super decent guy, is saving pictures of half naked korean girls on Instagram, I‘m caucasian and look nothing like them.