Golden information.

abicus4343 · 2019-10-09T15:23:37+00:00

Its mind boggling to me that we are back to the MOST basic dating concept. After everything women have been through and fought for we now need to relearn "men dont buy the cow when they are getting the milk for free"? Really?!

Wake up ladies, STOP giving your bodies away for free! I dont care how you label it, FWB, open relationship, no labels, polyamory, casual sex, NSA, etc, etc, it's all the same shit, win win for the boys, lose lose for the girls.

A woman inspired the Taj Mahal. Now we cant even get a happy meal out of a dude? How did we fall so far?

noavocadoshere · 2019-10-09T18:39:52+00:00

he unfortunately gets the distinction of being my first love, even as unrequited as it was on my end. i spent practically all of my time with him but he wouldn't give us any definition and my self esteem plummeted so badly during our years together. so i said "okay, this has been something (internally: something mean emotionally devastating, a test in how low my self esteem can get and physically demanding) but i want to be in an actual relationship with someone," and he was like, "why break up because i won't put a label on what we have? you're looking for something that might not exist over us?"

as in, being seen with you publicly and doing more than just sleeping over or getting drunk? hmm, yeah, that would be nice 🤔

turns out, years later, he's perfectly capable of labels as informed by social media. he just didn't want to be in a relationship with me because i wasn't worthy of a label in his opinion. men will commit and easily give a label when they want to, don't be fooled or give into mental gymnastics (aka lying to yourself).

iLiveInAHologram94 · 2019-10-09T19:00:59+00:00

I’ve walked away from two guys liked this and the first was PISSED and turned it around that I was manipulating him. lol how was letting him go manipulating him?! The second was confused as hell and then later turned it around to mean I wanted to be engaged. Lol just asked to go on some dates and be exclusive. * Watch out for their reaction. They’ll be manipulative and try to gaslight you and make you feel bad. I felt BAD that I had “manipulated” the first guy until I remembered I was the one who told him I couldn’t see him anymore and suggested friendship.

Not all men are like this. I refuse to buy into that agenda. But there ARE men who are like this so keep a level head and let them earn your trust.

GemstoneLucia · 2019-10-10T00:59:22+00:00

Top comment is about a guy she saw 5 days a week and he never called her his gf and he was seeing other girls the whole time.

She says it was “cheating” but it sounds like he never gave her the title so..

Anyway the point is, this is why days matter, if you aren’t seeing him every weekend that’s a red flag. Saturday does matter.

cridhebriste · 2019-10-09T18:19:23+00:00

So many ‘friends’ So little time...

saucypiece · 2019-10-09T16:02:33+00:00

This makes me laugh because I recently decided to start saying I'm looking for a no labels relationship. I have a good idea of what I want and that's what I'm looking for. I'm not going to settle for anything less than that. I really do not care what we call it from the get go.

I'm not liking how some guys will use whatever label you say you want to try and convince you that's what you two are or what he'll provide. I'm also not a fan of how some use the label "fwb" to mean "booty call", "one night stand", or "fuck buddy". Another pet peeve are the guys who want to be exclusive and call you their girlfriend right off the bat, which comes across as they'll take any girl they can get. It can end up being just another way of using you.

So my take is the quality of the relationship and whether its the type of relationship you want will always be more important than its "label".

Title	Golden information.
Author	_HEDONISM_BOT
Upvotes	83
Comments	29
Date	October 9, 2019 11:56 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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