Pet Peeve: "Men are visual creatures"

PoorPlainObscure · 2019-11-09T06:57:32+00:00

It's so bloody true. If men can't control themselves because of their visual nature, how about they only leave their home wearing a blindfold and in the company of a female relative?

ladysilkworm · 2019-11-08T23:53:05+00:00

When scrotes say "men are more visual", what they actually mean is "my peepee can't get hard without porn anymore." They don't have a better aesthetic sense, they don't have a better artist's eye. They're not more visual at all, just allowed to be shallow and often only interested in specific/extreme visual stimulus.

And the consequence of this, like you've said, is that women convince themselves they don't care about mens' looks. They settle for less because hey, they've been told they aren't visual (read: don't have a right to be). This is one of my absolute pet peeves too. Don't fall for the "men are just naturally more visual creatures" meme, ladies.

2019-11-08T23:55:03+00:00

I agree with you. I have always found it so strange that men are by and large so willing to give up their own autonomy by describing themselves as these primitive creatures controlled mainly by their biology. They want to reduce themselves to sex crazed animals. It's way worse then any thing a woman would say about them surely. But somehow we are the man haters?

reddituser39682 · 2019-11-09T01:56:35+00:00

What pisses me off is how they use "muh biology!" to excuse being shallow pigs. Like they're proud of it. Being shallow pigs ruled by their gross crotch maggots is apparently a thing of pride for them, it makes them "healthy red blooded males".

But at the same time, apparently women being biologically hardwired to want a man who will provide and commit makes us PURE EVIL.

DelicateDream · 2019-11-09T05:25:43+00:00

Women typically are way more sensitive to aesthetics so I call bull on this too. We care about how stuff looks in every aspect of life except our sexual partners? Suuuuurre.

Women are shamed socially from asserting physical preferences in male partners because men have been in power and don’t want to be held to high beauty standards (like women are).

It gets perpetuated that women are more about emotional connection so they’ll pair with “nice” homely men and then wonder why they have low sex drive and little interest in sex with him. It’s never considered that men do little to make themselves sexy.

Guess who actually are turned on MORE by variety? Women. I read some study posted here on reddit how hetero women’s libidos drop over the course of a relationship but will spike again with a new male partner. No shock - in early stages of relationships men make more effort to woo you and put more effort into their appearance. Whereas men’s dropped less so and were basically satisfied with the same partner.

Not the study I read, but same idea:

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/

s_slayer · 2019-11-09T02:02:08+00:00

It doesn’t matter how hot you are, they’ll cheat because they want variety and because they’re selfish AF. Think of all the beautiful celebs who have been cheated on.

I also hate the whole “men are visual creatures”. We are all visual creatures on this earth unless you’re a blind salamander. It is just another excuse for the lesser evolved gender to remain as such.

Celestine87 · 2019-11-09T02:47:54+00:00

Lol. Men are visual creatures, but which sex sees more colours? Bingo.

GemstoneLucia · 2019-11-09T03:27:47+00:00

I think it is interesting what men easily says bout themselves as “we are just programmed that way,” like to look at boobs or whatever. I find it interesting how there are a lot of things I always understood women were programmed to do and be, but it’s always been simply second nature, it goes without saying, that if some thing I am programmed to do is hurtful or uncivilized, that I should try to overcome that programming with good manners and self control.

Hell women are even told their programming to be too people pleasing and making excuses for men is still something wrong with us that we have to fix.

Not that we should, but we are never allowed to externalize responsibility the way men are.

I have found out some of the hurtful things men do they just call “being myself,” even if it’s unfaithful or dishonest or hurtful. Whereas I think if I have a habit that is hurtful “that is one of my flaws I need to work on.”

So if men thinks it’s okay to dehumanize women in images online, or stare at boobs with their wife right there, they aren’t even embarrassed to say it’s just “programming” and literally compare themselves to animals with no choice in the matter. And if the wife complains they say “well I guess she just doesn’t love me for who I am. I am so sorry I am just hurting you by being myself. Why are you here, then, I mean clearly the ONLY possible options here are I keep acting like a jackass, or you leave. What is this self examination you speak of? Huh? Why don’t you just bE YoUrSeLf? You’re saying that there’s a third option which you employ every single day and it’s called trying to be better? Huh?”

Like bruh do you think that you are your basest actions, you think you literally are a fart or an embarrassing things you said or you ARE just a guy who rates women online or looks at photos of women together and says which one he wants to bang more and how they probably are not real friends?

They aren’t even aware there’s an entire way of life where you don’t call your shitty vices “who I am” and “my programming” and that we literally spend our lives trying to change without being asked

Also LOL at “discerning gaze” of men like when disgusting fat roll dorito breathe neck beards go on subs pretending they could be with any of the porn women they view in their disgusting collection.

PandaLLC · 2019-11-09T12:08:05+00:00

I have 2nd degree burn scars on my thighs and lower stomach. They look like raw meat glued onto my body, no joke. But still, handsome successful guys think I'm beautiful/sexy. I asked them many times how come. I got different answers, but most can be summed up as they like beauty, but still are humans and beauty is not this ultra goal, the most important aspect of all.

TheOGJammies · 2019-11-09T01:16:32+00:00

I think it's fine to acknowledge that men's sexual attraction is much more visual based than women's. That's just a fact. Most women don't get turned on by looking at a sexy man - we need to be courted, we need foreplay, we need to be turned on. Men can just look at a pair of boobs and they're ready to go.

This doesn't mean that men get to control women's bodies or that women are responsible for what men are thinking. Or that it gives men an excuse to cheat and that men can't exercise self control.

Title	Pet Peeve: "Men are visual creatures"
Author	Liz_Lemondrop
Upvotes	103
Comments	25
Date	November 8, 2019 10:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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