“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.”

-Arnold Schwarzenegger.

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Years ago I met a girl from Tinder, only the second time ever that I had met someone from the app. This was back in the good old days where you could have a relatively shit profile and still meet hot girls. I never would have met this chick in 2020 looking like I did then.

I didn't have much dating experience, and I was nervous. Butterflies filled my stomach driving over. My mouth and lips were as dry as the Sahara. As I sat in the bar waiting for her, I felt that my heart would pound right out of my chest.

She was much cuter than her pictures, still an HB8 in my book as I remember. Very charming in a feminine sort of way, not at all abrasive or boorish like so many girls these days. Lots of classic IOIs - compliments, touching me during the date, that tell tale twinkle in her eye, the whole nine yards.

I felt like I was on fire. I was succeeding beyond my wildest dreams. After an hour or so, I offered to drive her back to her place. We made out a bit in my car. I remember what she said like it was yesterday.

You're really hot. And a good kisser. I want to bring you inside, but I don't want my roommate to think I'm a hoe.

I responded extremely lamely, something to the effect of "next time." Of course, there never was a next time.

Where did I go wrong?

Obviously there are many Red Pill ways that I could have responded in that situation. Clearly she wanted sex, but she needed me to be the initiator. I fumbled badly, no question. But the root cause - the core reason why I didn't get laid that night - was that I didn't prepare for success.

It's not that I thought I would fail. It just simply never occurred to me that this HB8 would be interested in me sexually. I had no real goal for the night, other than to just go out and see what happens. The thought of a same night lay was a concept so foreign to me that it might as well have been from Mars. Like the Betas who congregate around the edge of the dance floor, I went in with a passive mindset, hoping that something good would happen to me. Maybe I would get lucky and she would initiate.

Many guys on askTRP find themselves in almost the exact same situation that I describe. They know how to approach, they know some Game, they lift and look good. They get 95% of the way there, but they inexplicably stop before going all the way. They won't take her home, or they won't initiate sex in the bedroom. They snatch defeat from the jaws of victory, then come on here wondering what went wrong for them.

If there's one thing that I've learned in my brief 27 years on this planet, it's that opportunities are extremely fleeting, whether with women, business, or whatever. What separates those who succeed from those who don't isn't necessarily intelligence, great Game, or good looks. It's having the presence of mind and the courage to reach out and seize the opportunity.

Most people in the world dither. They're indecisive. They hem and haw. They overanalyze, overthink, and try to minimize risk of failure. Even if they spot a good opportunity, they'll only go after it halfheartedly.

What happens if she's really into you? What happens if that customer seems interested? Are you going to ask for the sale, or are you just going to go with the flow and wait passively for something good to happen for you?

The Blue Pill conditions you not to seize the moment. Growing up, most men are classified by society as Betas, and Betas are expected to behave in a manner congruent with their status. It's not that Betas dispute that you can meet a girl off Tinder or at the club and an hour later be in her pants, although they might. More commonly, it's that the thought never even occurs to them.

Yes, you fucked up by not inviting yourself into that Tinder girl's apartment. You shat the bed when you asked for that club girl's number instead of bringing her back to your place. We can point to those errors as the proximate cause, as they say in the law. But the real reason is that you didn't prepare to win.

Prepare for success, and you will be ready to seize the opportunity.