Does “Girl Game” exist?

Unwritten_Excerpts · 2020-07-28T15:02:18+00:00

You might find the Japanese concept of joshiryoku interesting. Translated literally, it means "girl power", but it does not have any of the connotations of Western feminism. Instead, "girl power" more accurately refers to a woman's femininity. Someone with a lot of joshiryoku is someone who takes care of herself, is soft spoken, and has good domestic skills. Japanese girls focus very heavily on increasing their perceived joshiryoku as it makes them more appealing as a romantic partner. Here's a link in case you want to read more about it.

lilastr · 2020-07-28T11:39:35+00:00

Why don’t we women have any game?

We don't need girl game, because the competition is so weak. You can literally show up on time to a first date, wearing a cute but cheap dress from Target, with simple makeup and your hair not in a messy bun, and blow him away. If you're polite, childless, not obese, and have something interesting to talk about, a second date is all but guaranteed.

I'd like to note that your "women don't chase" strategy only works after the first meet. If you're dating online and refusing to send the first message, you're cheating yourself out of a lot of great opportunities to meet men.

wkjdvii · 2020-07-28T17:40:09+00:00

Check out r/redpillwomen the occasional post has the closest to "girl game" I have come across. I dont think such a compartmentalised and procedural instructional manual approach would be used in the creation of "girl game" as there is to "game", chicks are way more Tao when it comes to this sorta stuff.

blushingoleander · 2020-07-28T18:53:35+00:00

You can't say "I wish to be passive" in one breath and "I want this specific man to approach me" in another breath. If you are only approached then you are have the potential to miss out.

If you are interested in someone you should give signs of it (check out IOIs on the men's subs for what they look for) - smile, laugh, touch his arm. If you need an initial meeting, then try "the art of the bad excuse" in the wiki on this sub. It's basically find any stupid reason to say something to him and give him an opening. Zero risk usually equates to a much lower reward.

If you are talking about after the initial meet - then it's still things like smiling, touching him and laughing at his dumb jokes. Be genuine, if there is a connection these things should be natural for you and you will just have to let yourself play them up. Listen when he speaks. If you want to make anyone like you, listen when they talk and ask them questions about themselves. This is a human nature thing but works well in dating. Be interested in him - you want him to feel like he's interesting and important and build up his ego but again, genuinely. If you are attracted to him, this shouldn't be fake. A guy wants a cheerleader who respects him - keep that idea in your head.

Show him what you have to offer. Keep yourself presentable. Be pleasant to be around, don't dump your stresses on him - that's what friends are for. Have a comfortable and inviting home when you get to the stage that he sees it. Cook for him or bake - or whatever shows that you have a desire to take care of him in that sort of girlfriend/wife way. It doesn't have to be constant. Don't go to his apartment and clean on the third date.

All people remember how you make them feel, men are no different even if they claim to be. Make him feel good and respected and relaxed around you. For every bit of chasing he does, you have to give him and indication that a. it's worth it and b. he's not chasing in vain. You can't stand there and be a dead fish and expect the relationship to progress.

And make sure you are vetting him through all of this too. You don't give and give and give and get nothing in return. Sometimes it's easy to be so focused on getting the guy you don't realize that he's not the guy you should be with. That's what becomes desperate.

LocalReligionMajor · 2020-07-28T13:55:21+00:00

I think your best strategy is to be generally desirable (pretty, feminine, approachable, good conversationalist). You have to go places where you will interact with men. Some of them make romantic advances. Strategy and analytics come in while you're vetting, and trying to figure out which of those men would make a good husband and father. There's also some strategy involved in being feminine and a good conversationalist. You figure out how to be a lady and how to put different kinds of people at ease. You have to develop humility, grace, and charity. Elegant women make these things look easy, but in reality, these traits take a lot of self-awareness and self-discipline to develop.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-07-28T18:31:15+00:00

Be light hearted and don’t be afraid to tease him a bit. Being feminine is attractive but most men are gonna be put off by a boring stepford wife wannabe. They like a little bit of youthful excitement and playfulness as well.

kenroyalblue · 2020-07-29T08:17:15+00:00

Hi, married male lurker here. Since this is a topic that interests me, if I may contribute something, there IS such a thing as "Girl Game". What you call looking pretty and asking a guy out, while it is effective enough in most cases, is NOT really game.

Now, a bit about me just for context. I'm the type of guy who's possibly too selective as I'd only consider dating girls who're of a certain standard. So I reject most women who see me as a catch but don't meet my minimum criteria (Can't help it, quality over quantiy is just an in-built requirement for me). Because of this, I literally went 10 years without a girlfriend.

I have personally been gamed by a girl I knew when I was in college who I'd describe as only slight above average, not really that pretty, but totally knew how to push my buttons and were it not for her personality/game I wouldn't have given a second thought about. Having game is despite your looks, not because of it, and she had game despite not being a Stacy.

Below are a list of things she did:

- Great conversationalist. Never flustered. Always confident. As if guys were small fry to her. I think she knew she held some kind of power (feminine) over guys, even very big guys, and was very good at using it.

- An irresponsible but fantastic flirt. Always throwing deliberate hints like touching my tricep seductively, asking me to accompany her while she was trying out some clothes in the changing room (she asked me to peek inside to tell her if the clothes she picked looked nice, then flashed her chest at me, then smiled at me like ;P ). Play fighting with me on a couch. Things like that. But then just as surely, she would go cold and it would repeat all over again everyday like new. It's like she was fishing me.

- At the same time, would talk to me about her ex-boyfriend who was in the same college. How handsome he was, etc. and that she might wanna get back with him. Obviously with hindsight, it was to get me jealous. Admittedly I was slightly jealous.

For lack of a better description, she was one of these "bad bitches" who went after guys she wanted. I'm pretty sure at one point she was triumphantly thinking "I got 'em" and instructed me to give her a massage in front of her friend, which I stupidly did cos I was chasing her (regret it). Gotta say, I had it bad for her. But because of that and a bit of logic-ing after, I pulled out from pursuing her in the end when I realised the game she was playing with me and that it wasn't going to end well for me but if I was anyone else I think she would have had me wrapped round her finger.

With hindsight, it was obvious she knew what she was doing and I have to give that to her, she had skill. The things she did were not clumsy and were in fact deliberate and no luck was involved. Previously I also had a male friend who was one of these so-called bad boys playas who successfully gamed women all the time and did almost all the same things above (except flashing some skin), and she was basically the female version. She is the only woman of her type out of all the women I've met over the years and it was a unique experience.

Hope this was informative.

lilastr · 2020-07-28T10:10:07+00:00

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Title	Does “Girl Game” exist?
Author	lilastr
Upvotes	18
Comments	85
Date	July 28, 2020 8:10 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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