anyone want to hop over and help out this poor pickmeisha?

Itchy-Transportation · 2020-01-08T12:04:24+00:00

Some of these relationship posts truly astound me. Girl, WHAT? He brushes his teeth every few weeks?? There's so many things, I can't decide what's worse. Insanity

cxllblocktango · 2020-01-08T11:59:06+00:00

why in gods name would she stay with this guy?? he’s filthy (“rarely showers” 🤢) and broke and ungrateful. whats going for him?? a big dick??? you can get that attached to someone who actually washes sis. move on.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-08T12:06:58+00:00

Honestly I think this one is beyond help. I was mortified reading that shit.

2020-01-08T12:28:15+00:00

Oh my god what is she DOING!

He’s 31 and can’t manage his finances or fucking shower. It’s BEEN time to let him go.

SimpleSyrups · 2020-01-08T12:08:37+00:00

This is the most horrifying thing I’ve ever read, holy shit. How can she not see that she’s paid his way, paid for her own gifts that he uses to lord over her, kept him alive? Baffled. I’m stunned. I hope she finds it in herself to leave him, because she’s got a lot of life ahead of her to live.

nebulaedust · 2020-01-08T12:38:09+00:00

JEEBUS CHRISTOS, how can anyone be with a person who doesn't dhower and brush teeth DAILY?

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-01-08T12:52:34+00:00

Has she been made aware of our sub? I don’t want t bombard her.

usedbuttcandle · 2020-01-08T22:32:52+00:00

Hi. OP here. Thanks for the invite. I updated my original post to better present both sides as fairly as I could. It's not so much for his sake, but for my own. I find myself rationalizing EVERYTHING sooner or later no matter how upsetting or traumatic, so I want to make sure that I have no excuse to not leave (if that makes sense).

Honestly, I've thought about leaving him for a couple of years, on and off. I thought I could help him, having been through severe depression myself. I guess what it really comes down to is the attachment to him. I'm working on finding a therapist I can afford with my job's new insurance but it isn't easy.

Mentally, I'm exhausted. I think about this relationship 24/7 and don't even know what thoughts to trust anymore. He's exhibited some gaslighting behaviors in the past and some worrying behaviors as well. When he talks to me on the phone, texts, video chats me, it feels cozy and familiar. As soon as I hang up and have time to think, I get really upset. All I can say is that my sister HATES him. She says he's manipulative and I act smaller when he's around. My friends who know every detail all tell me to leave. Me mother is indifferent and I cannot turn to her for advice, and I don't know if I would want to. She is still with the awful person who abused me growing up.

Everyone major person ever loved and trusted has majorly betrayed me and I found myself keeping them in my life after I swore I wouldn't. Fear of being alone I guess.

Anyway, I'm coughing up a lung right now, so I'm going to rest, but I'll browse this sub after some sleep.

2020-01-08T18:33:39+00:00

u/usedbuttcandle come here please.

Title	anyone want to hop over and help out this poor pickmeisha?
Author	mandoa_sky
Upvotes	38
Comments	19
Date	January 8, 2020 11:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/elrlti/anyone_want_to_hop_over_and_help_out_this_poor/
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