I really need advice... im alone.

vazeline200 · 2021-01-18T22:08:05+00:00

Please seek professional help. A psychologist. I’m being serious.

JMS2019 · 2021-01-18T22:12:18+00:00

Jezus dude, get yourself together honestly. When reading some posts you made, honestly go see a psychiatrist because you’re in way too deep. Your entire mindset is wrong, blaming everyone else but yourself.

If I can have a guess, the reason why you’re not successful in life is because you’ve not done anything to make yourself successful in life. So start with yourself, change to a positive and active mindset, go MGTOW for a while and make something of yourself... stop posting on every sub, get off the internet and put in the work. Then you’ll get there..

muricanwerewolf1 · 2021-01-18T22:46:08+00:00

Reading your posts, you're clearly all twisted up with anger at the world. You gotta let that go. First step dump whereareallthegoodmen, it's a crabs in the bucket loser copefest. While we agree on female nature, that's full blackpill nonsense. And women pick up on it, probably the only thing more repellent than neediness is that "I'm this close killing something" edginess.

While this sub is for sure misogynist by the standards of the modern world, we do not hate women, nor do we have no respect for them. We like women, obviously, otherwise we would be MGTOW virgins. We respect women in that they are people, flawed, and often entirely deluded about how the world works but still people. I can tell your problems with women have a feedback loop effect on how much you hate and do not respect them. I can tell you don't like them just by how you talk about them. Hating women ain't it.

Possibly your greatest problem is the fact that I see little introspection here. You are clearly pushing people away, then getting mad when they don't want to be around you. You seem to me just obviously unpleasant to be around. If someone felt the need to call the cops, you crossed a boundary in such a way they felt the only way to be rid of you was to get a guy with a gun to show up. I'm getting Taxi Driver vibes here. You need to figure out what you're saying and doing wrong. Find a therapist who can help you figure out what you're doing that freaks people out and work to change it.

constipulouspoon · 2021-01-19T06:53:09+00:00

Huge trend in AskTRP the past year or so is victim boys wondering why nearly every single woman they talk to is put off by them. Start by taking the perspective that if 100 women are being hostile towards you that maybe, just maybe, it's YOU and not every single woman on the planet. That's my two cents, but I agree with the others too. Seek professional help. If you feel the urge to self harm then you are ill and need help from a professional.

modern_soma · 2021-01-18T23:33:23+00:00

I can tell you're pornsick, stop watching pornography.

Atomz00 · 2021-01-18T22:32:18+00:00

name checks out

rabmcm32 · 2021-01-18T23:07:26+00:00

How old are you? What do you think the main problem is ? Your appearance? Or your manner of speaking / approach? Analyse and aim to improve it. Read the sidebar. Scrub up well. Dress well. Earn more money so you can afford a better lifestyle. Think outside the box. Care less about women for awhile and care for yourself. Male friends ? What have you done that everyone leaves your messages on “read”? Or are you using hyperbole?

intl_plyrs_clb · 2021-01-18T23:52:45+00:00

Looking at your post history: You need therapy help.

Get off the internet, look inward and fix your own demons first.

de-gen-er-ate · 2021-01-19T02:41:28+00:00

You need to speak to a professional. Theres no shame in it. I regularly see a psych even when my life is in order. No different than servicing your car. See GP and get it in motion

Savings-Ad-9393 · 2021-01-18T23:17:14+00:00

Try a coach from the red man group. Not normally a fan of coaches, you could use one tho.

P.a. Stay away from sketch coaches

Stryx71 · 2021-01-19T00:28:26+00:00

Idk if you really tried everything. Have you read the sidebar? Do you workout? Did you go through the malefashionadvice sub?

Improve your chances, my guy.

inkwind · 2021-01-19T01:52:23+00:00

Here's what to do/think about in orders of priority. I don't know you personally, but that doesn't change things.

Write down everything on paper. If you keep it in your mind, your mind will eventually lie to you. Paper is the source of truth. Not even digital, use physical paper. If you're depressed, your mind cannot even imagine improving itself. That's why you write things down.

Seek professional help for a while if you can. Not everyone has the luxury of it. But if you can, then get it asap.
You value women more than you value yourself. Why? Write down the reasons you can think about
Make a list of things under your control that you can improve, and get at it, one item at a time. You have slowly conditioned yourself into a hole, you'll have to slowly condition yourself out of it. This may be the hardest thing you'll do this year
Look up Patrice O Neal on youtube. Spend some time listening. What you are looking for is: how that guy developed confidence in himself.
Exercise consistently. in whatever way you can It gives confidence. This may be a very tough habit for you to maintain.

Attention from other people (men, women, everyone) is a lagging indicator. It comes much after you improve. Just don't abandon yourself again. Control what you can, and control it well.

There is nowhere to go but up from here. This is rock bottom dude.

Notes:

What you are experiencing is crabs in a bucket. People are messing with you to feel good about their own powerless existence. This is especially common among the people in the bottom rung and the top rung of social ladder. Why is it happening? Because they value themselves based on who they have power over, and what their peers think about them. That's exactly the same mentality that you've got.
It took you a long time to get into this situation, it'll take you a long time to get out. Same timeline is for anger. Write this point and internalize it as time goes. You are angry now, and will be for a long time. But you won't be angry forever.
Take responsibility for yourself. Accept that you are in a bad place, and you can responsibly pull yourself, that you got your back. Others react to you how you react to yourself. There's no going around it.

BBCinParis · 2021-01-19T11:20:01+00:00

What do you like or not like about yourself?

btt069 · 2021-01-19T12:14:24+00:00

focus on yourself. learning. bulking. achieving. making money. not blowing away money. things to do for you. and also meditate 1 hr per day at least.

if you cant handle it yourself. try getting counselling from a psychologist. good luck.

gcaa99 · 2021-01-19T17:07:32+00:00

Get help from professionals. You're carrying your previous interactions to new interactions without understanding, so basically you're at the point where you're self sabotaging

Title	I really need advice... im alone.
Author	Depressedbadger97
Upvotes	8
Comments	40
Date	January 18, 2021 9:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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