How do you determine a man's character?

JackGetsIt · 2017-07-28T22:15:26+00:00

This one's pretty easy. The problem lies where you want a guy to be a certain way and you block out red flags. You can't fall in love with a man then vet him. You need to keep your eyes open before the crush gets too deep.

Here are my tips.

Is he respected by the people he works with?
Is he respected by his friends?
Is he respected by his family?
Does he show respect to strangers and people below him (retail workers, children, etc)
Does a lot of drama surround him all the time?
How does he manage his finances?

Remember there's a big difference between cleverness and wisdom. People that have wisdom avoid situations where they have to use their cleverness.

HobbesTheBrave · 2017-07-28T19:09:53+00:00

What does he spend his money on? What does he work on in his 'free time'? Who does he spend his time with?

Answer every other question you have about him, once you've got a firm grip on those first three questions.

xertlust · 2017-07-29T03:35:47+00:00

I don't mean to sound trite, but one becomes a good judge of character when one possesses superior character. No lists are needed because you see with clear eyes. You know what that poor reaction, flash of anger or small bad habit portends for the future. And you have the emotional maturity to be protective of your limited supply of affection. Probably could have stopped a couple sentences ago lol.

sonder_one · 2017-07-30T21:55:19+00:00

Answer: You don't make the judgment yourself.

The entire reason the Red Pill exists is that women are terrible at making rational relationship decisions, instead being driven entirely by emotion.

That's what all Red Pill advice to men is: Stop trying to be the pragmatic choice, the "good on paper", and start learning to manipulate women's emotions, because that's the only thing that matters. Improving physical appearance is the most obvious form of emotional manipulation, "game" is another.

Every Red Pill forum complaint boils down to "Women don't feel the right emotions around me."

In India, they have a far lower divorce rate and report much greater marriage satisfaction with arranged marriages, where women don't choose their partners. Societies where men dominate the choosing have similar results.

The Red Pill is a bitter pill for men to swallow in many ways. If you're a woman, the chief bitterness is this: admitting that you're BAD at judging men's non-emotional value, and you always will be. You need to deal with that. Denial will only bring you pain.

OwnedAndLoveIt · 2017-07-29T03:50:54+00:00

Consistency.

Cock_Klepto · 2017-07-28T19:05:23+00:00

You observe his actions. All of them. Alternatively you can weigh his heart against a feather.

Much of it is very subjective and also depends on the individual in question. I do think though that there are times when humor can be telling. Obviously finding the same things funny is nice, but then there's also tasteless/violent things that some seem to joke about or find humorous.

Salohcin22 · 2017-07-28T18:35:28+00:00

In my experience, the lest fratty a guy acts and the lower the n count, the more his character tends to be intact. This isn't universal, but generally the more they care about ethics, are reasonable, and the less crappy things they've done, the better. I think the more open they are to marriage and the more invested they are in finding a life partner, the better. I think taking all of TRP values for finding what kinds of girls have a good character and flipping the gender for the most part works since we're all human.

You could get a guy friend that is just a friend (or maybe a gay friend) and have him talk to a prospective guy without him knowing you two are close. Guys open up to other guys pretty quick, and a simple "would you bang her?" question from your guy friend could reveal that a guy you thought had high moral character actually has low.

How he treats his family is sort of an indication, but that depends. If he holds resentment for them for a good reason(ex. neglect), then a sarcastic comment or something that would be rude to a random stranger might not be indicative of a bad moral character.

How he acts with his friends when they think no one is watching I think could be a good indication. If he takes an unethical solution to problems because it benefits him the most that can be a good indication of poor character.

How hypocritical he is or any double standards I'd say is a good one. A lot of red pill guys are guilty of this and make the community more toxic because they expect certain things, but if you were to reverse genders, that same expectation from the opposite gender were to cause them to be outraged/spiteful, so on.

How many white lies he gives you or how honest he is I think could also be an indication.

I hope that helps. Those are just some random tips from what I've seen.

Title	How do you determine a man's character?
Author	pisellipod
Upvotes	21
Comments	12
Date	July 28, 2017 5:31 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6q5csv/how_do_you_determine_a_mans_character/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/how-do-you-determine-a-mans-character.73193 https://theredarchive.com/post/73193

Comments