Am I out of his league?

Whisper · 2017-10-21T08:10:34+00:00

I've read the book "He's Just Not That In To You" a few years ago

If you still have it, set fire to it.

Failed connections usually happen for one of two reasons:

Man thinks too little of himself, lacks confidence, doesn't approach.
Woman thinks too much of herself, doesn't put in any effort, figures it's all his job.

TheWorldToCome · 2017-10-21T11:49:08+00:00

Nowadays women are going to be missing out if they aren't open to approaching or making it clear they are interested.

Cardiscappa · 2017-10-21T00:47:27+00:00

Make eyes at him. Make eye contact and smile and look down and then look back up. Play with your hair when you look down. When done subtly it's really effective. When you see him, light up - smile, eye contact and you can even do a tiny little wave. What I do is bring my hand up close the shoulder of the same side and wiggle my fingers back and forth while mouthing "hi" while at the same time do a gentle swing of my hips in the opposite direction of my waving hand. Think of cutsey girls in anime.

foolmoonnight · 2017-10-20T23:55:23+00:00

If you're questioning it, hes most likely questioning it too. Casually let him know you think he's cute.

Robocompany · 2017-10-20T23:59:09+00:00

Try to ask his help for homework or exams. Meet at a diner/coffee shop. Continue from there and let him know that you have a crush on him.

Willow-girl · 2017-10-21T19:56:54+00:00

but the reality is that if a guy really wanted you, he would make it happen.

Sadly, this. If you are already friendly and chatting with him, and he's not making a move, he's probably not interested. Don't take it personally -- could be that he's just focusing on his studies right now, or maybe already has a GF.

Some guys really are thick-headed, and you might push the envelope a little by suggesting getting coffee, etc., after class, but if he doesn't pick up the ball and run with it, I wouldn't expend too much energy.

unixygirl · 2017-10-21T18:23:09+00:00

Being chased is a great feeling but maybe it's just the environment you two are in...

Have you asked him to grab a drink or something after class? You could say "hey i'm really craving xyz want to come with me?" (think friendly and unassuming) and then if he accepts, really up the level of flirtation, touch his arm when you laugh, let him grab the door, get him to walk with you and and hold on to his arm. If you're in line with him somewhere or even in class talk softly and closely to him, lean your body close to his if standing around each other so you're in each other's "bubble". Something.

I don't think any man can resist a woman he's attracted to when there's sufficient flirtation / tension, but you really have to do that part. That triggers a chase.

I also don't blame you for not wanting to ask him out. I will say though that if you've tried everything you possibly can you'll need to ask yourself if getting out of your comfort zone and telling him how you feel is worth it if this man is really appealing to you. I'm not really sure how to do that? But if I were in that last effort situation I'd probably say "he can I talk to you?" and once we walk away somewhere I'd just flat out tell him my feelings ("you know i really like you, I think you're great" etc.) and then plainly just "do you feel the same way?". Anyway good luck!

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2017-10-21T01:02:23+00:00

I suggest to first make yourself approachable. Try to lock eyes with him and say hello. Continue doing this and see if any conversation strikes. If nothing more comes out of the greetings then he's just not that into you.

BokehClasses · 2017-10-21T21:45:03+00:00

Seriously what do you lose by making the frist move? Worst case is it doesn't work out. You have so much to gain if it does work out. If you do nothing you will regret it.

RainbowKitty77 · 2017-10-21T21:51:17+00:00

It's totally possible he thinks you aren't/wouldn't be interested. How approachable are you? I know I'm not at all lol. In the past I liked guys. They liked me too but I didn't find out until later. They said they didn't think I'd like them. Mean while I thought it was their job to put themselves out there

LateralThinker13 · 2017-10-24T20:52:11+00:00

Men are justifiably wary these days. Make your interest known. He may not know his own worth, too. You'd be surprised.

Boobear3 · 2017-10-22T20:36:22+00:00

Some guys are shy and rarely/never approach unless they have absolute proof they won't get rejected. If you truly are more attractive than him, then he is probably afraid of this rejection. You will have to give him obvious signs you're into him, or take matters into your own hands.

isherflaflippeflanye · 2017-10-24T02:24:03+00:00

Yes.

mwait · 2017-10-21T15:43:23+00:00

I would hate to let him get away and it makes me sad that we only have a couple more months together before we graduate.

Then swallow your pride and say something to him.

You repeated the phrase "I am too pretty for him" or some variation a whole hell of a lot in your post. There are so many women nowadays who think they are above taking the first step or think they deserve to be chased by the tall, dark, and handsome reformed bad boy... who end up single by the time they hit the wall. Take a step back for a second and try to suppress that kind of solipsism.

If you like him that much and he hasn't made a move, help him make it or make it yourself. Don't overthink things.

Title	Am I out of his league?
Author	Sugarblossom143
Upvotes	10
Comments	34
Date	October 20, 2017 11:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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