Worried my career path won't be ideal for my love/family life - need advice!!

Fantat · 2017-10-29T23:18:50+00:00

My mother is a biomedical scientist and a senior in her lab. Most of the people who work at her place are women and they actually had to make a conscious effort to get more men in and balance it out. She has been a fantastic mother to me and role model and many of the women at her work have families. Just because some thing is a typically male type of work does not mean it is not family friendly.

I myself work in business and all my colleagues/clients are men. They have fully supported my pregnancy and have been very sensitive.

Stem is not really different to any other kind of work when it comes to maternity leave and part time options.

On a personal level it's been good for me to grow up with a mother who is so intelligent and ambitious.

lafleur00 · 2017-10-30T17:48:31+00:00

I'm a new doctor and I consider it one of my "purposes" of being on this planet. However, my job will NEVER be more important than my personal happiness (which includes a happy relationship and eventually children). Just make your personal life a priority and there is no reason you can't fulfill your career goals as well.

justtenofusinhere · 2017-10-29T23:17:29+00:00

This is a simple issue of priorities. What is your number 1 priority? Treat it as such.

persephonv · 2017-10-29T23:01:02+00:00

Are marriage and children something you want?

AsOctoberFalls · 2017-10-30T03:34:36+00:00

I’m not in the medical field, but I am in STEM (I’m an electrical engineer). I find the balance is the same as any other job that is project oriented rather than task oriented. At times, I have to put in some extra hours to finish a project, but it’s not excessive.

I’ve not noticed my career interfering with my ability to attract a good man. I’m 37 and I met my wonderful boyfriend at work.

RubyWooToo · 2017-10-30T16:29:56+00:00

It really depends on what sort of job you prefer to pursue. Being a dentist, for example, is different than trying to become a cardiac surgeon. I recommend doing some research, both online and with the help of an adviser, to figure out what your options are. It's also worth connecting with women (either through your university or through career web sites like LinkedIn) who are established in the fields/positions you're interested in, and asking them about their work-life balance.

Pursuing and caring about your future career-- especially at your age when you should be learning your trade-- does not diminish your RMV. You diminish your RMV by letting your career define who you are as a person. What I mean by that is that your job should not be the most interesting or exciting thing about getting to you know you.

Makrii817 · 2017-10-31T20:54:35+00:00

I'm currently in dental school, so I don't know if it counts but I love it. I love science and working on the human body and the hands-on skills and problem solving that's needed. But one of the main reasons I chose to become a dentist is the great work-life balance. I see my patients, get to love my work, and then go home and take care of my family on a regular schedule. Working three to four days a week is normal and expected in the field, it's low stress and the money is steady. My husband is a trauma surgeon in residency though, and it can be a struggle balancing it. He loves his work though and he's dedicated to making our family work so we make it through. The medical field is always tough but as long as you get your priorities right in life, you can do it.

cabbagewagon · 2017-10-31T01:30:42+00:00

Not a lady in the med field, however I am an early childhood educator & can say there are plenty of mothers I know personally in the field. A benefit I see is that you would be able to afford high-quality childcare when you choose to have children. Naturally, I imagine you’re passionate about being married & having children, so making choices that will positively affect your family is important. You may have to face these choices later on, but if you are currently unmarried then your major in college may be irrelevant. If you’re choosing a career that involves a lot of traveling (away from your family), or long unpredictable hours (being a doctor on call), for example, that may become an issue later on but you will make the right choice when it comes to that point.

If you are suited for science and are willing to commit to the rigorous schooling, go for it. Make responsible choices that benefit you and make you happy. That’s part of self care. You can always find a job that is well-suited for family, and with a degree in biochem you’re likely to find better paying jobs.

If you’re hoping to stay at home with your children once you have them, don’t rack up debt that will fall on your husbands shoulders at that point. Any degree is going to cost a lot of money, so just be smart about debts.

HB3234 · 2017-11-02T23:45:02+00:00

You can definitely have a lucrative part time career, especially if you either hyperspecialize in a city (only do this one tricky kidney surgery) or do GP or pediatrics in a more rural setting. But you must be aware that med schooland residency/fellowship are not just fulltime but overtime commitments, so having kids through those years can be insanely challenging or impossible.

Title	Worried my career path won't be ideal for my love/family life - need advice!!
Author	Rugeanu881
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	October 29, 2017 9:54 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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