How long did the "honeymoon phase" last for you and what was that like?

Ariel125 · 2018-03-03T00:13:31+00:00

we are 7 years married and still in it.

Jikira · 2018-03-03T01:28:40+00:00

I feel I am still in it with my SO going on 10 months. He is the first and last thing I see each an every day. I still get super giddy and blush when he talks. I love just staring at his face and playing with his hair. I love the way he holds me after a long day and his smile. My bf and I literally spend all day together since we live together an go to the same school, yet I don't feel any less sick of him. The only thing that changes really is that we are more responsible with our time. In the beginning, we would just sit in and have sex all day or play video games. Now we are more like let's wash the dishes together and clean up our house, and work out, and do homework before all of that.

tempintheeastbay · 2018-03-02T23:07:55+00:00

For me, there was in fact a distinct honeymoon phase, which means there was also a pretty clear end to the honeymoon phase. That was heightened and made more extreme because our 18-mo relationship mark coincided with some life changes (increase in work hours and time apart, health issues) that also put a damper on the amount of fun/sexy time.

That being said, it wasn't a drop in happiness or relationship satisfaction. The % of times I get butterflies when I see my BF has fallen, but we also didn't have much a true friendship when we first started dating (we hadn't known each other very long). The development of that friendship alongside our romantic relationship has been such a joy! Now we have so many inside jokes and such a deeper level of intimacy and knowledge of each other.

We feel much more like a true team now. There's less suspense, which means I do think we need to make an intentional effort to create romantic tension, but it feels more fulfilling!

Not to get NSFW but I think our sex life is actually a good kind of metaphor for this. We have way better sex than we ever have, because we know what we like, but it's a different feeling and type of interaction than the first time, where the "will we or won't we" tension is there!

samjsmrnm · 2018-03-03T02:11:01+00:00

Married for 3 years (together for 5) and we have never left the honeymoon phase 😊. He is a good man and I find so much joy in making him happy.

asteadyheart · 2018-03-03T02:28:16+00:00

Been together almost 3 years and honestly the only times it hasn't felt like it is when there is some great outside stress.

Like a family member passing away or a family member in the hospital. It's been a wild ride, but it only was hard because we had to work closely together to survive it.

Once the stress is over, we come back together and are even more grateful. I like to think it's different from us falling out of love or resenting each other, or even hitting a rough spot.

It's just... Life.

girlpearl · 2018-03-03T14:04:09+00:00

Just out of curiosity, what are red pill tactics? I believe I am using them like doing the dishes and stuff but what are some better ones if you don’t mind me asking? My bf and I are five years strong and love each other more everyday & also are chill with Trump so not sure if that has to do with it.

thelittlestpotato · 2018-03-03T03:02:56+00:00

I never noticed it ending, but at the same time I see that our relationship has matured over the last three years. If anything, we've become more passionate, more caring, and more comfortable with each other. Yes, there are times of stress, as in any relationship, but overall time has only brought us closer together. When you put effort in, a relationship will always feel fun and fulfilling.

focuslady · 2018-03-03T05:28:53+00:00

My relationship started off so rough. He was in a hard place and we’ve had some very challenging circumstances. We were on, off, and friends for 2.5 years before finally committing last summer, around the time I was red pilled. All of the challenges made it hard to fall in love. We’re making up for lost time, and falling now... and I have a feeling it’s going to keep going deeper for a very very long time. Nice to see others on this thread who have long term honeymoon stories :)

[deleted] · 2018-03-03T14:34:43+00:00

After 7 years our affection and love for each other has only grown daily.

Rivkariver · 2018-03-04T21:10:37+00:00

I don’t really buy into that stuff. It seems like maybe a crush could be that way. Each day we love each other more. The more you trust, the more you love. Trust takes time. I have trust issues, so time makes things better.

[deleted] · 2018-03-06T04:23:19+00:00

Over ten years for me :) I'm a lucky lady.

[deleted] · 2018-03-03T21:01:48+00:00

I do not think I have ever had one in my current relationship. We got to know one another very well before sex and serious dating and even more so before full committiment. Very eyes wide open. Perhaps it is our age and prior collective experience. We love one another deeply but the whole "starry eyed in love" was never a thing. I still do sweet things for him all the time and love enthusiastically, however it is my personality which I find sustainable for the long term. Relationships are work and if it always felt like a vacatiin...a honeymoon...I would be worried.

Title	How long did the "honeymoon phase" last for you and what was that like?
Author	NewMindRedPill
Upvotes	21
Comments	14
Date	March 2, 2018 10:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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