From November 2020 until January 2021 I dated one of the most toxic men I’ve ever met in my entire life. Not only did he cheat on his girlfriend with me, he was able to convince his entire friend group and social circle that I was an evil seductress that forced him to continue the affair. He threatened to kill himself should I tell his girlfriend anything and my friends and therapist also convinced me to not say anything because it’s „none of my business“ and „his job to end the relationship, not yours“.

But on Thursday something happened that convinced me otherwise. My best friend is his flatmate and she was the only one that was convinced he was a lying, manipulative asshole and showed him her disgust by completely ignoring him. He turned everyone in the flat against her and they all ganged up on her and threw her out because she created a „toxic environment “.

That evening I had my friend stay at my place. She was crying and completely shattered because of this scumbag that never had to face any consequences for his violent and disgusting behaviour (he frequently yelled and broke stuff whenever he was angry too). The men in his flat backed him up and acted like he was the sane one and we were the crazy hysterical bitches.

So i decided to go against all advice I received and do what I thought was right and I contacted his gf through ig and had a long phone talk.

She thanked me. She told me she was beyond proud of me and that I saved her life. She said that he is a narcissist and a sociopath that almost killed her once, that he had horrible anger issues and that he was her first boyfriend from when she was 18. She had tried to get out of the relationship many times before but this time she finally could go through with it as he obviously lied and cheated. This woman is 21 years old and even though she dated an absolute mad man for 3 years she sounded like one of the strongest and smartest people I’ve ever talked to. She said we have to warn everyone about this guy. His new friends, women in his life and even tell his family about what kind of person he is.

I am proud of myself and I showed integrity and acted ethically. I don’t care about the people that told me not to get involved, I did the right thing and I gained a new friend though it.

I can’t wait to see this fuckers life fall apart now.