I hate feeling so alone.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-02-26T00:57:19+00:00

I think its far easier to learn to live alone than to actually find good friends.
Learn to live alone, make a very fun and fruitfull life for yourself and maybe friends will come to you attracted by your awesome life(filter the parasites of course the vast mayority are).
I can die alone now no problem its amazing, freedom.

aniani04 · 2021-02-26T01:23:43+00:00

The only true friends you get to keep are the ones made when you were under 18, the older you get, the harder it is to get true loyal friends. It's like what we preach to women about getting married young, the same goes for true friendships for guys.

Any friendship that passes the 10 years mark between guys becomes very hard to shake, probably will last a lifetime unless some thot intervenes, they're known to be wreckers of those long friendships.

Sir_manalot · 2021-02-26T01:24:57+00:00

How do i learn to be selfish and just do me unapolegtically?

It is a long process and you must be ready to destroy your pride so you can become what you want to be.

First, you need self-respect, confidence and discipline to become who you want.

Why? If you cannot take control of yourself, you will never be able to change yourself. You will always be at the mercy of others.

How do you get those things? Build yourself up, take control.

Aka Lift (to take control of your body), Learn meditation (take control of your mind, the most important one especially in the modern age...if you can only do one, this is the one) and build wealth (control ones own agency).

Also, read “no more mr. nice guy.” Understand that a lot of your issues stem from fear and insecurity that you unknowingly have. To beat the problem you must atleast get a rough idea as to why.

This might take years in all honesty to fully “complete” what you want. But you will notice changes starting at two months (you will not notice anything at first, do not submit).

Also, kindness is not a bad trait to have (it just needs to be directed at the right people, the real friends you will run into someday as an example). Do not sacrifice your character or you will live to regret it due to how hard it is to get it back (many people fall into the trap of going to far and end up becoming hollow shells consumed by trying to get more).

You need to get the strength and will to be able to not give a fuck. The rest will naturally follow honestly.

Edit: if you fail, just try again tomorrow. It isn’t easy, but nothing is. And if you fail while trying, you should be proud as most men never even got the chance to even try.

But really, you are not going to fail. Even if you fall 3000 times, you can just get up and succeed the next day.

SnooDrawings4726 · 2021-02-26T01:23:40+00:00

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IceyBear988 · 2021-02-26T01:40:52+00:00

You have been fed with the "power of friendship" bullshit like i did since a kid. These things never existed, the so called friends are just a dependency of people they use to get to their goals. If they achieve their goal with their help, itt "friend" to them. It's tough, it's never easy but once you seen it and accept it you golden. Also reminder the "power of friendship" and "power couple" is the same bullshit.

PorkBomber · 2021-02-26T03:51:39+00:00

Get a dog. Doggos > humans.

CoinSwapTrader · 2021-02-26T02:20:57+00:00

Vampires depend on the kindness of their food to feed themselves...stop feeling bad for thinking about yourself first, because they are doing the same and making you feel guilty for thinking about yourself...your love is what they exploit and use against you.

OldFashionedNerdAlt · 2021-02-26T03:28:50+00:00

20% of millennials in the US report having 0 friends. Think about that.

What's happened is that men are not allowed to socialize in male-exclusive spaces as part of their membership in institutions like college and work. Women completely change the social dynamic of groups.

But, this is all largely intentional as part of an effort to undermine the American constitutional system by attacking the core of independent political organization and activism (men). There's a reason why RAND corporation and DoD were involved with DiGRA and the subsequent gamergate, and the suddenly flood of woke culture promotion following Occupy Wall Street. Also, most OWS organizers admit that there was a set of women that sabotaged the movement (men tend to be goal-oriented, whereas women tend to be make-this-about-me oriented).

2021-02-26T02:58:47+00:00

I suggest you work on being content alone, then start adding friends into the mix. The peace of mind you're seeking is ultimately found within. If you rely on other people to quell your loneliness, you're putting your emotional well being in their hands. Bad idea.

baulrog76 · 2021-02-26T05:38:00+00:00

Try not to think of it as being alone but as being free.

sacandbaby · 2021-02-26T04:26:09+00:00

When u get real old, your good friends get dementia and become very mean. Then, you have to let them go. I can't take any useless negativity in my life.

Mawoto · 2021-02-26T05:53:46+00:00

I dont know how old are you. But i think you have issue being attached to someone and to depend on someone, doesn't mean as in romantic relationship, even friendship is what is your issue.

And i was same as you, and like it or not, today there is NO REAL FRIENDS. Only those fabricated, double face. Those people can throw you under the bus without second thought.

What i have learnt is.....being alone and living in solitude is so much powerful than to have "REAL FRIENDS" . Those real friends will never try to understand you, never try to be by your side, they will circle around as long as they can, then they will drop you.

Here for example about what trigger me do not have any friends at all. I always wanted to get out from my country and to live somewhere else. My friends were so jealous of me and my goals, (which is was my fault telling them) they always try to tell me:

"Oh you will be alone","Oh it will be hard","Why you do want to leave, stay here with us","If every young people leave, our country will be just elder people, we need to stay here and to fix our country"

This is crab mentality. Now i live in Italy and have the best time of my life at 32. I have also 2 business, remote companies. But they are still bitter and angry at me of my success. they tried to guilt trip me a lot, unless i delete every social media out there. I only have MY business FB account so i can do ads.

So your friends are judging you now, and you dont have any balls to tell them to fuck of? Why?

jeetz09 · 2021-02-26T13:32:30+00:00

Trust me I grew up being surrounded by friends and family. Now that I’ve been living alone, it’s so peaceful, liberating and addicting. I can do whatever the fuck I want!!!

tropicislandexplorer · 2021-02-26T02:26:44+00:00

What kind of things do you like to do? You could join a motorcycle club, sailing club, RC airplane club, gun club, hunting/fishing club, Moose lodge, Masonic , etc..

Find some like minded people. I know exactly what you're talking about with the keeping up with the joneses types. Probably don't join a golf club, you'd likely run into the joneses there. lol

Alexius_von_Meinong · 2021-02-26T02:57:12+00:00

"How do i stop giving a fuck and just start doing what the fuck I wanna do? and how do i tell people to go fuck themselves when they try to lecture/judge me about my life that isnt hurting them?"

Do you know what you want to do? If yes, then start doing it. Make a gradual transition to paying more attention to your interests and your projects and withdrawing from the people who don't care about you. You don't have to tell people to go fuck themselves (this is called "burning your bridges behind you"). Just focus more on yourself and less on them. If it turns out that any of them actually do care about you, it will become obvious. If none of them do, then they will drift away, and that's okay.

realChebz · 2021-02-26T05:55:09+00:00

I was in similar position couple years ago, I moved to a new place but it didn't really work out for me. I could probably blame the scamdemic and that all social life died in the city though so I traded shit friends for no friends. If you feel like talking PM me.

alienmuseum · 2021-02-26T06:15:44+00:00

If you don't want to hang out with them, then don't. You decide who you let in your life. You make that decision.

SnooDrawings4726 · 2021-02-26T12:06:02+00:00

I struggle with this also, I was raised as a people pleaser and had a really hard time telling people no... made to feel guilty if I don’t oblige etc... it takes a while but you need to start putting yourself first... weighing wether or not whatever it is is in your best interest (it’s what everyone else does) ... I also noticed the people I was there for always, we’re almost never there for me when I needed them, and had zero problem telling me no for whatever reason...

It will come as shock to the people you’ve always been reliable too... but you have to train your mind to not fear letting others down, it’s not your job or responsibility to look after everyone, or constantly be there for everyone... I actually like helping others, and being there for people, but not to the extent that I’m setting myself on fire to keep others warm

Don’t ever feel bad (or allow others to make you feel bad) for doing things for yourself... learn how to say no, you don’t need to be a dick about it either, but be assertive, be sure of yourself, not arrogant or obnoxious, but confident and strong with who you are... if you don’t love yourself, no one else will

banned_in_3_2_1_ · 2021-02-26T14:28:32+00:00

Learn to care for yourself and respect yourself more. Accept and appreciate yourself. Introspection, alone time, solo activities makes the process easier.

Soon enough you'll be taking decisions that benefit you, not sacrificing yourself for others.

I'm no psychologist, but this kinda worked for me. All the best.

closer_1 · 2021-02-26T01:40:42+00:00

Join the military and find some true brothers.

furyanwolf · 2021-02-26T04:46:05+00:00

You should look up Ayn Rand and read about Objectivism

https://youtu.be/asery3UeBj4

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2021-02-26T08:09:53+00:00

Do not be dependent on validation. You will never get any validation until you can charm people (ie free good feelings, while not being a doormat) or provide value.

show-me-the-numbers · 2021-02-26T11:24:33+00:00

There are no friends, only business associates.

Ban-circumvention · 2021-02-27T05:39:14+00:00

Sounds like you’re dependent on them because you’re afraid to be alone

TricksterOfFate · 2021-02-27T13:26:59+00:00

You should learn to be able to live alone without needing others. If you can find worthy people in your road, good. But you should not need others in your life to be happy or that will make you weak and only leave you in pain.

Thinkingman21 · 2021-02-26T11:53:19+00:00

I have one friend son that I keep in contact with. Every other one was selfish and gets what they deserve. I literally wish marriage on them now.

Move on and find a mgtow friend. Most don't know they are what they are including mgtow.

michael_scarn_lives · 2021-02-28T19:02:09+00:00

Solitude versus isolation. Be content in your own company - that’s a tough skill to hone. But you can do it - that does not mean be isolated - which is different. Enjoy the company of others when you are with them at work or at the pub but be content in who you are

Title	I hate feeling so alone.
Author	Helpmgtow
Upvotes	53
Comments	46
Date	February 26, 2021 12:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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