She doesn't want to be monogamous with me but still wants me to court her.

Herdsengineers · 2021-02-26T14:50:10+00:00

so you have a transactional relationship with this girl. you spend $$$, you get to fuck her with a condom on, and then she leaves and has the same deal with other guys. she's using her pussy as a meal ticket for being wined, dined, and showered with attention. is that what you want? sounds like probably not.

if you want just one that's all your's, she's not it. and being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman. the sooner you get rid of her, the sooner you open up space in your life that you can try inserting a new woman into. do you think you'll meet the next woman while you're still wining and dining this one?

true abundance and focusing on yourself means being willing to cut her loose and go without a woman for a while until you meet the next candidate. you'd be better off buying a little more stock with that money instead of spending it on getting into the pants of some girl that is also letting other guys rail her.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2021-02-26T14:36:46+00:00

Its NEVER your place to bring up a relationship. Don’t bring that shit up again. I would probably withdraw a bit. Stop buying her expensive dinners too now.

Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, women are the gatekeepers of sex”.

lolomotif12 · 2021-02-26T16:12:42+00:00

Sounds like you two have switched roles and you're her plate seeking commitment lol

What ever you're doing do the opposite.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-02-26T15:01:41+00:00

this should be fun.

"no one likes going backwards"

for men, it's women taking sex off the table (frequency, urgency, etc).

For women, it's men redacting their TAR (time, attention, resources)

give it a shot, withdraw your TAR a bit--- so she may break, or if she feels your SMV/RMV is high enough, it'll draw her closer.

but by treating her like a GF already, you gave away your TAR too soon.

ModsCantBanMe2020 · 2021-02-26T14:37:43+00:00

You need options. If you don't have options, chicks can give you a hard time over a $50 date. With options, you don't have to deal with that bullshit.

linkofinsanity19 · 2021-02-26T14:53:03+00:00

The scarcity is strong with this one. You can not be the one to bring up monogamy first. Also, why would you be required to "court" a woman that's just told you she hasn't finished sampling other dicks before deciding if she's decided if yours is her favorite? You are clearly not her top option so here's what you do. Keep her as a plate, wear a rubber, DON'T spend any extra money on her, get some better prospects, and ALWAYS be working on yourself to keep these situations from happening in the future.

Having only 1 woman is a surefire way to get oneitis if you aren't a man with options already. You clearly aren't on the level yet of getting into an LTR. You need to play the minors a bit more before you make that move up to the majors. Spin more plates, get more experience as you improve yourself, then, when THEY start asking YOU for a relationship you can actually pick who you think will be the best LTR for you.

Tambamwham · 2021-02-26T21:51:02+00:00

Dude... drinks on a week night and back your place to fuck should be the extent of your relationship.

antioch94 · 2021-02-26T15:52:26+00:00

You shouldn’t bring up exclusivity that was bullshit and this chick seems to be a promiscuous girl with high n count. Why did you even want to be exclusive with her? Let me guess.. because you have no other options. You don’t have options because you have no time for that and now you want to keep having sex with her and somehow try to make her your gf? You want to spend less on her? :D WTF you don’t want one woman you are only able to get ONE woman that’s it

Yolemmegetsomehelp · 2021-02-26T17:40:57+00:00

Listen man, this woman is having sex with other men besides you. You're entering into a dangerous land by continuing to see her. There's a huge possibility of her getting pregnant and either lying to saying it's yours or possibly getting you to take the fall for another guys nut. I'd retreat ASAP.

unnatural_by_nature · 2021-02-26T21:47:36+00:00

This woman is so far ahead of you with game and she’s gonna eat you alive. Run and don’t look back because you are not equipped to handle this one.

TheSpiciestSalsa · 2021-02-26T18:52:09+00:00

NEVER GO IN RAW DO YOU HEAR ME NEVER! I DONT CARE IF SHES SOME HOE, YOUR LTR, OR YOUR WIFE. NEVER. GO. RAW. IF SHE GETS PREGNANT YOU HAVE NO SAY IN THE MATTER. YOU ARE FUCKED. BIRTH CONTROL IS NOT 100% PROTECTION AND BITCHES CAN’T BE TRUSTED WHEN ITS ON THEM TO HANDLE THE BIRTH CONTROL.

redrio100_rtn · 2021-02-26T22:26:50+00:00

Yoga & wine dates

Fruit, sandwiches, and wine at the park dates

Weed & a view dates

Hikes (then taco truck)

Gym dates

Biking dates

Museum dates

Dancing date (hip hop lounge, salsa club)

And never ever ask a bitch about monogamy again. If she wants that you’ll know. Never, bruh.

Honestly, you should make a tinder & a bumble and focus on knocking a new bitch. Cuz you been out here trickin on and begging on this one.

Restaurant are never an option. Ever. Unless you celebrating an anniversary.

You in the mood to trick off on Valentine’s Day? Get a fukn room with a hottub in it, put some flowers on the bed, and surprise her with it after a movie and a double cheeseburger from McDonald’s.

If a bitch ever says you never take her to eat at nice places and you really like her.... tell her you will this weekend, then proceed to take the bitch to chic-fil-a

Push a line.

donnymufc · 2021-02-26T16:47:49+00:00

Why the fuck are you spending so much money on a fuck buddy??

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-02-27T00:11:36+00:00

Her: "I want you to court me, and spend money on me and make me feel SPECIALLLLLL! Oh, mongamy? Wut? Nooooooooooo! I am on the CC! I will be out getting fucked by every Outlaw Biker, Escaped Mental Patient and Drug Dealer I can get my hands on!"

AskTRP: Punt This Cunt.

SublimePimp · 2021-02-27T01:20:55+00:00

You gotta have some dignity dude. You’re basically paying to fuck her but unlike a prostitute, you have to also spend hours entertaining her on dates that you don’t even want to go on or pay for. So you’re also her time hoe. She’s controlling the frame hard and you’re capitulating due to scarcity. I’d rather just not fuck her.

reduce $$ amount

The dollar amount should be reduced to fuckin zero. You dont want to pay so you’re simply not going to. If she’s not down to fuck on your budget then fuck her. That’s it.

Title	She doesn't want to be monogamous with me but still wants me to court her.
Author	Bigmachiavelli
Upvotes	9
Comments	57
Date	February 26, 2021 2:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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