Being "softer"

FlouncyMcTwinkle · 2021-04-08T12:28:22+00:00

It seems quite a subjective term and you might do better gently probing him on how he would explain it. You don't have to pull it apart with him, but gently enquire if he could elaborate on what that would manifest as.

I'd interpret it as being more gentle, approachable, vulnerable. Looking at it as 'less hard' might help you conceptualize it.

EvieFire · 2021-04-09T00:23:38+00:00

I love your tone in these replies -- how you accept everyone's advice so gracefully and non-defensively!

HappilyMrs · 2021-04-08T18:16:32+00:00

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rosesonthefloor · 2021-04-08T12:43:41+00:00

I agree with Flouncy, I think “less hard” is a great way to approach it. Think of what “hard” connotes - things like immovable, strong, heavy, serious - and aim for things like fluid/flexible, vulnerable, light, and playful.

I don’t know if this would be helpful to you, but I naturally carry my weight in my heels, so if I’m not thinking I can have a heavier/louder step. I’ve taught myself to walk on the balls of my feet which is quieter/softer, a bit more graceful, and makes my calves look great!

I would also ask him a bit more as to what softer means to him, or where he wants you to be be softer. More physically soft? Emotionally soft? Appearance-wise?

happy_petite_spartan · 2021-04-08T12:36:57+00:00

I think it means to overall offer a more yielding and nurturing energy. When you desire something from him or from a situation, instead of demanding it outright or a strong vocalisation, at times it may be more about gentle persuasion or subtle encouragement towards the desired outcome so long as the outcome is met.

It's hard to really acquire a quality like being more soft but I think it's important to differentiate softness from making you feel weak, not feeling empowered or not being honest etc. about how you feel. I think it's a lot about how you express certain things.

ExactYam5502 · 2021-04-14T13:42:44+00:00

Start here...

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/56de6i/be_his_soft_place_to_land/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

kclanton80 · 2021-05-06T13:28:11+00:00

Treat him like a king and you will be his queen. Try watching some old movies from when men were men, and women were women.

He leads..you follow. You trust his decision making. You let him live his life without trying to shape him in any way. Your interactions with him are merely focused around trying to find ways to please him and being someone a man would enjoy spending time with.

Look up Rhadha. Submissive wife happy life on youtube. She has some great tips for this.

Puzzleheaded_Hat2071 · 2021-05-08T02:16:41+00:00

I would say try to smile more (and smize!), laugh/giggle more easily (sometimes we find things amusing, let yourself express that!), light touches and leaning in, do the princess Diana look (head tilted down and looking up). I think these little touches can go a long way towards making someone “softer.” Also, have a ton of patience and be able to go with the flow. Honestly, I would aim to emulate the general happiness and aura of a young kindergarten teacher :) good luck!

Title	Being "softer"
Author	HappilyMrs
Upvotes	25
Comments	16
Date	April 8, 2021 12:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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