Open relationship, got fucked

makinator9001 · 2021-05-30T15:18:31+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong when she asked, if anything you maintained frame by saying yes. However, as others pointed out, it was a done deal, whether you said yes or no she had moved out and just wanted to keep squeezing your resources. I'm guessing she gets freebies from you, otherwise why would she want to stay.

Now you gotta move on, if you want her to remain a side plate is for you to decide, but honestly for a girl you cared about as much as her I would just ghost her forever and keep on with your live. Keeping her close will be a mental torture for you.

euroBoi890 · 2021-05-30T16:01:58+00:00

Are you a cuck or something dump that whore

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themostgianthorse · 2021-05-29T20:52:17+00:00

“She asked me if we would like to be in an open relationship.”

It was not a question.

It was an announcement.

chrisindub · 2021-05-30T00:50:32+00:00

Girls only ask for an open relationship AFTER they fucked someone.

Sorry bro. She is already checked out.

PabloEscalera · 2021-05-29T20:55:58+00:00

Open relationships are rarely something both parties want, usually the higher value person mentions the OLTR and the lower value person, acqueisces, so it's essentially an ultimatum.

Just next her lol

PumpMyKicks · 2021-05-29T20:52:39+00:00

Drop her. Now. She is already checked out bro. You need to break up with her now and start spinning plates again. Once a girl is fucking other dudes she has obviously already moved on. Its gonna hurt for you obviously and im not gonna discount that.

Rule 1: A girl should be loyal to you sexually.
Rule 2: If you are high enough value YOU go get some other box
Rule 3: Get your lifestyle up bro. You need to start thinking about going out to the gym.

Its not about being allowed to see more girls too. The moment she asked to be in an open relationship and you said yes, you became a beta.

I'm being harsh because I know you need to hear it. Ive been there and I'd need to hear it too. Dump her ass, move on, refine your frame and your mental point of origin.

matan6663 · 2021-05-29T21:04:16+00:00

This shit happened dude, if you've been with a girl for a while it is natural that you might grow affection for her, you are not a psychopath.

But, as a man you should decide the course of your relationship, if you have problems with her fucking another dude then you have to next her. Open relationship is not for you.

You can't make a whore your housewife.

You can develop feelings in an open relationship but this shit is really hard to maintain and require sexual maturity and you should be fully OK with her fucking other dudes.

30DaystoSolstice · 2021-05-29T23:58:53+00:00

Leave. But make sure you anal fuck her before leaving

PimPedOutGeese · 2021-05-29T22:00:56+00:00

Everyone that said something is pretty on point but I just wanted to talk about the “open relationship” dynamic.

There is absolutely no way a man can win in this relationship.

The benefit of an open relationship is the ability to see whom ever you choose with your partners blessing. Let’s look at the ability to flex this option:

How easy is it for a man to get a woman? It takes effort, work, game, etc... How easy is it for a woman to get a man? A swipe? Just lie down on your back?

So just how much more often are you able to flex that “open” dynamic of an open relationship compared to your partner? It’ll never be in equal ground. This type of relationship only benefits a woman.

sicrm · 2021-05-29T22:59:53+00:00

once she asks for an open relationship, she’s informing you the relationship is over (it’s already been for a while.)

largepaycheckaddict · 2021-05-29T23:37:41+00:00

The only types of women who ask for “open relationships” are wicked, evil and out to hurt you. If a woman actually gave two shits about you other than for a dicking, she would not be asking for an open relationship.

Don’t even give women like this the time of day. Just ghost/ignore them. These women are the modern day equivalent of witches.

sauceyzaddy · 2021-05-29T23:39:13+00:00

My bro you’ve developed a case of “Oneitis”. Do not remain attached to women who disrespect you by asking for a open relationship. Never get attached to another person nor should you develop a mindset that “you’ll be happy only IF she stayed”. My friend nothing lasts forever.

Best wishes.

zino193 · 2021-05-30T06:48:07+00:00

Masturbation is not improvement.

Also - if the girl asks you to fuck other guys - it's done - you are not her daddy anymore - you are substitutable. You get to be her emotional support animal after that.

Also , how are you this arrogant? Who gave you permission to think you are worth a shit after this basic of a fail? You are Sir Cucks-a-lot and you need to regain your balls by game and slaying.

So you found a artsy girl, emotionally available, overtly affectionate - and thought she is long term prospect? My dude - no, balanced women do not open up to losers - easy come, easy go. Also you need a mom.

Here's the deal: You don't get to share your feelings with women that follow you. With women that share you. To women that want you. Your mistery, their magnetic attraction comes from your groundedness. They are not there to carry your emotional burdens. You are the man, you are genetically programed to differentiate between fleeting emotions and life changing events and decisions. You are made to feel less, and be more reasonable.

That's some inner game you need to deal with - your need for validation and emotional support. And it's the need that is the problem. Ironically - you fix yourself by going out, playing sports, being a cool guy, finding other cool people and vibing. Pondering your insecurities DOES NOT FIX YOUR INSECURITIES. Refueling your mind with positive references and genuine connections and stimulating experiences is what clears your mental RAM and repairs the bad sectors.

Emotions are like a fire, the more you feed it with your focus, the bigger they grow.

And this is for all your trauma-fillic motherfuckers that are obsessed with how they feel. Dude - there's kids out there that see their father killed in front of them, and you're complaining about them not indulging in your complaints as a childn when you got bullied. Take a step back and imagine the ideal parenting environment these therapists and "trauma" specialists preach and advocate for - IT NEVER EXISTED IN THE HISTORY OF MANKIND. All the men you admire are debunking the myth of "everything is trauma" just by them existing. It is not a concidence that the more someone does theraphy the more reasons he finds he needs theraphy. The mind will deliver what you aks of it.

You aren't broke, you are just self-involved. Nothing in your past is stopping your present - APART FROM DWELLING ON THE PAST.

Now get out there and fuck a bartender they heard it all, and odds are you'll not be biggest blabber mouth she fucked this week.

redditisnowtrash · 2021-05-30T05:14:50+00:00

"Even if other girls arent as hot or intelligent as this one, and statistics arent on my side. Technically we are still in a relationship"

Yeah you've still got one-itis for this wench. GTFO to preserve your mind

MattyAnon · 2021-05-30T00:01:30+00:00

You agreed to an open relationship with a girl you were being exclusive with, without you yourself having great other options?

What did you expect to happen???

Technically we are still in a relationship, but does anybody have experience how to play this to my advantage?

Do what you should have done to start with: GET MORE OPTIONS.

evenbiggermitch · 2021-05-29T23:03:21+00:00

As Jay-Z said. On to the next one.

Ivan_The_Reddish · 2021-05-30T06:04:54+00:00

You've lost control of the relationship, cut your losses and bail.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-05-30T14:31:45+00:00

you're "red pill" and you really thought you were gonna win in an open-relationship with a woman? you didn't even set boundaries to not fuck people that you both know?

it sucks dude but you cucked yourself... your relationship is over... it's time to get real... this reads like a troll post tbh

thecheezecake · 2021-05-30T03:30:42+00:00

Even if other girls arent as hot or intelligent as this one, and statistics arent on my side.

That's scarcity mentality. There is a shit ton of girls better than her. She fucked the alpha and is keeping you in the back for leftovers. Come on man, I know you know the answers to your questions already but don't wanna swallow the truth.

These type of girls are for the streets no matter how magical the connection is. You can have a girl as hot as intelligent but 10x more invested in you. Even better, you can have more than one.

You are entering prime age, this is your time to shine. Level up yourself to a new high never reached. Stop dwelling, maybe fuck her on the side as you transition (I wouldn't) and move on.

pablitosocool · 2021-05-29T23:04:45+00:00

she for the streets.

sleep with her whenever there aren’t any other prospects

rickmackdaddy · 2021-05-30T13:25:15+00:00

How to play to your advantage: 1. Plates a spinnin’. You will have some lag time to get up to speed but get on that now. Fire up dating apps in parallel, ask out every woman you thought about asking out in the last year, hit up friends for referrals, hit up your ex’s, all right now. Get distracted and get other partners online ASAP. 2. Up your sexual demands with the first one. If she wants to be with you, you’re now looking for (insert sexual desires here). Cool if she’s not down, no pressure, but if she wants to come over you want the things you want. 3. Your plate quality will improve in just a few weeks/months and your only care about this one will be the fun new things she’s doing for you in the bedroom. As your options increase, her desire for you will too, thus your leverage.

rpbb9999 · 2021-05-29T21:03:52+00:00

Don't sweat it, happens in some way to all of us.

Comfortable-Echo-618 · 2021-05-30T02:07:02+00:00

Proves a lot of these so called red pilled dudes are just a blow job away from the plantation. Dumbass move.

acos12 · 2021-05-30T03:48:55+00:00

Went into the water, got wet.

Redditgoodaccount · 2021-05-30T07:33:28+00:00

I’m surprised, honestly, the subject “open relationship” is so covered on this sub that its almost a meme.

lordsudbury · 2021-05-30T01:48:49+00:00

Women talking about open relationships or polyamory is only to give them allowance and agency to cheat and receive the attention of other people without feeling guilty. Sorry it happened to you this way

mandathor · 2021-05-30T01:59:39+00:00

if she wanted an open relationship most likely she is already a gonner.... no loss.

you should have realized that an open relationship is much easier for women, and she will very quickly out-dominate you and make you look bad. especially if she doesnt realize that its a lot easier for her to find casual sex partners. you should have told her that game is too hard for you to keep up with and that she should bring women to you at the same rate she fucks other men because the game is not fair... i wouldn't have done it any other way. its not too bad to admit

danaw1992 · 2021-05-30T11:02:08+00:00

Look at all those nerds giving complicated explanations and rationalizing being a cuckhold.As soon as she asked for an open relationship you should have kicked her out.A man can fuck multiple women, a woman cannot.This sub is officially a shit show

lolomotif12 · 2021-05-30T11:22:07+00:00

OP's brain:

"She wants to be in an open relationship and fuck other guys, perfect let me wife this bitch up"

LMAO

danaw1992 · 2021-05-30T10:58:34+00:00

You are a cuck, you are not red pilled at all. No man should do what you did.

g0dfather93 · 2021-05-30T01:07:59+00:00

Obv this was going on for a while.

You do realise that with this observation you've already answered your own question? You already believe she cheated on you - since she's been fucking the other guy before the "OpEn ReLaTiOnShiP" question was popped. Given she fucked a mutual acquaintance 5 days after you said yes - this definitely was a premeditated move.

There is a slim possibility she didn't fuck him before the change in your relationship status, but it was definitely on the cards. Most probably she was DTF, the dude out of respect for you made her ask you for the permission. You should low-key thank the dude IMO.

does anybody have experience how to play this to my advantage?

Yeah, forget about her and move on. I wasn't asked for open relationship shit, but I was asked for a "break" which I agreed to, which then turned into "Imma romance this other dude who conveniently appeared a couple days into the break" so I noped outta there.

ClickKlakk · 2021-05-30T14:09:32+00:00

Look at this for what it is. It’s a blessing in disguise. You can now step back into the dating market with an established plate already at your disposal. Assuming that you don’t fuck up her lingering attraction for you. You should be able to keep her spinning and that should help in the abundance department as you rack up more plates. She sounds like the type to be open to threesomes and other fun experiences I wouldn’t throw that away. Just stop trying to make her something that she’s not.

And be happy about it!

jakeyv123 · 2021-05-30T01:56:39+00:00

This whole thread is pretty stupid. Every mofo is saying she checked out when really she wanted an open relationship. Dont be so gay dude. Open relationships are basically FWBs. See her as a plate or if your oneitis is so bad then hard next. Unlike what every single other dude has said, acknowledge that women are going to be seeing other people, just as you are. You throw all your power away when you act butthurt like this

EDIT: Perfect opportunity for FFM threesomes if your not going to act sad about the situation and if shes bi

bazima · 2021-05-30T10:22:36+00:00

fellas not related to this but is meditation real or just a meme? i tried and it felt like a meme

Anonymous-O · 2021-05-30T16:25:21+00:00

I'm curious, OP. Did she know you hated the guy she slept with? Did you tell her that you hated him and she may have had sex with him out of spite towards you?

redhawkes · 2021-05-30T17:35:30+00:00

When you do open relationships, make sure it's open on your end only.

SeasonedRP · 2021-05-30T19:27:04+00:00

The way you play it is to remove her from your life. You're too wrapped up in her, and her fucking other men will drive you nuts.

PepinoSF · 2021-05-30T23:15:59+00:00

Cuck is the word for your situation. Get rid of her and continue with your life

Title	Open relationship, got fucked
Author	Pharmaki
Upvotes	48
Comments	111
Date	May 29, 2021 8:43 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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