How to get over recent extreme BP behavior?

Coldsteelforreal · 2021-05-26T12:57:48+00:00

First of all, don't apologise to anyone here for being Beta. Society encourages it and most of the time men grow up in a household that nurtures it. It's not by chance that most men lack an alpha mentality.

Here's some Do's

- Read the sidebar and learn

- Get fit and health, it takes time but you have to start. Once you start to see progress, keep going till you reach yoour ideal weight, muscle mass, Body fat % etc.

- Learn to say no. There's no need to be rude or obnoxious. Simply politely decline, you sound like a polite guy and there's little reason to change that. Being alpha doesn't mean being a DICK. It means not being a pushover and going and getting what you want, because that is obviously very important.

- Learn or watch some videos on how to not be a pushover

- Ask question on here to fill in the gaps, it's a internet forum for information, use it with no shame.

Don't

- Don't be saying sorry all the time.

- Don't hate or be angry at women. So many redpillers are mad at women for being women. Honestly, it's in their nature to act in such ways. Just be the smarter man and learn to manipulate their behaviour to your advantages. Sidebar helps here

- Don't give up either.

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-05-26T12:21:26+00:00

You are learning, resolve to not do it again, and stop rethinking it.

Time to next the LTR, you are never going to recover your frame with her and fix the situation. If anything the shit tests you previously failed will get worse going forward.

Hard pass on the relationship. End it. Block and ghost.

Get back to the heaviest workout you can handle, clean diet, career advancement, and self-improvement.

Come back to spinning plates when you are refreshed, have analyzed your lessons, and are feeling ready.

It's that simple.

319Skew · 2021-05-26T15:18:19+00:00

I say this a lot.

Once upon a time, you used to shit yourself and giggle. You don't look back at that and cringe. This isn't much different.

jb3617 · 2021-05-26T12:30:30+00:00

I was in the same boat as you brother. Almost identical relationship.

Took 2 weeks of me feeling sorry for myself and then I started hitting the gym. Have lost 27 pounds so far and my physique is getting better. I was 240 and looked like shit.

I'm focusing on lifting and fitness, my new job, and reading & watching TRP content.

No desire to seek women right now. I just want to be left the fuck alone and work on myself. So far, I'm liking the results. Much better frame of mind, confidence increasing, better outlook on life, etc.

kdsflyfree · 2021-05-26T12:50:59+00:00

Stop all negative self-talk and stop combing through the garbage. You can’t change the past—you can only change the future, starting now.

alphaonthecomeup · 2021-05-26T14:06:27+00:00

These comments are all fire.

Just know that you are you and she is she. You can begin a new relationship and be/ become a new person for someone else. I know you are feeling overwhelmed right now but try to put things into perspective when it becomes too much.

Let this relationship go for a second. She may want to come back , she may not want too. Make sure you are okay regardless.

Keep lifting, go do some traveling, get a massage and go to the sauna. Go to the strip club with the boys and throw some 1s on some hoes.

Get a new perspective

T00kTheRedPill · 2021-05-26T18:03:09+00:00

Bro, just know that the fact you realize your issues and are trying to remedy them put you a lot further above the average NPC. Don’t be too rough on yourself and keep seeking the truth.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2021-05-26T13:20:30+00:00

All we can do is learn from our fuck ups. You now know this was pathetic and you won’t do it again.

Wipe the slate, move forward and be better than you were yesterday.

ILuvRealmOfTheMadGod · 2021-05-26T23:56:03+00:00

I was in almost the exact same situation. I acted pathetic until finally I woke up and understood that if she wanted to be together/friends/cool again then we would be. I am already very physically fit and still in college so no direct opportunity to have a crazy physical or professional glow-up. But, since being out of the relationship I addressed my family’s history of mental health and finally sought the inevitable diagnosis and medication that I had been dreading for years. Still fucking reeling from the last three months but I’ve been able to reflect on myself in a manner that I was too distracted by her to do previously.

whattodo124728 · 2021-05-27T06:51:33+00:00

This is how.. By going through this and recognizing it.. For real we have all been there man, everyone in this sub has probably done some shit like this.. Had their heartbroken by some bitch we put on a pedestal. You process this pain, analyze what went wrong, how you fucked up! She was this person before you met her but you ignored the red flags, tried to force a relationship with someone who isnt relationship material.

Now you are going to be fucking hurt and still want her back.. You might think about how you can prove you are better now and try to contact her etc. Everytime you do this you are making it worse and setting yourself back

Ok so here we are, read the fucking sidebar! You will see this time and time again, why? Because thats where the answers to all the simple questions are, all the lessons you need to learn. Hit the gym! Not only will you look better but you will also feel better. And find new women! This was the key for me.. No matter how much I knew my ex was the worst possible woman to try to tie down I kept telling myself " she was so fun, she was so sexy, no body will connect with me like her".. And then i started talking to and dating other women.. Now I would laugh in my exes face if she came back because im forming an abundance mentality. Do I want to LTR any of these girls? No but hey they are fun in one day or any other and sexy at that.. I realize doing this I will eventually meet someone I can fall in love with again. Only this time I wont settle because I have experience.

Chin up bro.. Go through the emotions.. Its natural and normal.. It hurts but you will be ok.. Dont feel ashamed of yourself right now.. Be proud that you were able to care so much for someone and that you got to experience all of it, now move on. You wont even remember her a year from now.

drkinferno72 · 2021-05-26T15:29:53+00:00

Don’t do it again

Brennelement · 2021-05-26T17:37:54+00:00

The hardest part is over, accepting the difficult things about your past you want to change. It’s time to wipe the slate clean, start working on yourself, and gradually improving. No one can change overnight, but if you keep focused on who you want to be 6 months or a year from now, you’ll see measurable change.

Whatever you do, don’t dwell too much on the past. Just periodically check if you’re a better person than yesterday, if so keep it up and stay focused.

whattodo124728 · 2021-05-27T06:54:51+00:00

This is how.. By going through this and recognizing it.. For real we have all been there man, everyone in this sub has probably done some shit like this.. Had their heartbroken by some bitch we put on a pedestal. You process this pain, analyze what went wrong, how you fucked up! She was this person before you met her but you ignored the red flags, tried to force a relationship with someone who isnt relationship material.

Now you are going to be fucking hurt and still want her back.. You might think about how you can prove you are better now and try to contact her etc. Everytime you do this you are making it worse and setting yourself back

Ok so here we are, read the fucking sidebar! You will see this time and time again, why? Because thats where the answers to all the simple questions are, all the lessons you need to learn. Hit the gym! Not only will you look better but you will also feel better. And find new women! This was the key for me.. No matter how much I knew my ex was the worst possible woman to try to tie down I kept telling myself " she was so fun, she was so sexy, no body will connect with me like her".. And then i started talking to and dating other women.. Now I would laugh in my exes face if she came back because im forming an abundance mentality. Do I want to LTR any of these girls? No but hey they are fun in one day or any other and sexy at that.. I realize doing this I will eventually meet someone I can fall in love with again. Only this time I wont settle because I have experience.

Chin up bro.. Go through the emotions.. Its natural and normal.. It hurts but you will be ok.. Dont feel ashamed of yourself right now.. Be proud that you were able to care so much for someone and that you got to experience all of it, now move on. You wont even remember her a year from now.

Title	How to get over recent extreme BP behavior?
Author	rapefuel
Upvotes	12
Comments	26
Date	May 26, 2021 11:59 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/nlf8bv/how_to_get_over_recent_extreme_bp_behavior/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/how-to-get-over-recent-extreme-bp-behavior.775599 https://theredarchive.com/post/775599

Comments