It happened. He texted.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-08T18:46:18+00:00

I’m still finding myself thinking of the good times even though he has put me through so much shit in the last 13 years (on and off).

intermittent reinforcement. after the breakup with a narcissist, our brain goes through withdrawals similar to drugs. you will oscillate between hating him and missing him. our brain has a tendency to forget the bad and remember the good. it's a defense mechanism. do reading on NPD, go no contact by blocking & deleting this person, even change your email and phone number if it's possible. it will help with keeping no contact.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-06-08T21:07:29+00:00

I mean, have you just considered not meeting him at all? Closure is a myth. If you’re married, just send divorce papers. No need to waste more time on him and give him an opening to manipulate you again.

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-06-08T18:44:13+00:00

Cancel, block, delete

glittersparklesglitz · 2021-06-08T18:38:54+00:00

Cancel

azureangel35 · 2021-06-08T20:45:48+00:00

he won't end it hon-they never do. it will be hard and there's absolutely no rule you have to do it in person (he'll try to make you think after 13 years we owe it to ourselves to do it in person-it's utter bullshit). I refused to see my narc because I doubted I'd be strong enough to break up if I did. Now, over a year out, I shudder to think of how much time I'd have wasted had I got sucked back in. Good luck, stay strong, life will be so much better without him-promise.

elainejay82 · 2021-06-08T19:28:24+00:00

Edit: OH, I see your other comments about meaning that it's over. Yay! Almost had a heart attack on this one.

I would maybe just do emails for the business side of things. You don't have to see him and courts find emails the most official use of proof (it is better than texting).

Nah nah nah nopity nope nope nope. Discussion is over and it's too late. He lost you (the prize).

You have moved out, broken it off, and it's now over.

What you meant to say is, "This talk won't be happening ever because I left his ass, it's too late, I'm gone, and he screwed up to the point of no return." Fixed it for you!

FrenchHeel · 2021-06-09T13:05:02+00:00

Stay strong! You will come out of this rough part of your life a better, happier person and your kids too. You can do this.

europoor24 · 2021-06-08T18:58:40+00:00

Good luck!! you can do this!

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Title	It happened. He texted.
Author	QueasyEducation5
Upvotes	114
Comments	20
Date	June 8, 2021 6:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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