As the wife of a guy that found red pill sometime around two years ago, I'm stumped at the moment. I understand it comes from a place of trying to help our marriage, so I feel his heart's in the right place. He's been lifting and trying to apply dread, he also helps a ton with the kids. The kids are the heart of our relationship now that he's found red pill, but I dont understand why he would be trying to red pill me..? I'm a lady with a HL that enjoys him very much, as often as his libido brings it up (so to speak). I'm faithful, always have been, for twenty years, and proud of that. My libido skyrocketed right about when I turned forty, and I was open and honest about it with him. I understand that guys use red pill to get their wives back in bed, but I seriously have almost never said no. I don't haunt him for it but he knows that I'm eager and available. But, I did say no the last time he suggested it. He was getting ready to leave us indefinitely to go help a relative with health issues, and rushed around for days getting ready.. then brought up sex last minute like- oh maybe we should do this before I go. It felt like I was at the bottom of his to-do list and it honestly hurt my feelings and didn't feel at all sexy, so I said no. He comes back nearly half a year later, during which time he hardly contacts me at all (Not even to wish me a Happy Mothers Day), and now he won't touch me. Left me on my own with the kids during quarantine, with no other adult contact, wouldn't even hug me when he got back, denying me even just basic human touch. I'd never ask a man to choose between his family, and his wife and kids, and I didn't. I just supported his decision as best I could even though it was honestly really, really, hard. Please help me understand why he'd be freezing me out. Cutting off sex and touch feels like some kind of mind-gamey red pill control thing, but honestly I cant figure out what he's trying to "punish' me for, and it doesn't seem like he's actually able to tell me with his words. I believe that he still finds me attractive, and I saw him adjusting himself out of the corner of my eye when I was eating a popsicle, so I don't think it's a physical problem. Any idea what might be up? What issues would have you withholding sex/touch/affection from your wife in your relationship? I'm pretty puzzled and not getting any kind of answer from him. If this is a hamster wheel thing, what could he be trying to get out of me with it that isn't already available? He's been home for a month, no nothing, no touching, no talking beyond casual conversation, but still talking about our plans for the future and fixing up the place, so I don't think he's leaving me either. When I asked him why he doesn't sleep in our bed, he told me that A) the bed hurts his back and that B).......(went silent and left the room). I'm stumped.