Treat Your HVW Friends Like the Queens They Are

proudpine · 2021-07-05T22:12:07+00:00

Amen 👏🏼 amen 👏🏼 amen 👏🏼

My latest goal is to do one nice thing for a woman every day. A friend, colleague, family member or stranger - whether it be a compliment or a kind word, baked goods, a gift, offering to pick them something up at Starbucks…you get the idea.

BadPlaceAlmondMilk · 2021-07-05T23:51:39+00:00

I recently wrote about this elsewhere on the sub, but my core group of friends hasn't been so important in establishing my standards for all kinds of relationships. They're all incredibly intelligent, driven, and compassionate. We all prioritize each other, and the lines of communication are open and clear. Never would one of us go over to someone's house without asking what they need, even if it's the most casual lazy hangout. We don't necessarily spend money on each other, but the friendship is never transactional, and everyone meets their part of the social contract.

How am I supposed to compromise after this? There's no drama, lots of mutual respect, genuine care for one another. Why would I accept shitty friends in my life? And why in the name of God would I ever date someone who cares about me less than my platonic friends do? I never ever want to return to a transactional tit for tat friendship again, not of any type. That's really become my standard: if you care about me as much as my friends do, you're welcome to leave. But that's the bare minimum.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-07-06T02:02:43+00:00

100% and try not to judge women who are caught in the patriarchal matrix. Never look down on another women because of her circumstances.

We are all trying to exist in the matrix that is actively working against us.

Also - if you are a woman who has privileges - it is your responsibility to lift up other women.

FirePreferred_theOG · 2021-07-05T23:14:24+00:00

YES!!!! Love it. You become and embody the love that is all around you and nurture the HVW in your life.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-07-06T02:21:57+00:00

I hope that in the near future I have HVW friends!! I was actually thinking today about how I would love to have these kinds of friends so I can treat them to a meal at a nice restaurant, buy them gifts once in a while, and bake them some sweet treats. 💕

Mighty_Wombat42 · 2021-07-06T02:26:36+00:00

Love this! In high school, my friends and I used to have “friend dates” on Fridays where we would go to a free/cheap concert, art show, or just order a pizza and watch a movie or something, but the point was to find something nice that we thought each other would appreciate and make a point of spending time together.

Currently, my best friend and I live pretty far from each other and we’re both students so we don’t have a ton of money but we will regularly buy or make each other things and send them in the mail, just to show we’re thinking about each other. Why would I be impressed by a coffee date when my friend spends more than that just on postage to send me an actually thoughtful gift?

PeachPitiless · 2021-07-06T00:50:49+00:00

I have some wonderful friends who treat me like gold and vice versa. That's another reason why men so often fall short, they won't even treat me as well as my friends treat me.

megan03 · 2021-07-06T03:23:43+00:00

Hallelujah! I’m literally going on a vacay with my girls to Hawaii in a week! We’re 30-something year old queens and we’re gonna be drinking out of coconuts on the beach soon! I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Thelimitdoes · 2021-07-06T15:40:33+00:00

This! I got rid of my toxic fake friend group but when I makes new friends I want this type of love, depth and friendship.

macabrasive · 2021-07-06T16:42:37+00:00

Heck. Yes.

My solid girl friend and I go do stuff together like taking each other for dinner, celebrating our wins and boundaries, vetting prospective dates for another, celebrating career wins, discussing investments, making vision boards 👑

It’s a lot more relaxing than the friends I had who had zero career or life goals, echoing out “But I love him!!”

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