Girl's Parents Want to Talk to Me 1 on 1

PraetereoBonobos · 2016-12-25T06:12:58+00:00

You don't need to apologize for shit. Personally I don't waste time meeting family, there is to much potential baggage, and it shows a high level of commitment. You seem to be in a case of complacency, you don't want commitment but you are not actively searching for new poon and are slowly being pushed into things you don't want to do. Being that you're young I would just phase this chick out and forget about the whole thing but if you insist on having these talks(there will be more, and more demands) I would respectfully tell them what you two do in your bedroom is none of their damn concern.

MoneyAndHoneys · 2016-12-25T06:18:49+00:00

they're fucking nuts and i'd avoid them

to me, one of the scariest things in this world is smart people who follow a religion

and to add to that, this is a power talk scenario. they want to attempt to lay ground rules for YOU to follow

just keep fucking the daughter and be your own man. if they want to come to you, they can talk sports or weather in passing

inspiron3000 · 2016-12-25T11:44:26+00:00

They want to talk to you.
This is all about what they want.

They want to talk to you, not with you.

You do not have to talk with them. You do not have to give them anything. You're not asking for their approval. You do not need it.

They don't own her. They don't own you. You don't owe them anything.

Protect your privacy and respect your GFs privacy by not giving them anything personal.

LLL3peat · 2016-12-25T08:07:43+00:00

Why are you letting her parents talk to you about YOUR relationship. I don't see the need for you to talk to them period unless you plan on putting a ring on it. Decline the offer for the meeting. Do what you want. You sound like you are forced into this meeting. Refuse the offer and the girl will chase you more.

Relationship is between 2 people. Not their family. That's her job to deal with them, not yours

Heathcliff-- · 2016-12-25T09:32:39+00:00

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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.4474

What is this?

Nyquil-Junkie · 2016-12-25T19:18:33+00:00

Quite honestly if you can find an ex mormon support sub reddit they would be much better informed to tell you whats on dads mind and what sort of horror show you are in for.

Velebit · 2016-12-25T12:30:40+00:00

In the end most of the guys here are because they get used/abused/ignored by females. Your situation is reaaaally different, thereby all this PUA, alpha manosphere bs you will hear is honestly not for this situation. However all of us are here to improve our lives and hopefully find someone who makes us happy. If this girls makes you happy, if you can imagine your life with her in the long run... maybe, just maybe you could ignore the pop-culture feminized (school, than college, than career, than marriage) bs and look at how humans have done it successfully for ages.

Facts are, couples who start young and are sexually exclusive to each other have massively better outcomes (hugely less divorce, cheating and happier overall) than those who had multiple partners (especially girls, for men it's less of an impact), than it depends on the upbringing, she obviously has those family values instilled in her but has broken them for you... (unless you are not her first one) it is very reasonable for them to want to talk to them because any responsible parent would want to save her child from damaging promiscuity and hopefully nudge your relationship into something that will not end up damaging this girl (and to a lesser extent you) and maybe turn it into a solution.

Religion is irrelevant here and I doubt they will push for conversion and making you religious. I can see him just having a reasonable talk with you and hopefully finding out you actually love her and this could become, not immediately but eventually a permanent thing.

I know it seems like you will miss out on a lot of things and who are these weird people trying to make you into a churchzombie but, trust me, that I-wanna-fuck-all mentality after a while becomes something you would gladly exchange for a girl you could actually be happy with and exert much less effort into keeping than when you get at 30 and all that are left are used up cumsluts that see you as a wallet. It would suck to look back on this later on in your life as a wasted opportunity at something rare and special. At least go for the conversation and try to be open minded, not for her but for yourself.

Nyquil-Junkie · 2016-12-25T16:50:28+00:00

Unless you and she plan to run far far away together, I strongly suggest you avid any entanglements and involvements with the Mormon community. They will suck you dry financially and if you cross them they will ruin you professionally and personally. If you both are serious she needs to leave the church, but I doubt she will and risk being cut off by friends family and community.

Trust me Jr...... stay a safe distance from the Mormons.

soccerbum312 · 2016-12-25T17:53:21+00:00

These parents are trying to do all the work for your girlfriend and get you locked down.

harkrank · 2016-12-25T21:58:49+00:00

You've got some solid responses already, but I want to add to it anyway.

Remember that you are the prize. Your value is x10 000 of the girl's value, yet her parents are trying to manipulate you into thinking the opposite. You owe them absolutely nothing, in fact they've fucked up majorly already in their handling of this situation.

What should have been expected in this situation is their parents being nothing but nice to you. Their daughter has already been deflowered, that is her responsibility and their responsibility, if they expect strangers to refrain from her they are deluded. They already fucked up by trying to stop your relationship, they should instead fight tooth and nail to try to make you stay with their daughter since that would be the best future they can hope for her.

Since they're not it means they are being manipulative and downright dirty people. A man never converts to the religion of the woman. If they are religious they should know this. They are trying to manipulate you because you are young, don't let them even try. You have absolutely nothing to apologize for.

They should have their talks with their daughter and not with you.

Be very aware of these snakes.

speed3_freak · 2016-12-25T15:16:46+00:00

Food for thought:

This sub isn't the best for navigating your current situation. This isn't about seduction, holding frame, or bettering yourself, it's about a set of parents trying to protect their 18 year old daughter from a situation they think is bad for her. You aren't going to strong arm them, walk out, or power trip them and improve your situation. There isn't any way you're going to get them to leave the meeting and say, "welp, I guess he was right."

You could either do what this sub says about dealing with the public; tell them what they want/expect to hear and do what you want to do anyway. The issue with that is if you really like this chick eventually they'll find out and now you're a lier too.

My advice, go into the situation knowing that they have no power over you. Kind of like being a parent, once the kid finds out you really don't have the power to really do anything then it's game over. Second, be respectful. This is their daughter and they have a lot invested in her. Take your most prized possession x1000 and think of it in the hands of someone who you don't think is going to take care of it. Also, if somewhere down the line you do make the long term commitment, you want to have a good relationship with them. Listen to what they have to say with open ears. Religion aside, they have more life experience than you and I would suppose raised at least one pretty good kid. You don't have to do what they tell you, but you should listen and think about why they're saying it. Lastly, be willing to nuke it. If they're not respectful of you or tell you they want you to break it off, tell them you will but you'll tell them you'll make it clear that it was them and not her that ruined her relationship. An 18 year old girl who gets dumped because of her parents is going to be pissed, plus it'll show her that you're willing to walk and have abundance mentality. Either she'll beg to keep seeing you or she won't tell the next guy when her parents want a sit down.

Bottom line, if you want this to end well and plan on anything long term with you, you want her parents to like you. A real alpha is the type of guy the dad wants to be friends with and the mom wants to fuck. Parents not liking you can eat at a relationship. That's why in the future it's best not to meet families unless you're really serious.

MattyAnon · 2016-12-25T15:36:09+00:00

Yeah, nod and smile and do the bear minimum to get through this. Commit to nothing, but say reassuring things about loving and caring for their daughter. But don't commit to anything they can hold against you later.

Don't let her give in to family pressure and get pregnant - this is a distinct possibility given her family.

"we are having safe sex and sex before marriage isn't something that we practice in my family. I understand a

You want more like "our intimate life is a private matter between us and I don't feel comfortable discussing this with someone else". (Frankly it's fucking rude of them to even ask!)

a_regular · 2016-12-25T06:56:50+00:00

Tell them whatever they want to hear and keep hookin up with her if its worth the trouble to you.

SpinPlates · 2016-12-26T00:22:53+00:00

That's hilarious. Don't waste your time witj that nonsense.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-12-26T05:24:47+00:00

OK, don't expect this to last long term. She needs to leave the cult and distance herself from her parents first.

Mormon

Your choice is to either blow her dad's white knight cock on the regular, until you provide him with grandkids like a good little church boy.

Or ignore them completely. Talking to people this heavily delusional won't accomplish a thing.Her control freak parents have nothing of value to offer you whatsoever.

Do not talk to them under any circumstances. If they try to pull some serious harassing shit, call the police.

You're doing her a favor by giving her parents the finger. She's not likely to cut those apron strings quite yet but at least she knows defying them is a viable option.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-12-25T08:35:57+00:00

It's been a fun ride, and it's a shame that you don't get to continue with this relationship, but it's over. It was a fun ride.

InBaggingArea · 2016-12-25T06:47:07+00:00

Best to just tell them that your interest in her is purely carnal, even if that's not true.

If they can't accept your refreshing honesty, then you could try making them feel ashamed of themselves for what they are trying to do to you.

That should confuse them long enough for you to make it out alive.

Title	Girl's Parents Want to Talk to Me 1 on 1
Author	MoneyAndHoneys
Upvotes	21
Comments	50
Date	December 25, 2016 5:41 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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