How can some men be like this?

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July 3, 2018
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Guy at work asked me for money a few weeks ago...I don't remember for something to do with his daughter anyways long story short I gave it to him.He told me it would be the last time a week later he asks me and tell him no.

The week after that he ignores me and doesn't even look in my direction,However by the end of the week guess what? He asks me for more money.I obviously don't respond and walk off.

Two weeks later he returns to work from a long hiatus and guess what?He tells me he's all caught up on bills and wants me to help him "hustle" This guy is so fucking pathetic,I found out he's also been going around collecting money from others as well.

Maybe its my fault for being too much of a nice guy.I just don't understand as a man how you can beg someone you don't even really know for money especially at a place you work at..


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Title How can some men be like this?
Author icykid298
Upvotes 72
Comments 40
Date 03 July 2018 10:20 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/809
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8vr3lt/how_can_some_men_be_like_this/
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[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen286 points287 points  (2 children) | Copy

Because guys like you give it to them

[–]Aesthetic_God__36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid.

[–]allyoursmylove2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

if you cant afford to keep your money you deserve to lose it.

[–]Morphs_93 points94 points  (0 children) | Copy

Consider it a learning fee.

Most people get in financial problems for a reason: because they are shit with money. And because they are shit with money, they won't pay you back.

I mean, it's a dude from work for Christ sakes. Just tell him "well go work some more fucking hours, you lazy piece of shit".

[–]1redhawkes75 points76 points  (3 children) | Copy

Repeated favors become obligations.

[–]L1amas9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hah, words of wisdom right here. A good mooch is someone who will take money from you and act like he's the one doing you a favor.

[–]spssps4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck, this is good

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's what you tell a girl who has sucked your dick 10 times, but doesn't want to do it on the 11th.

[–]Borsao6625 points26 points  (3 children) | Copy

[–]maxofreddit[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid

[–]UncleChido2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha. Great advice.

[–]AshyBoneVR41 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's so much God damn gold in this movie. And people wonder why so many people grew up wanting to be gangsters.

[–]The__Tren__Train12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

sounds like he might have a drug problem

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

long story short I gave it to him

Because people like you bend over backwards to get fucked over.

I found out he's also been going around collecting money from others as well.

Imagine that.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are always sharks in the water. You are surprised that he exist but I am more surprised that people like you exist. NOW, i dont know how much he asked for... 10 bucks vs. 100 bucks.... I'd have no problem lending someone lunch money b/c they forgot something, but anything over lunch money wouldnt get my attention.

If i felt super nice that day, i might walk him to a bank and help him ask the teller "for a loan"

[–]mrHappyPotatoe17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

It was really ok giving him money. Tho for anyone there should be limit how much you are willing to lend or give. And you were also ok not giving him anymore since he didnt pay back.

You know this saying. Keep your friends rich and keep your enemies rich. Then wait and see which is which.

[–]Aesthetic_God__4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with this, most than any other comment here.

[–]icykid298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's collecting money from 3 other guys at work. I don't think the other three guys are aware he's going around collecting money from people.I was thinking about bringing it to their attention or would that be doing alittle to much? I was just going to stay out of it,but It kinda bugs me that's been doing this.

[–]bannedfromWTFmod2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unless it's for gas money to get them home or buying them lunch if they are broke and dont have food, they can go bum on the corner of a busy intersection if they need money thhaaaaaaat bad, or they could get a second job.

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

want to make a friend... then, make a friend.

want to lose a friend... loan them money.

[–]MaliciousMack1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not everyone is built to be independent. Sad, but true.

[–]buddboy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I say good on you for giving him the benefit of the doubt and trying to help him, and good on you for not doing again when you learned he was a fuck

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe its my fault for being too much of a nice guy.

This wasn't nice, this was weak. He asked and you gave. This means you lose and he wins.

I just don't understand as a man how you can beg someone you don't even really know for money especially at a place you work at..

It makes a lot more sense than someone who would hand over money in this situation.

[–]shadowq81 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get a bat, ask for your money back.

If not given back apply force using bat.

[–]1matrixtospartanatLV0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What you learn from this is:

The solution to their problem isn’t money, because their real problem isn’t a lack of money.

When people ask me for money, I tell them to find another job.

It’s worked so far on 5 out of 7 kids.

[–]ThinSpiritual0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Story time..

During the last 2014 world cup, a bunch of my friends started betting and we got pulled into this chat group.

James was one of my old friend that I've not met in over a decade (we live in different cities). He was really into soccer betting and apparently lost a few grands. Out of my surprise, Jame managed to borrow $5k from another friend of mine (Jack) in the chat group (they don't know each other prior to chatting and betting together in the chat group). Guess what happened, James went AWOL, he didn't quit the group, nor delete anyone. He just went radio silent and Jack never got his $5k back.

Jack tried to blame it on me. "I just thought he's your friend from childhood and he seemed solid." Well ya, and you're just a dumb rich dude, FFS I haven't met this guy since middle school. I was shocked too, but till this date, James still blames me.

Guess what's our hot topic during this world cup.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jack tried to blame it on me. "I just thought he's your friend from childhood and he seemed solid."

"Yeah, Jack-he's my friend because I never lent him money!"

[–]atlastic10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Knew a girl that did this, she was an alcoholic though. Had to play along as friends until I got my money back. Lesson learned.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe he spends his money on gambling, prostitutes and other addictions. Guys have issues like that.

[–]1ForeverNandrolone0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Evolution hasn’t had the time to make us much different than the cave men we were 25000 years ago.

Do you think that back 25000 years ago that everyone was a hardworking son of a bitch? Or is it possible that there’s a certain type of individual who was a lying, stealing, raping son of a bitch who managed to pass on his shitty DNA by mooching off the more industrious cavemen? Yeah, you met one of those guys.

Evolution doesn’t care how you pass your DNA along, it just uses which ever way works. So there is always going to be certain individuals who are complete pieces of shit no matter what we do as a society to stop it. It’s the human condition.

[–]Senior ContributorMentORPHEUS0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Neither a lender nor borrower be.

Tell the grifter you're ready to be repaid the money you lent him. He'll probably not pay and try to make you out to be the bad guy. Probably a good time to compare notes with others he's borrowed from, spread the word about his behavior, and make a borrowing-pariah out of him at this entire workplace.

People who go broke in a big way never miss any meals. It is the poor jerk who is shy a half slug who must tighten his belt. -Robert Heinlein

[–]icykid298[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

One of the guys he's borrowing money from is alittle mentally disabled I would tell him,but I don't think he would even understand me.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

One of the guys he's borrowing money from is alittle mentally disabled

LOL, I think ALL of them are!

[–]kenlejeune0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Givers should set limits cause takers rarely do.

[–]Black_m0ngoose0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stranger: "can you do me a favor?"

Me: "yeah, for money."

Default answer, although I'm a rare breed.


When someone approaches me that looks like a bum, normally they ask for money.

"Excuse me, sir..."

"Nope."

"But you didn't even hear what I had to say!"

"Doesn't matter, the answer is no."

"God bless you, sir!" He replied with a sneer.

Don't care if they're asking for the time.

Don't care if they're asking for directions.

Don't care if they need to use my phone.

Exercise your use of the word NO.

Make it the default to any request starting out, and it'll be hard as hell for anyone to take advantage of you.

[–]JohnDick2k0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just don't lend anyone money, unless it's your family member or a really, and I mean REALLY close friend that needs immediate help, and you know there are slim chances that he'll pay you back.

[–]TheIcePill-5 points-4 points  (4 children) | Copy

This has nothing to do with gender.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP is asking about men specifically.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Of course it does; if a chick with big tits asks to borrow money from me, she'll get it. If a dude with big tits asks to borrow money from me, he won't get it.

[–]icykid298[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Explain to me why not?



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