This isn't about dating but this sub has given me a boost in confidence over boundaries. I have been in therapy for this last year understanding the family dynamics and trauma I have endured. My therapist and I have spent a good portion of my sessions with me learning how to establish and maintain boundaries. I have stopped talking to my step mother last June. My father says he understands but think that since we have a good relationship that I should talk to her just because she is his wife.

Back story, my step brother abused me when we were younger and my step mother did not believe it and spent YEARS trying to get me to attend parties with him and forgive his abuses. FUCK THAT. My therapist said that I have tried to talk to her many times and eventually cutting her off was the best decision. My mental health sky rocketed. However, I still hear about her from my father. This past Wednesday was her BDAY and my father texted me saying that he knows my step mother and I have differences and asked me to text her for her birthday and that it would mean a lot to her.

My father is an LVM with terrible boundaries and my step mother is insecure and wants to be included in my relationship with my father. I just don't know if I should cut him off too. Family stuff is hard.