My original reply for this post for Why You're Not Married was to in depth for a single reply so I've made it a separate post.

While the reasoning in this article is sound, it's still very flawed.

For Background The two most impressive women I've ever known are Francis and MJ, my grandmother was Francis, and the other is my mother MJ. When I consider the sum total of their skills and then casually look at what skills the modern empowered^TM women have it's quite appalling and very disappointing. While these two women's wide range of talents wouldn't be expected or demanded by men today, it's certainly impressive, and WILL IMPRESS any high quality man around, because THAT is what they are really looking at, far more than just your cup size.

Francis started as a candy striper, which should clue you in to her age, and she retired as the senior nurse of the regional hospital having NEVER gone to high school, and with only a very rural education. Francis canned, could sew, quilt, and literally made pasta, bread, cheese, ice cream, and butter from scratch. Francis also cooked and cleaned EVERYTHING in the house daily on top of her full time position at the hospital, and I maybe heard her complain about things a few times a year. She could operate any type of farm equipment and kept a large garden her entire life, she helped operate a FULL SIZE FARM and never had a dishwasher, or modern washer & dryer. The last picture we have of Francis before she died was taken while she darned socks. She married ONE MAN and never cheated or divorced. Francis' husband was as mean as a rattlesnake dipped in boiling caster oil, on his better days, and the man whom she reverently and with absolute sincere deep love called "the best man on earth" until the day she died.

Then we have MJ, who was a beauty queen turned hairdresser who married an alcoholic and had 3 boys, which she kept together for 15 years. Yes she was a single mother for a time and past the wall, but she worked three jobs, all minimum wage, and NOT ONCE to this day has MJ ever shown disdain or lied about her ex-husband, and blamed the marital demise totally on him. MJ sure could have talked him down over the years, but she never did. While MJ is candid about what happened, she never prevented any of us from seeing our father, and went out of her way to make sure we could and did. She drove a dump truck, can do masonry, and knows her way around a barn just like Francis does, still has a smallish garden, can cook, clean, and sew just as well as Francis also. She went without a dishwasher until the early 80's and dressed EXTREMELY FEMININE and never once have I seen her show too much skin or overtly flaunt her assets, and hers are considerable. That was all done with second hand clothes she got from garage sales, so wasting money was never something she did.

She was a teen model that Cindy Crawfor could learn a few things from, and to this day is still built like one, though she is much older know. She got married again and was with Cecil for 37 YEARS and fought every relative, any doctor or nurse, and every legal battle there was to keep him alive and comfortable until the very end. The dedication, devotion, and INCREDIBLE SACRIFICE she displayed for HER HUSBAND is beyond impressive, and I'm prior special forces so I know a thing or two about that level of dedication to something or someone else. She is the ONLY female I've ever met who can outwork a male, and I learned that from working until 3am at the ponderosa, then we both got up the very next day and went to our regular full time jobs too. Hard work is in her blood, and she is never sitting still.

As for marriage women today all want to GET married, but not one I've met really want's to BE married and that is why all those high value good men^TM are strangely absent from view when you're pushing 30+ with a few kids and a lame degree in media relations that you wasted 100k on.

None of that is an asset to a man, and most consider it extremely detrimental. If commitment is so valuable to women they why do 70%+ file for divorce when by comparison, housework is an absolute breeze with all the modern home appliances. A grand total of ZERO women today need to can, or sew, or bake, and do it all from scratch. Clotheslines are a thing of the past, and dress codes are far less restrictive so WHY WONT HE COMMIT to you?

The answer lies in this single distinction, because a man is fine with BEING married while they are not too keen on GETTING married, and when you add the massive legal, financial, and emotional penalties for modern marriage for him to a woman that will get "bored" be "unhappy" or is suddenly "unfulfilled" to justify throwing it all away in a few short years, the risk/reward ratio for men is completely negative on balance. You can't decorate, cook, clean, sew, can, bake, dress well, write well, barely communicate, manage finances, don't work hard, and then you spend every waking moment staring at your phone...

Is THAT really your winning strategy to catch Mr. Right?

For the article The points raised are solid, but they barely scratch the surface of the problem. It's far more than simply understanding your unique nature, accepting your own mating strategy, and working to manage those. The men have already been doing that for centuries, with the exception of a few outliers who cant adapt to the modern world, men aren't savages anymore. So why do so many women feel that's the way they should be, when there is no reason for it anymore. Condescension isn't an attractive trait, and neither are the oblique daily insults about how undomesticated men are... They did give you the Internet and the swell car you drive, and all those other cool gadgets after all.

If your only real goal is to simply go full on Entitled Disney Princess^TM and GET married then sadly, it isn't going to happen, and if it does you will end up like the articles author. Overly used goods that no man actually needs or wants and way past your expiration date handing out low quality advice. If your only focus is on a "your big day" then you're far past being just a selfish bitch, and well on your way to the dustbin full of regret by being passed over for someone else. Now, if your true goal is to BE married then print this out, post in on your mirror, and follow the example set by two women who ACTUALLY HAVE IT ALL and even more than you would believe if I told you more of their story.

One thing you didn't see these older women ever do was preening in bathroom stalls for selfies, humble bragging about how "creepy" or "gross" the guys who did ask them out were so they could be used for a free dinner or shopping trip, and how 80%+ of the men around them are invisible and not good enough because they didn't get a degree from "Totally worthless U" to hang on the wall. Francis and MJ never went to college, but they both have VERY IMPRESSIVE qualifications and both got selected to be the first mate on the finest ships in the fleet.

They supported their Captains 100% without fail, no matter what until the bitter end, and fought without quarter to keep those ships afloat and in the fight, and they did it all without instagram, pnterest, tumblr, facebook, the Internet, and a dishwasher. I don't text, and neither does MJ, we CALL each other on the phone like adults and talk. Try it sometime, it's fun!

If you want to "BE a wife, then stop thinking about GETTING that commitment, and think much more about BEING someone worth committing too.