Patience

agh_missedit · 2015-10-26T23:46:17+00:00

For me, patience is tied to trust.

Practice trusting others and understanding that people do things differently than you. The best example is when you're riding in a car with your SO. You both know where you're going, but he's taking a different route than you would. If you're impatient you might say something like "take a left here, it's faster."

To be more patient, trust what the other person is doing and understand that it doesn't matter if they take three rights instead of one left. You'll still get there. Don't sweat the small stuff.

When you learn to trust, it frees you up. When you worry or try to control what is uncontrollable, you feel worn out and paranoid. It takes a lot of internal dialog and self-control which doesn't come easily or naturally. I literally have to think about what I'm going to say and evaluate whether I should say it or not. It takes practice and mindfulness.

TempestTcup · 2015-10-27T02:26:25+00:00

I do this, too. You just have to learn to slow down and that everyone doesn't run on you schedule (damn it!). You have to release control; your rushing others is a form of wanting to control your environment and people around you. Take a deep breath and let it go. Go with the flow. Take a chill pill (not literally) :)

always-be-closing · 2015-10-27T02:33:48+00:00

I catch myself doing it because I become very worn out, paranoid, and stressed out a lot.

Take time to meditate in the morning, even if it means waking up a little bit earlier.

Take some time to sit with yourself after you've showered and dressed, and quiet your mind.

Think about what you have to do that day, and how you'll do it. Think about what you want to be sure you do before the day is done, and what you'll need to do to do it. If you start to feel overwhelmed again, take a moment to just sit quietly, then continue.

Really; breathing, each morning, just take some time to think and slow yourself down on get focused.

little_ga_peach · 2015-10-27T15:06:29+00:00

I am a certified over-thinker. What has really helped me out is practicing mindfulness. I recommend downloading the app Stop, Breathe & Think. It's really helpful.

always_theoptimist · 2015-10-27T16:22:02+00:00

That's just what it takes: PRACTICE. When you realize you are stressing about something, force yourself to stop, take a deep breath, and turn your attention to something else. At first the thoughts will keep popping up and you'll have to do this a lot (I remember when I was practicing not overthinking I would literally have to do this every 5-10 minutes when I was having stressful thoughts), but eventually it will become second-nature.

flat-white · 2015-10-28T01:38:49+00:00

Practice by savouring small things! Instead of watching/reading something while you eat, focus wholly on the experience of eating the meal. Or list all the sensory things you notice while taking a shower. Or go stand and look at a beautiful tree for a few minutes rather than driving past it. Anchor your mind to the moment that your body is in, by focusing on sounds, smells, tastes. etc. (I think this is basically mindfulness)

This helps you practice the mindset of appreciating the moment you're in instead of mentally rushing ahead to something else. So when the bigger things you know you want to savour come up, you've already trained your mind how to do it!

SocialIQof0 · 2015-10-30T04:11:48+00:00

meditation. It's the ultimate practice of patience IMHO. It's really, really hard to sit and do nothing for even a few minutes.

Title	Patience
Author	dalls18
Upvotes	13
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Date	October 26, 2015 10:51 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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