Dealing With Jealousy Gracefully

UnrefinedFacade · 2017-02-16T11:25:25+00:00

I'm trying to remember that we are here, we are together, we share a home and cats and a cell phone plan and have been discussing the future.

None of this means he can't emotionally cheat.

They have had some history of sexual roleplay online together that continued on into our relationship. I asked him in November to cease. However, I know he still talks to her frequently on Discord and Snapchat. Like...daily.

If he thinks that is okay in an exclusive relationship I would be concerned what else he would be willing to do if he had the opportunity.

Long story short, I would evaluate whether you really want to marry this person. If the trust is already gone it is incredibly difficult to get that back, and you don't want to spend your life paranoid your partner may cheat. It is not controlling to expect monogamous relationship if that is what you both agreed upon.

Littlewifey · 2017-02-16T13:59:36+00:00

It's not controlling to hamster often cheating, because let's face it, even if he calls it roleplay, it's still a one on one sexual connection with someone else that has no other purpose than to release his sexual tension.

The fact he doesn't understand this and still talks to her daily is bad, he has no remorse or shows no understanding of the impact it had on you. It also doesn't show any kind of respect for you.

Your boyfriend doesn't seem to have a good judgement about boundaries and doesn't seem to be able to enforce them correctly.

A good man will make all he can to make you and only you feel loved, appreciated and protected. Even if you're not a model girlfriend and have your flaws, monogamy is pretty much the simplest of basics in a committed relationship.

loneliness-inc · 2017-02-16T19:28:13+00:00

My boyfriend has a female friend

There's no such a thing

MilkTeaTime · 2017-02-16T21:08:15+00:00

I don't mean to piggyback on someone else's post, but I'm dealing with a similar issue, and Littlewifey's quote struck a chord with me:

Even if you're not a model girlfriend and have your flaws, monogamy is pretty much the simplest of basics in a committed relationship.

My boyfriend has repeatedly told me that I'm not good enough and that it drives him to seek other women online (and sometimes in person). He means both emotionally -- so, when I'm a bitch -- and also physically -- though I'm thin with a flat stomach and extremely feminine, I lack bigger boobs and a toned ass. While I know in my heart that a good man values monogamy and relationships don't really work like this, I've started to internalize this behavior. I love him and want it to work, but this hurts me so much because I feel disrespected and humiliated.

He's a red-pill man, so I thought he might be using some dread game on me, but I confronted him about it, and it doesn't seem to be the case. The jealously is starting to change my behavior, as I get upset or irritated when I hear his text tone or see Skype open. As far as I know, he hasn't had sex with anyone, but has definitely gotten sexual online with people, and I think he'd meet up with someone if given the chance (his caveat is he'd "tell me, though.")

Thoughts or advice? We live together and have been together for about two years.

Title	Dealing With Jealousy Gracefully
Author	kaossfusion
Upvotes	15
Comments	27
Date	February 16, 2017 10:51 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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