How do you "own" your height.

banllama · 2017-05-12T14:57:53+00:00

You own something by not giving a fuck about it. Not by trying too hard to compensate. You've heard of short men having "Napoleon complex" where they try to act high and mighty because they're short.

nor do I even talk my height with girls I'm interested in

This is the correct response. You don't acknowledge it because you don't care because you are secure in yourself as a person that height is the last thing on your mind.

Yea it's tough, sorry dude.

Docbear64 · 2017-05-12T15:07:08+00:00

I know a guy who's 5'6 who consistently pulls women . He does this by not giving a fuck . if you are physically 5'6 but have an attitude that is much larger / interesting than other men then your height becomes irrelevant . There are dudes over 6 feet out there who can't keep a chick and it's not because of their height .

CPAlifter · 2017-05-12T16:08:41+00:00

Hey OP. I have a friend that is 5'6" and has never let it affect him. He is swole af and shredded during the summer time. He is in Law school and a majority of the girls he has fucked or dated have been 2-3 inches taller than him. DO NOT let your height affect your life bro, just focus on improving everything about yourself. So hit that gym, eat right, focus on your career or school, or whatever is important and make your life great, then in your free time hang out with your boys and game women.

refusewool · 2017-05-12T16:12:52+00:00

Wear it like armour and no one can use it against you.

boscoist · 2017-05-12T17:30:19+00:00

Someone said, don't get a napoleon complex. Alternatively, get at least a napoleon hat and play it off on your profile. It might work, should be disarming at very least. let me know if it works

canadianbacon22 · 2017-05-12T15:53:53+00:00

So your height is an insecurity for you. By owning your height, you no longer treat it as an insecurity for you. In the Shit Test 101, or some content in the sidebar, I remember that there was a shit test specifically about height.

Remember, you're the prize.

mrpoopistan · 2017-05-12T17:25:36+00:00

You're already buying into a frame where your entire existence is about height. How can you ever succeed?

I've watched guys do this with a million different traits. Skin color, socioeconomic status, build, etc, etc.

I wouldn't say you have to own it. I'd say you have to move the fuck beyond it. Find the reasons you're worthwhile.

Human beings will suck anyone's ass clean if they think that person has status.

CPAlifter · 2017-05-12T19:00:59+00:00

Yeah he is pretty damn confident and just one of those guys that's fun to be around when you go out drinking. I'm not saying every girl he's banged was taller, but his current girlfriend is 5'8". I was just saying that height does not have to be an issue. If you're not into taller girls then don't, snag you a sexy little curvy chick that's 5'3".

jb_trp · 2017-05-12T19:08:55+00:00

"You need to own your height."

Just stop caring about it as an issue. Sure, women are superficial and love tall men, and you can't change what they might like or your height, but you can change your attitude. Confidence is sexy.

I've plated plenty women who were taller than me. I'm 5'7 (well, 5'7.5"), and I've gone out with women who were 5'9, 5'10, 6'0, even a former college volleyball player who was 6'2. Stop caring about it as an issue and many women will do the same.

If you're on Tinder, swipe right on every girl who mentions her height, because... Fuck 'em. Try to plate the tallest girl you can. It'll do a lot for your frame just to go for it and not give a damn, even if you fail. If they make fun of you for your height, laugh in their faces and tell them you didn't think it was a big deal, because you were overlooking that they had a few extra lbs. Don't ever ask a girl how tall she is or even bring it up. If the girl brings it up, make fun of them (in a nice/funny way): "Really? I didn't even notice. I guess I must just always look down on you in my head."

Only care about the things that you can control. Everything else isn't worth giving two shits.

SexistFlyingPig · 2017-05-12T20:50:35+00:00

If you're using a dating site, your height doesn't match any girl's laundry list of requirements. So it can be a very real reason as to why you don't START with women. But it shouldn't hold you back from succeeding with a woman you've already met.

I had a friend that I can only describe as "unfortunate" looking. He was scrawny, hairy in all the wrong places and hairless in all the wrong places. He was getting zero dates based on looks alone. But he was a really cool guy. He had lots of interests. He read a ton and loved to talk about anything you might be interested in. Since he was so well read, he actually understood and had interesting things to say about just about everything. Once you got over the initial shock of how bad looking he was, he was a great friend. He was far more successful with girls than his looks gave him any right to be. Mostly because he was so interesting.

There are lots of girls who just simply won't see you as a man unless you're at least 4 inches taller than them. If you're 5'5", then your dating pool is 5'1" and below. Lucky for you there are lots of girls in that range. So now, all you have to do is lift so your body looks good and read so you know things and have interesting things to talk about.

It's easy to make an excuse that your height is what's holding you back, but I suspect it's more than that. Man up! You got this bro!

mordanus · 2017-05-13T00:47:02+00:00

It means that they have no idea what it means to be you and the answer to someone else's problems is always simple. If you're depressed people tell you to try being happy. If youre unemployed people tell you to just get a job. It's always easier looking at someone's problems from the outside.

Being short is a huge disadvantage in the dating world and to get past it you need to do much better in the other areas of attraction. One way to deal with it is to get a better sense of humor about it. Stop caring if you fail due to it. Most men fail with women for one reason or another anyway.

Title	How do you "own" your height.
Author	Snazzy_Serval
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Date	May 12, 2017 2:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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